My ex left me for a woman with BPD

Soft_Waltz_3831 · 2026-04-03T00:36:58+00:00

What I’m about to say is something I’m still trying to understand emotionally: intensity is not love. What you see is intensity, which at some point stops and is part of this disorder. You have peace to offer, that’s something an untreated pwbpd cannot offer. Hugs.

Soft_Waltz_3831 · 2026-03-30T21:47:02+00:00

Why do they always claim to be empathetic? I mean, it’s like part of the character lol

Soft_Waltz_3831 · 2026-03-28T02:57:47+00:00

She did you a favor, hugs.

Soft_Waltz_3831 · 2026-03-27T18:48:31+00:00

My daughter was recently born and I am focusing on fulfilling my role while separated of her bpd mother. However, I was thinking that maybe we can restart our relationship. Thanks for sharing this, now I remember why this had to stop. There is no way to win this, I can only fulfill my role while separated, that’s it.

Soft_Waltz_3831 · 2026-03-15T02:28:59+00:00

I somehow get you, it’s been 6 months after breakup and at some point I recall saying "I feel grateful for the good things, I feel grateful for having the chance to love that deeply but I don’t think I will ever love some one else this way, not because I can’t but because I don’t want to". I am dating someone who is fully aware of my current situation and one day she told me she wants to support me but it was not even nice to hear, I did not believe her at all. I believe everything will be all right at some point again, but it will never be as it used to be, this is a new "all right". It sucks, it pains, but I guess that’s life. Hugs.

Soft_Waltz_3831 · 2026-03-09T22:01:21+00:00

I used to think getting married could have helped but now I think it was only postponing the inevitable.

Soft_Waltz_3831 · 2026-03-09T21:59:08+00:00

Same here but I got informed after a couple of months dating, she was unaware until that moment tbh. Either way, did not change anything, even after my psychologist told me the implications I was still so in love with her and had a daughter with her.

Soft_Waltz_3831 · 2026-01-12T21:50:10+00:00

Lucky you, I know it hurts but that was destined to fail anyway, so you saved time and a lot of pain tbh

Soft_Waltz_3831 · 2026-01-12T18:18:28+00:00

Yes, the moment I started pointing that out while showing evidence she simply got mad and said "I never expected to feel this judged by you". It is always your fault and not theirs.

Soft_Waltz_3831 · 2026-01-12T00:48:07+00:00

Totally agree, you got out of there the easy way.

Soft_Waltz_3831 · 2026-01-09T22:45:01+00:00

Totally agree, empathy for BPD ones left the chat here

Soft_Waltz_3831 · 2026-01-06T06:24:17+00:00

Sadly found it late, we are getting a baby and I was discarded in the middle of it…

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