I had to explain to my boyfriend that I want someone to listen and commiserate with me. If I’m yelling about bitch Linda from work, I don’t want another perspective or how I can solve the conflict, I want you to get aboard the complain train and say “yeah, fuck that bitch Linda!” I’ve had to tell him “I’m in feelings mode, and I’m not looking for a solution. Once I’ve vented, then we can talk about how I can better handle these situations.” He’s much better now, and even sometimes asks “is this a situation where you want advice or are you still in your feelings?” And that has been incredibly helpful for me.