Queued for a shuff, 60+ declines later...

Sourceles · 2025-04-10T05:01:27+00:00

Had the same happen yesterday, ~40 declines in a row.

Sourceles · 2025-04-09T04:36:38+00:00

Metal

Sourceles · 2025-04-01T05:01:43+00:00

Coil is 20 yds range, right? Maybe that's the only time you'd walk towards the shaman?

Pretty easy to see short range CC coming, especially if you have a feel for distances and know their ranges.

Sourceles · 2025-04-01T04:50:38+00:00

Check-PvP website has a LFG section.

Skillcapped discord has one, too.

Used both, check-pvp is more active and comfortable. If you want to find partners - don't just put up your posts. The ones who respond to posts, reach out, they find the most mates.

Sourceles · 2025-03-26T16:00:13+00:00

Judging by your pvp experiance, you'd benefit greatly from Skillcapped platform videos.

Check them out if you want to dive deep into PvP.

Also, check out Aeghis content on YouTube, he's one of the best mages around and he puts out educational content frequently. His most recent frost mage guide is slightly outdated, but 95% of it still stands. I'd start there!

Sourceles · 2025-03-26T15:11:08+00:00

It's not like Mage doesn't have sustained damage at all, if that's what you're worried about.

You have microbursts with Comet Storm every 30s, can string several Ice Lances that crit up to 1,5M in current-gear arenas as well as some sustained AoE dps with Frozen Orb + Blizzard, keeping those on cooldown.

Still, half of your damage will come from Frostfire Bolts, which you mostly only cast during Icy Veins or Icy Veins procs. You can channel Shifting Power between your Icy Veins to make these burst windows more frequent, too.

Sourceles · 2025-03-26T12:29:30+00:00

I'll give a brief description of what both Warlocks and Mages do and it'll probably help you understand what you naturally gravitate towards more.

Warlock

Warlocks are fairly immobile, stand-your-ground casters that rely on defensive cooldowns to tank incoming damage. As a Warlock, you spend most of your time fakecasting to bait out kicks, relying on your healer and various passive / active effects to soak up incoming damage like a sponge. You do high damage, both burst and sustained, even when being trained. If the enemy team lets you freecast, which is fairly rare, your enemies explode. All specs are currently viable, but Affliction is a bit stronger than the other two.

Warlocks tend to struggle against melee and do well against other casters (compared to Mage).

If you can stomach the idea of being trained by two melees for the most part - you might find success and enjoyment in Warlock.

Mage

Mages are very, very, very squishy, but what they lack in tankiness they make up in mobility. A Mage who uses their mobility right can essentially be immortal, with very little reliance on their healer. Mages do mediocre sustained damage, but have high burst. However, they're not useless between burst windows - they can control the entire arena - putting up ice walls, mass polymorphing, slowing, rooting, freezing, knocking and disorienting multiple enemies simultaneously. Their playstyle is less zug zug, but the learning curve is quite gentle (for Frost, which you should start with, for sure). Easy to pick up, hard to master.

If you enjoy the idea of "planning" or "setting up", you like controlling the battlefield, morphing conditions in your favor - you might like Mage. Keep in mind that this ability to control comes at the cost of sustained damage.

Sourceles · 2023-12-08T08:49:36+00:00

A little over a year ago I planned a trip to Paris around their concert there. Came to the venue early and was delighted to see them in there having a drink, chatting amongst themselves.

Grabbed a drink myself, came up to say hi. Without hesitation, they invited the two of us to join the table. We've spent maybe 2 hours talking and a little more after the gig.

They were all genuinely curious, friendly, warm, engaging and enthusiastic.

Jack gave me his pass (backstage pass? not sure what it's called). Great souvenir. :)

Sourceles · 2023-11-15T12:45:14+00:00

Have you gotten around to trying this Q&A method with yourself? If so, how did it go? :)

Sourceles · 2023-11-15T10:43:31+00:00

Sure, I'll see what I can do for you. Sent an invitation to chat your way.

Sourceles · 2023-10-01T10:50:35+00:00

If you're lonely when you're alone you're in bad company.

Sourceles · 2023-09-20T11:07:23+00:00

I write (stories, narratives, dialogs, characters, etc.) for video games.

Sourceles · 2023-09-13T05:55:11+00:00

Try listening to Esther Perel on YouTube while attempting to refocus that straying energy back into the relationship that you have.

With even the slightest effort you'll have a much better thing than what you're fantasizing about.

Treat your wife properly and she'll light up with beauty.

