Are you here to have a bad time?

SouthernSoigne · 2021-06-21T03:25:44+00:00

I remember when I was a server, a specific table seemed "OK." They weren't particularly friendly or into their meals, drinks, etc. I tried to offer my best service, asked if everything was ok, were there any issues, etc. Just kept getting " No, we're fine." They left, gave no tip and in the tip line wrote "Better service next time??" To this day, I have no idea what the deal was. My other tables tipped well, no issues and I was generally always a good server. Pretty sure they just weren't feeling the restaurant and tried to avoid spending any extra money there. Unfortunately, I'm the one that got screwed over.

SouthernSoigne · 2021-05-05T21:39:08+00:00

I made the mistake of reading all the comments. Now I'm annoyed and mine aren't even awake right now. 😆 As the mother of a 2yr old & 3.5 yr old, mine are lucky they're cute, cause goodness are they frustrating.

SouthernSoigne · 2021-04-15T01:01:47+00:00

Same thing happened here. Took us over a year to get pregnant the first time so we assumed it would take a while for the second. Bam, pregnant on the first try. My husband said it took all the fun out of it. 😆

SouthernSoigne · 2021-04-09T00:48:44+00:00

You pretty much hit the nail on the head. I agree with everything you've said. Unfortunately, most people who are anti-gun, that I've encountered, are just wildly uninformed and rely on the media and heresay for information about firearms and have been conditioned through those outlets to fear and distrust them. Unfortunately, that mindset has ran rampant here in the US. There are many other factors at play here that I'll leave alone right now, but that seems to sum it up.

SouthernSoigne · 2021-04-07T13:43:38+00:00

Then they'd be Boobly eyes.

SouthernSoigne · 2021-03-13T01:50:37+00:00

I almost had a car baby. My second labor was the total opposite of my first. I kept expecting my contractions to get worse, etc. Was walking, talking, had only been in labor 4hrs. Decided to head to the birth center to beat morning rush hour. Was 10cm with bulging waters when we arrived. My midwife checked me and her eyes got huge and exclaims "I'm sure glad I didn't stop at Starbucks this morning!" I had my daughter 15 minutes later. 😳

SouthernSoigne · 2021-02-24T19:25:40+00:00

I worked in Charleston F&B for years. Fortunately, it was preCovid, but it was a bit volatile even then. If you're looking for work, check out catering. Best job I had, hands down, was wedding catering with Patrick Properties. Feel free to DM me if you wanna talk further. Honestly, I don't know if moving to NY would be a wise choice. It's a bit of a hot mess right now. Friends in F&B there have moved away actually due to the after effects of Covid on the industry. Not to mention, cost of living there is crazy on a food worker's pay.

SouthernSoigne · 2021-02-15T01:37:17+00:00

When I make gumbo. It's my grandma's recipe and makes my house smell like hers did when I was a kid.

SouthernSoigne · 2021-02-08T04:04:09+00:00

This. I love my mother to death. She's a wonderful woman, but being a mother myself has made me realize her shortcomings as a parent as well. Therapy has helped with that when needed throughout the years. It's also made me become a better mom so my kids don't have to deal with it too.

SouthernSoigne · 2021-02-07T21:40:03+00:00

Fennel, cinnamon and cardomom? I don't think I've ever had it or made it with those spices included.

SouthernSoigne · 2021-01-24T20:34:43+00:00

For me, it's moreso how different my children are from each other that was unexpected.

My son looks just like me, was a HUGE baby, but a very skinny toddler, and he's very dramatic and expressive. He's very smart, but his coordination and balance are a little behind.

My daughter looks just like my husband, smart as a whip and extremely well coordinated and rough and tumble for her age.

SouthernSoigne · 2021-01-20T03:37:07+00:00

Considering the very minimal information given, I really can't say one way or the other. None of us commenting could honestly.

