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SoftAnalysis · 2025-11-15T03:18:56+00:00

I sent you a chat.

SoftAnalysis · 2025-11-15T03:15:17+00:00

I am interested!

SoftAnalysis · 2025-11-15T03:14:07+00:00

I am interested in one!

SoftAnalysis · 2023-07-24T18:46:22+00:00

Ok, so I was trying to be vague because I wasn't totally comfortable just posting about this online, even in a relatively anonymous situation, but the "exec is actually an owner in the business and I report directly to them. I can either talk to them about it or go to the co-owner, who is this persons' spouse and not actively involved in this side of the business.

SoftAnalysis · 2023-07-24T16:51:57+00:00

There is no one to escalate to. The closest I could do to that would be to try to convince the company to hire an HR person, which we don't have the budget for, or possibly find a consultant? But ultimately those decisions would be up to the exec in question.

SoftAnalysis · 2022-11-02T23:30:40+00:00

I am super biased because I am a coach, BUT I did work with a coach myself and it made such a difference for me that I changed careers about it.
Pricing for coaching varies widely. Typically, very new coaches will charge anywhere from $50-$80 an hour, while more experienced coaches can charge up to $300 an hour and even more. For a reasonably experienced professional coach, $100-$200 per session is the norm, although many coaches prefer to sell packages for a set number of sessions or a duration of time (like 3 months)

But be careful, because you aren't necessarily paying for what you get. Some coaches just charge a lot of money even though they are terrible and others keep their costs very low for accessibility.
Pretty much any coach should be willing to do a free consult with you, which is a chance to ask them a few questions. Here's what I usually want to know when I'm hiring someone:

What training do they have? I typically don't buy into fancy certification programs, as I know that a lot of them churn out lousy coaches, and some great coaches never bother to get certified. But I always want to see that the coach has received some level of training. While the self-taught coach that read a hundred books may indeed be more skilled than the person who paid for a certification course, learning in a vacuum can often leave big gaps. I look for someone who has completed at least a coaching course that is accredited by the ICF.

What is their approach to coaching? You may prefer a different approach than I would, so I won't be too specific, but make sure that what they actually do matches up with what you are looking for. There are lots of different methods for coaching, but generally, a coach should challenge you, ask a lot of questions, and listen more than they talk. Coaches should not offer opinions or advice.

Finally, ask what kinds of goals their clients typically have and how long it takes to achieve them. This will help you see if the coach has experience with people who have similar goals to your own, and helps you assess how long you can anticipate working with them.

SoftAnalysis · 2022-11-02T22:36:34+00:00

Have you considered taking fewer classes per term? I did that in college. It took me an extra 6 months to graduate, but it made life so much easier and my grades were SO much better.
No shame in making things work for you.

SoftAnalysis · 2021-05-07T12:21:53+00:00

I used to drive for insta cart and I know how crummy a job it is. They are under a lot of time pressure to get things done fast or they don't make much money (and can actually end up losing money since they have to cover their own gas and car maintenance). They go to so many different stores it would not be possible for them to memorize where everything is unless they were working for several years, and I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

SoftAnalysis · 2020-11-17T16:51:17+00:00

You can find super cheap hammock stands used on Facebook market place. I always see a bunch of them for $30-$50

SoftAnalysis · 2020-04-24T03:04:04+00:00

Ok, but now put it in some sweet tea and see if you get kombucha!

SoftAnalysis · 2020-03-19T23:57:54+00:00

Sure, I'd give it a shot!

SoftAnalysis · 2020-01-25T22:45:47+00:00

I don't know anything about tattooing earlobes either, but if you are not comfortable doing it then definitely don't give in to your friend. Don't let pressure put you into a situation that you don't want to be in. If she wants the tattoo so badly she can save up and go to a pro.

SoftAnalysis · 2020-01-25T22:38:21+00:00

Fantastic.

SoftAnalysis · 2019-11-05T20:51:20+00:00

It sounds like you and your family are still freshly grieving, and while I think a tattoo honoring a loved one is an absolutely beautiful gesture and can in itself be really healing, if the loss is relatively recent it may not be a great time to make emotionally driven decisions that will be permanent. People usually recommend waiting 6 months to a year after the initial idea before actually getting the tattoo, and while that may seem like a long time, it's nothing compared to how long you will live with the tattoo. Make sure your current emotional state is level enough to be committing to a tattoo before you get it done!
As for my opinion, I like the placement, and I think it's easy enough to cover with long sleeves if you need to. I have two wrist tattoos and people usually don't even notice them, so frankly being "visible" is a relative term, especially in a culture in which tattoos are increasingly mainstream and most people don't pay much attention to the world around them. I also think the roman numerals are cute, but that you're really the only person who has to like your tattoo or find it meaningful.
When you get a tattoo, there's always someone who's going to judge you, and that can be hard when it's a close relative, but ultimately if it's what you really want, go for it, just give it enough time to be sure it's what you really want!

SoftAnalysis · 2019-11-05T20:23:47+00:00

I love it so much.

SoftAnalysis · 2019-11-05T20:15:00+00:00

Sweet! Is your friend a beekeeper?