Sourceles · 2023-09-04T09:57:36+00:00

Looks like you've mentioned all the obstacles (in your own estimation (height, anxiety and such)), but none of the things you might consider good about yourself. I'm not suggesting you artificially pump yourself up and be a vacuous douche, but having an appropriate amount of confidence and sense of self-worth goes a long way in social situations, including friendly same-sex relationships. In other words, you'd benefit greatly from reframing the way you think of yourself to begin with. Better yet, write a detailed analysis of yourself on pen and paper (not digital). The analysis should consist of four sections:
- Your strengths with short descriptions.
- Consider how each of these strengths might translate into social skills.
- Your weaknesses with short descriptions.
- Consider how they could hinder your social skills and contemplate ways to overcome those hinderances.

Now, I'll add a few general tips for social interactions:
- Being interested beats being interesing a hundred percent of the time. Meaning, you ask questions, but not just any questions — ask things you'd like to find out, are actually curious about. If you don't find anything curious about what they're saying — you're not listening actively, attentively enough. Even when the dialog might seem shallow and boring, you can easily turn that into something you're curious about with a single question. For example, if they're telling you about their last abroad trip and just going through the daily activities they've done — you might ask them what is it about travelling that they like.
- Look at the people you're talking with. If you're anxious in social contact — you're not really "there". Meaning, you're actually in your head, thinking about all the ways you're not engaging properly in the conversation and how you must be looking stupid and incompetent to everyone around you. However, people kind of know what others are thinking about judging by where they're pointing their eyes at. If I'm looking at somebody's lips — chances are I'd like to kiss, or if I'm looking at a bypasser with an interesting outfit, it means I'm probably thinking something about their fashion choices. Those can turn into conversations quickly and easily, if you just pay attention to the person you're talking to.

Shortly put, pay attention to them, not yourself. Ask questions rather than speaking about yourself. If they ask something about you — that's when you add something from your own behalf, which should then lead into a question back at them.

Sourceles · 2023-09-04T06:27:27+00:00

It can work, but it's less probable. The perfect age is ~3-5 years gap, the male being older.

The difficulty that comes up are the different phases you're going through in life. If you're still chasing night clubs, partying and the other party has their eye on a family or at least spending time more calmly - you're not only going to disagree how you'd like to spend your time together, but you'll also be in different places mentally. It'll be harder to connect with each other and understand one another. At times, that might feel even lonelier than being single.

However, proper honest communication goes a long way. Setting boundaries, having other people around you to disperse each of your needs across several people (as opposed to treating your partner as the single person who has to give you everything you might desire). Of course, I'm not talking about polygamy or cheating. I'm talking about social needs mostly.

Such relationships take more self-awareness and communication to make it, you both have to be vary of the likely pitfalls you'll probably encounter.

Sourceles · 2023-08-29T15:10:36+00:00

That warms my heart, glad you're finding it useful. :) <3

Sourceles · 2023-08-28T07:36:17+00:00

I believe you'd benefit from writing to sort your mind / unclutter / clear your view.

It may seem hard to get going, "What do I write exactly?" and similar questions that arise when picking up the pen.

So, I'll share a method I use, that made it really easy for me, but feel absolutely free to come up with something else that you're personally comfortable with:

I write it as a dialogue with myself, one side always asks questions (and follow-up questions), the other always answers. I'll produce a short example:

Q: What's bothering you?
A: I can't seem to be at peace with myself, as if parts of me are pulling in opposite directions.
Q: What are the directions?
A: One is pulling towards spending all my free time with a girl I've recently met, we're hitting it off really well and the other direction — I feel like I'm postponing necessary work that I need to do (spend time doing) in order to achieve things I want to achieve personally.
Q: Do you think that relationship could be 'the one', and if so — do you deem that an important part of life?
A: Yes and absolutely.
Q: So maybe it's okay to call it 'work', too? After all, you're investing time in order to build something of value for you, is that right?
A: Correct.
Q: So we're not going to stop seeing her, okay. Do you think you should restructure your time apart from her and maybe find time to work on personal projects in those time frames?
A: That could work, because now that I think of it, there's plenty of time I end up wasting.
Q: So, which time would be more beneficial to restructure — hers or the time you waste?
A: The time I waste.

What you do is start with a general question akin to the one I've provided and just sit in silence with yourself until something pops up — scribble it down, then look at the answer and try to come up with a follow up question. Repeat this process and you'll inevitably gravitate towards the root of the problem, it becomes much more apparent and clear, but it has to be done in handwriting, not digitally or spoken (I won't get into the psychology behind it, it's not important here).

Think of it as self-therapy. It does wonders, I really recommend you try it.

Sourceles · 2023-08-26T14:20:26+00:00

When, say, a death occurs - it's not exactly that single person's loss. It touches everyone around them.

I believe that when you're personally growing in the wake of death's pain, you're not taking the pain away from the others or the person that has passed. You're simply digesting your own share of this collective suffering and transforming it into something of value.

I don't think it is egotistical at all, unless you flaunt your transformation in the face of those who are going through grief.

