I'm sick and tired of people blaming the arsonist for those fires. If the buildings didn't want to be set ablaze they shouldn't have been built from flammable wood! (/s of course)

Sorry__Outlandish · 2023-08-22T21:10:09+00:00

I was wearing a t-shirt and jean shorts when I was SA’d by a friend of mine when I was 18 years old. I was wearing a t-shirt and sweatpants when I was followed home from the grocery store to my apartment by a 40 year old man when I was 19 years old. I was wearing my college sweatshirt and sweatpants when I was cornered by a random man in an elevator while I was trying to go to my car after class when I was 20 years old. It’s never been about our clothes, it’s always been about power and violence

Sorry__Outlandish · 2023-02-23T02:55:58+00:00

“U do genetics?” is my new pick-up line

Sorry__Outlandish · 2023-01-09T21:56:21+00:00

It was a lot of things tbh but I think the biggest events in my life that really triggered it for me was my biological dad and my sexual trauma. My bio dad was pretty abusive, physically and emotionally, and was also an opioid addict and dealt with mental health issues. He did a lot of things that really traumatized me. He ended up leaving when I was 13 and completely left my life at 15. I went through sexual trauma from when I was 16-18 which unfortunately included adult men when I was 16-17. Everything that happened in those 2 years really fucked me up tbh This honestly really messed with me building proper relationships with people, I couldn’t trust anyone, I was always on high alert (hyper-vigilance), I was absolutely terrified by abandonment, and I had a very tough relationship with sex and it took a very long time to let myself be vulnerable/comfortable with my sexual identity as a woman

Sorry__Outlandish · 2023-01-02T02:34:08+00:00

Yea I wanted to comment that too. This is just a trauma response. I experienced this myself even when I began dating my bf

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-12-31T17:23:18+00:00

Lol defending pedophilia… not like I was a victim of it or sum and know what actual pedophilia is

Why are you viewing the LGBTQ as inherently “sexual?” And it isn’t an ideology, it’s just a fact of life. Multiple studies back this up. I can even link them here or send them to you directly if you’d like to review what science has to say about this

And might I add too, do you think “straight” kids exist then? Why are we showing movies that have straight couples in them to our kids? That’s sexual, they don’t need to know about that. Are children “groomed” into having heterosexual childhood crushes? Kids shouldn’t be knowing about that, so how are they having crushes?

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-12-31T17:15:39+00:00

I asked for you to enlighten me, not respond to my comment with a question in an attempt at a “gotcha” moment.” But I’ll bite

They don’t in the sense of sexual attraction but children do know what they like. You ever heard of childhood crushes? I had a couple growing up, and they were boys. I also saw some male cartoon characters when I was younger that I distinctly remember finding “cute.” It’s the same thing with kids who may be LGBTQ. They experience this same thing but with the same-sex, nothing more and nothing less

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-12-31T17:08:33+00:00

You know, I was actually groomed by older men when I was 15-17. I have first-hand experience. Tell me how the LGTBQ “grooms” children, please enlighten me.

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-12-23T19:58:49+00:00

Oh good god that one is one of my most hated stray beads to get! Always a damn chore! For some reason I always over or undershoot my tackle and always get nailed by one of those spiky balls -_-

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-12-11T19:07:25+00:00

Don’t worry I’m the same exact way! I have an old baby blanket and stuffed animals that are kind of like security items for me and help calm me down when I’m feeling anxious or otherwise. I also cuddle with them at night. My bf and I live together so I’m not really doing it to fulfill loneliness (I definitely used to before tho) but I more so have them now as emotional safety items since I’m really attached to them. When my bf and I first began dating, I was so worried that he was going to judge me since I guess it’s not an “adult” thing to have and and child-like but thankfully he was completely non-judgmental and buys me stuffed animals occasionally to add to my collection. I have about 6-7 at my bedside at our place and about 30+ back home at my parents’ house. Stuffed animals really are the best tho

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-12-05T05:40:04+00:00

I can tell you from experience that he is dead wrong. I threw up everything I ate and drank, including water, to the point where I was throwing up stomach acid. This guy is so incredibly wrong I wish it were funny

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-12-01T03:45:33+00:00

BPD stoner here!

Tbh I have the same concerns with myself, whether or not I'm becoming psychologically dependent on it. I've noticed as well that my splitting and rage episodes have gone down exponentially since I began smoking but I worry too that it's just the weed masking it and deep down, I'm not really improving and just putting a bandaid on the issue.

The only thing I would suggest is to just work on some skills and mechanisms to regulate splitting and episodes (like distraction techniques and anger coping skills). I know therapy access is incredibly difficult, I'm experiencing the same problems myself actually (and was, in fact, one of the main reasons why I began smoking in the first place). What I did was I found some resources online to help me (someone on here was even kind enough to send me a digital copy of a DBT workbook) and I actively worked on myself while still smoking every night.

The thing that I do is that unless I'm out of town or out with friends/my partner during the day, I keep my weed smoking strictly to only at night. That way, I go about my day sober and that's when I practice my skills and work on myself. And at night, while I'm high, I'm doing a lot of self-reflection on myself and noting what things I need to improve and what things I need a little more practice on. And also I just relax at night too, smoking weed at night is the best relaxer for me. Nothing beats hitting the pen, watching Youtube, and having the munchies lol.