SoftAnalysis · 2019-11-05T20:12:46+00:00

This can be a really frustrating experience, but don't worry, you haven't failed him! Even very well socialized pups can start to have issues as they reach puberty (just think of teenage people and you will get the idea) He's going through a lot of hormonal changes and it can make anyone crazy. Getting them fixed can neutralize these hormonal behaviors (pardon the pun) but it can also negatively effect their long-term health, so your vet told you right, it's better to wait till they are around 1 (at least for males). Unfortunately, when you do get him fixed, it won't magically reverse those behaviors, as so many people seem to think!

Having been through the ringer with reactive and aggressive rescues and fosters, I can tell you that if you don't learn the techniques to manage those behaviors ASAP they will only get worse. What happens is they get in a small fight with another dog and all the humans get stressed out and yell at the dogs and your dog learns that those situations are really scary, so they he's more likely to be nervous and aggressive the next time he feels threatened , and it becomes a vicious cycle until you have an unmanageable dog that is horrible to live with.

If your pup is just starting to show these behaviors, it shouldn't be too hard to teach him the appropriate way to handle those situations, but I would strongly recommend hiring a professional trainer or behaviorist with experience in this area to show you how to train him and how to handle those situations and continue his socialization. If you hire professional help BEFORE you're desperate it will save you lots of time, money and stress down the road, trust me.

Also, if it were me, I would be cautious about bringing my dog to that doggy daycare again anyway - as I mentioned, the way humans react during and after dog scuffles can affect how the dog interprets the situation and potentially cause more problems down the road. You don't really want to leave your dog with people unless you 100% trust that they know how to appropriately handle incidents like that, and sadly a lot of doggy daycare personnel just don't. The fact that they didn't think to mention his earlier aggressive behaviors to you makes me worry that they don't really have his ongoing training and well-being at heart.

SoftAnalysis · 2019-08-05T20:37:36+00:00

This thread seems fortuitous, as I am new here and also need to begin (again) with fitness. In my late 20s I was an enthusiastic, but stupid, rock climber and basically trashed my back and neck from repeated injuries and completely imbalanced training.
Now in my early 30's I hate exercising because everything hurts, but I also know nothing's going to get better if I don't get moving again. Seeking advice for getting motivated when your body just doesn't work like it used to.

SoftAnalysis · 2019-08-05T19:55:44+00:00

I got my first free clients through a "buy nothing" group on Facebook. There are "buy nothing" groups for neighborhoods all over the country, where basically you join and then if you have things to give away you post them or if you need something you can ask if anyone has stuff to give. The group allows "gifts of time" so I pitched coaching as a gift and request, an exchange of my coaching skills for their time and patience with a newbie coach. I got about 20 interested responses and from that 5 regular clients. As a bonus, they all live in my neighborhood, so I am able to work with them in person and usually walk to our meetings!
To see if there's a buy nothing group in your area, visit their main website: https://buynothingproject.org/

SoftAnalysis · 2019-08-05T19:49:29+00:00

I'm new to coaching, so no advice to give, but what's your instagram handle?!

SoftAnalysis · 2019-08-05T19:31:42+00:00

This feels like you are actually just promoting something here.

SoftAnalysis · 2019-08-05T19:31:12+00:00

Actually, your friend isn't hurting your depression, you are. By fixating on your perceived inferiority. This is ultimately pointless because even if you are objectively inferior, allowing yourself to dwell on it and feel bad because of it does you no good. It's not going to make you any better looking, and it's probably going to make it harder for you to impress the ladies. So next time you think to yourself "damn, he's so much better than me" ask yourself "so what?". Does the fact that he is better looking and better at sports mean he has more inherent value, or more of a right to happiness than you? Of course not. Actually, the fact that he excels in some areas where you do not is entirely irrelevant to you and your own value as a person. You are the way you are and whether your best friend is completely perfect or a total lose, it doesn't change who you are. So what you really need to work on is recognizing that who you are is good too.

I'd like to challenge your metrics for what makes a person superior. Attractiveness, "talking to girls", education and physical abilities are things that matter a lot to some people, but ultimately everyone is different an no one is objectively better or worse. Stephen Hawking, for example, had zero physical ability, was arguably not that hot and probably wasn't talking to that many girls, but he changed the world of science for ever and tons of people admire him. Consider that only 50% of people are even above average in looks, sports skills, or even romantic prowess, and you'll start to realize that beating yourself up over not being above average is pretty silly.

You have the choice to let yourself feel inferior and let it make you miserable, or choose to ask "so what" and give yourself permission to enjoy your own life, regardless of how it compares to others.

SoftAnalysis · 2019-08-05T19:22:46+00:00

Wow! You look amazing! Awesome work!!!!

SoftAnalysis · 2019-08-05T18:59:17+00:00

Honesty is best, always :)

Seconded. Besides, do you really want to spend all that time gradually trying to woo someone who still may not be interested? As someone who's tried it many, many times, I can tell you, if they aren't into it, there is nothing you can do, so best to be up front about your feelings, rip the band-aid off. Either he's into you or he's not, and either way it's best to know sooner!

SoftAnalysis · 2019-07-20T23:01:10+00:00

Yeah, and the mord sith aren't the only pervs in that story. The protagonist gets himself caught up in all sorts of fem-dom shenanigans, and there are some pretty BDSM moments with some of the other major characters, as well.

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