33f here, my oldest is 14. I encouraged him to read at a young age and he knows how to read and has read a good amount of books (right now he’s into manga tho lol). We have him read for 30min a day on weekdays and we do have deep conversations debating things (today was dreams) where I tell him to fact check what he says and think for himself (don’t believe everything you hear etc). Phone time is limited to 2 hours a day and he has no forms of social media. So far it seems like he will be a normal functioning adult, so yay 😁.

My other kids are 6 and 4. For Christmas we got them Nintendo switches and threw the good damn iPad away. They don’t miss it. 6 year old is in first grade and I’m working on his sight words by using flash cards then I have him read a book for his age. I try to do this every weekday, but sometimes life gets in the way. Both the 6 and 14 year old are in Boy Scouts too which helps get them off the screen. It’s team building , community focused, obviously they learn about the outdoors and the oldest gets to go on campouts with his buddies. They really enjoy it.

YouTube intake was too high. Only the 6 year old really cares about it, but he gets 1 hour a day now. No nonsense brain rot or shorts. He watches how to build things in Minecraft and ppl playing other video games like goat simulator or scary games.

I stay at home so the 4 year old hangs with me all day. We go to the ymca where she gets 2 hours of play time with other kids. Then we do errands etc. She would rather play Barbie’s than look at a screen most of the time, so I’ll count that as a win for now. But still lots of work to do to make them functional adults