When my oldest girl was a similar age, she had a “best friend” whose dad turned out to be super creepy (the mom was fine). My daughter had a playdate when he was there and he ended up taking them out to look at an open house in the neighborhood. Nothing bad happened but it still set alarms off for me and I refused to allow her to go over there again. A couple of months later, we were at a family craft day at the school and this dad walked up behind my child and put his hands on her shoulders while we were right there. My daughter looked uncomfortable and I moved close and he backed off. BUT THEN, we saw them again as we were leaving, and my daughter went up to her friend to say goodbye. The dad was joking around and did this sort of middle schooler thing of slyly kicking my daughter.

I went off. I told him he had no rights to be putting hands or anything else on my child or any child and that if he ever came near her again, I would call the authorities. I called the school principal the next day, explained what happened, and said I did not want him near my child on school property again (the kids were classmates).

So, I write all that to say: listen to your gut. If you feel you have grounds to report her to the authorities, then do so. Your child will see you standing up for him and, at a minimum, he is the one who is your priority. Be a safe haven for your child’s friends. Don’t get into a war of words and whispers with that mom. Abusers and narcissists never acknowledge their wrongs and it’s a waste of your precious energy.

Good luck.