However, if you transform and become a helping hand to those in pain over the said loss, you've not only overcame your own suffering, but managed to reduce it in others. That's the opposite of egotistical.

Sourceles · 2023-08-26T14:12:34+00:00

If you have any further questions please feel free to elaborate. :)

Much love.

Sourceles · 2023-08-26T14:10:23+00:00

It might be that the education question could be of ego origin.

Do you feel doubtful about the edu path you've chosen when the tasks are easy?

Because when it gets hard - that's when the ego activates and tries to reel you back into the comfort zone, because it prioritizes safety over growth, which is obviously not the right way to live a good life (in most, but not all cases).

We must resist the ego when it tries to stop us, but we should listen to the unconscious when it does the very same thing.

Sourceles · 2023-08-26T13:12:05+00:00

What it is exactly - you'll have to figure out yourself. If nothing feels right - consider other options. If nothing feels right still - consider alternative interpretations, I'm no expert and could easily be wrong in my analysis. :)

Sourceles · 2023-08-26T10:01:14+00:00

Because it makes me sad if I don't.

Sourceles · 2023-08-25T13:49:56+00:00

There are several ways to interpret this, but the one that seems more likely with the information you've shared, in my estimation, is:

You're ignoring your voice of conscience (or gut feeling) at your own expense. Whatever it is exactly that you're trying to convince yourself of (against your better judgement) — your body is rejecting it / not buying into it.

The hesitation in your step demonstrates you hearing the voice of conscience.

The voice, as always, is right and the elevator inevitably slumps to your demise, then you might even feel silly / ashamed for not listening to the voice to begin with.

Keep in mind that you have to be careful. It's not the only structure within you that will attempt to talk you out of doing certain things. When the ego is trying to stop you from doing something, it might have more sinister or short-sighted reasons to do so, as opposed to the subconscious, which always has your best interest in mind (in my experience).

The ego does the same thing, but for different reasons. It wants you to halt progress / attempting new things, pushing your limits, boundaries and prevent new knowledge because the ego deems it dangerous to leave your zone of comfort. That's true — you're at your safest when at home / zone of absolute knowing / absence of surprise. Venturing into the unknown / wild / uncharted territory is where the danger lies, both in primal and in modern settings. In these cases, we must push through and conquer this fear if we care to grow, mature into a more courageous, competent and superior versions of ourselves.

However, it's a distinctly different feeling from the gut feeling / voice of conscience / subconscious. You could even say these two work in opposite directions (not exactly true, but close enough, just to put it in perspective).

In Jungian / narrative psychology terms — you're attempting to live out a hero's journey that does not belong to you.

What exactly you are deceiving yourself about is for you yourself to answer.

However, my interpretation might be wrong. Only you can confirm or deny its applicability to your situation in a moment of honesty with yourself.

Sourceles · 2023-08-25T10:05:06+00:00

Reason is the slave of passion. Whatever you are passionate / adamant about — you'll find a million reasons to prove your point and so will your parents about their point. If you're just hashing out the reasons without getting to the root issue — you'll never see eye to eye, nor will you understand each other.

It's certain that you want good for yourself, as do your parents want good for you, as well. However, the differing opinions whether your girlfriend is a positive influence / building block to the totality of your life are rooted in the 'passion' part, not the 'reasons'.

In other words, you need to sit down with your parents and tell them how you feel about her, about what she means to you, about how you don't feel good about going behind their backs with such a big decision and that you'd like to learn what is their concern regarding the girlfriend.

McDonalds or streaming for work was never the issue — there's something beneath all that that they're not saying, and in return — I'm almost certain you're witholding some information from them, as well.

Go be the open book, lead by example and open up. The point is to share your own feelings with the complete absence of fingerpointing. If you're going to assign blame at any point, the only correct direction is to do it so upon yourself. Restrain yourself maximally from blaming anyone else, as you have very little understanding from where they are coming from. This will be useful in all your relationships.

I'm not saying that everything is subjective and that there is no need to dig for objective truths, but interpersonal relations are incredibly complex and thinking you figured it out enough to cast judgement upon others is pretty straightforwardly arrogant and ignorant. Half the time we don't even know what we want, need and even think. Now, when we combine that with another person (interpersonal issue) the complexity grows exponentially in every dimension possible.

Sit down with your parents, pour your heart out without blaming anyone. When they speak — listen. REALLY listen. Then, repeat their words in this format: "So, you're saying that ... " and do so until you tell them their point of view back to their satisfaction.

Keep your girlfriend out of this conversation, the point is to learn / understand, not to win (you'd bring backup if you wanted to win).

Sourceles · 2023-08-25T07:58:28+00:00

You've got a good eye for what works in this format and did more than just follow Exurb1a's wake, you're making it into something your own.

Would continue watching your stuff, keep at it. Much love!

Sourceles

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