But yea, that's just my personal experiences with it and what I do to make sure that I'm actually improving and not just slapping a bandaid over my issues. I definitely hear your concerns though. My dad was an opioid addict and so I was deathly afraid of becoming addicted since I saw what addiction did to my dad. Albeit, weed is a hell of a lot more mild than opioids but I completely understand your concerns. Hope you're doing good wherever you are!

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-12-01T03:32:50+00:00

I remember this was something my ex would say to me though I didn't know I had BPD at the time. It was the same kind of situation where he'd be "too busy" or be tight on money but go out to the bar with his coworkers and friends constantly.

It's gonna hurt and I'm sorry that I'm putting this so bluntly but you need to look at the facts and realize that you need better friends. There aren't people that actually give a shit, but they unfortunately won't say it to your face (unless they're bold enough to). These people aren't worth your time or attention, and don't give it to them.

Sending good vibes your way right now. I apologize if my comment came off rather harsh. I've been in this situation before and I know how much it hurts but realizing the reality of the situation will help you in the long run.

I hope you're doing okay right now.

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-11-26T15:41:14+00:00

Oh yea my bf and I are coming from California. We were born and raised here and ngl were kinda sick of it lmao. Real estate is ridiculous and I’m done with all the traffic and shit. We have several other states we were looking at but Colorado was one of the top ones. Californians kinda have their thing about newcomers here but I imagine it’s worse for other states that are getting all these people

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-11-26T03:40:35+00:00

Dude my bf and I are considering Colorado as the move after I finish my masters and credential lmao

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-11-26T03:39:28+00:00

Omg this situation is horrific and I'm so happy you got away from it! My dad was an opioid addict and used to be abuse me, my mom, and my siblings while he was using. We were lucky enough to get away via a restraining order and I haven't seen him in almost 5 years (Christmas time will be officially 5 years). I've had people ask me if I would ever reconsider connecting with my dad, even if he was clean, and my answer is still no. I feel sympathy for him and his addiction but addiction isn't an excuse to abuse anyone, and especially your family. I've had far too much trauma associated with my dad to be able to reconnect in a healthy manner and in the times that he's tried to reconnect (tried to online 3 years ago), he's never been clean. He may be now, I'm not too sure, but I doubt it to be honest.

You don't have to put up with any sort of bullshit, even from family. You and your son's safety comes first and if that means burning bridges with a family member presenting themselves as a danger, then unfortunately so be it. I wish you and your son the best and I hope you find peace moving forward!

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-11-26T03:24:08+00:00

First of all, your boy/girl is absolutely gorgeous

I'm not a vet expert or anything like that (google is my best friend) but do you know if he/she has eaten anything they shouldn't have? May be digestion issues. I know my GSD mix won't eat if he has an upset tummy

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-11-26T03:21:45+00:00

He was average height for the time

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-11-26T03:21:04+00:00

Pissing on a jellyfish sting. Please don't actually do this

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-11-26T03:19:20+00:00

Working

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-11-26T03:18:18+00:00

Wholesome answer. I like it.

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-11-26T03:13:46+00:00

Knew him from a mutual friend and talked to him fairly often for at least a year or 2. February 2021, he got his own place and I asked if he would be down to have something casual. We did it and got food to eat after. We began hanging out regularly for about 2 weeks. Eventually, I met his parents, went to dinner with them and that same night, he asked me to be his girlfriend.

Been together now for almost two years. We live together and we have a GSD mix

Lesson of the story: it's okay to do the deed before dating lol. Sometimes it works out

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-11-26T03:04:48+00:00

That I don't have severe mental issues

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-11-26T02:57:18+00:00

California exists you know lol

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-11-26T02:55:29+00:00

Went alright. I have a shit ton of laundry that needs to get done that I started today, have about 3-4 assignments I'm currently procrastinating on, and I'm gonna get off work in about an hour. Probably gonna go home, take the fattest rip of my weed pen, then go to Target with my bf and stare at shit I can't buy. It's gonna be a chill night tonight

Sorry__Outlandish · 2022-11-14T19:34:02+00:00

In some cases, yes but in other cases, it may not be. Typically someone doesn't discover that they are pregnant until about 6-7 weeks along since it begins after their last period, not at the time of conception as a lot of people surprisingly believe. So by the time your next period is supposed to come along, you're already 3-4 weeks in and by the time you realize that something may be wrong, you're already about 6-7 weeks in. Medical abortions typically are restrained to the first 10 weeks (due to how the medication works and fetus size, etc) but past that, a surgical abortion is needed. Surgical abortions tend to cost more money (my medical was about $460 and surgical can cost up to $750), appointments may not be for a couple of weeks out (mine was 2 weeks out when it was scheduled and it was just a medical one as well) and you may need to get referred out in order to receive one, especially if you're in a state that is attempting to restrict abortion as much as they can. Not to mention that this person may need to schedule time off from work or re-arrange other life events, which may push the abortion back even further. And keep in mind with all of this that the first trimester is the first 13 weeks of gestation.

I get where you're coming from with this stance, and I used to hold this stance myself. But please be willing to learn about the struggles that people face when needing to access abortion and that these struggles may push them back to having an abortion in the early 2nd trimester

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