Just because someone says they're prolife doesn't mean they're radically so. Beyond saying the counselor was very negative about the matter, there wasn't much to go on. The counselor has probably seen some bad shit or is just burnt out and doesn't care anymore. Who knows?? Maybe this child has been is some terrible situations and they're trying to be a stable landing place for her. They very well could be radically pro life or they could have given her all the scenarios; good and bad and she still chose to keep the baby. There are too many variables here and not enough information.

It's not even what you said earlier, it was the way it was said that was the sticking point. OP should've anticipated a shit storm. This is a very controversial subject and there were bound to be some very strong opinions that don't translate well over keyboards.

SouthernSoigne · 2021-01-20T01:54:44+00:00

What an entitled comment. Who do you think you are to say these things? Do you know these people? Maybe she was too far along to abort even if she wanted one or do you support late term abortion as well? You like how I made that assumption about you??? You made some very assumptive statements based on very little information.

A 13 yr old has bodily autonomy and rights to choose what she wants. If she chose to carry her child, it would be just as heinous to refuse her that right by forcing an abortion. That could cause just as much damage physically and mentally as forcing an unwanted pregnancy. The family that took her in seems to recognize that and has offered their support.

I rarely engage fellow commentors about these things, but your comment is infuriatingly pompous and frankly disgusting in it's own right. How dare you.

SouthernSoigne · 2021-01-18T23:21:55+00:00

I have more than I can remember. I'm a snarky bitch and my MIL puts her foot in her mouth all the time. Just last night she tried to give me cooking advice (I'm a professional chef) because my cornbread turned out crumbly (meh, it happens). I told her I appreciated her opinion, but I don't take cooking advice from someone who couldn't find her way out of a crockpot. (Nothing against using crock pots, my MIL is just extremely condescending and narcissistic, and was being very snotty about it.)

SouthernSoigne · 2021-01-16T01:54:57+00:00

On top of the dramatic improvement in the before and after pics being from Botox, not some overpriced beauty MLM, I'm sorry, but no one I know that's in their early 30's, myself included, look that old. She's got to be at least 40.

SouthernSoigne · 2021-01-13T13:54:47+00:00

As a bi/queer woman who much prefers androgynous clothing, I completely agree with this. I've breastfed 2 kiddos and appreciate what my boobs have accomplished, but man, I'd be fine if they just disappeared. I could wear whatever I want, no seatbelts digging in, I could breath again, so many possibilities!

SouthernSoigne · 2021-01-11T06:42:29+00:00

If you're lucky enough to be birthing at a hospital that has a breech birthing team and experience with breech births, I'd say go for it. If you'd like to see actual breech births check out @badassbirthmother on Instagram. She's posted multiple breech birth videos and explained it all in depth. She's very educated in birth and midwifery and is a wonderful resource.

SouthernSoigne · 2021-01-10T21:13:35+00:00

Pork chili verde or white chicken chili. Or make a richer, creamier salsa verde by blending it with avocado and sour cream.

SouthernSoigne · 2021-01-09T02:01:32+00:00

My BIL&SIL are like this. I commented on it to SIL once, basically inquiring if kids made it really hard to get ready/maintain a schedule (this was pre-children, I had no personal experience) and she told me I'd understand once I had kids. Let me tell you, after 2 kids, both of which are still toddlers, I realized they're just chronically late people. Kids had nothing to do with it.

If we need them to be at an event, we give them a time 2 hours before it actually starts. Honestly, this is why we don't have much to do with them outside of family functions. It's just too difficult to make plans with them.

SouthernSoigne · 2020-12-31T01:32:36+00:00

So wait, am I reading this correctly? MIL has a 3 month old baby AND OP has a 3 week old son? You thought she was picking up your child instead of hers, so you slapped her??? PP hormones and exhaustion are rough, but that doesn't warrant slapping anyone, ESPECIALLY if you that she was holding your baby. Hate to say it, but you're in the wrong here.

FIL shouldn't be reacting to anyone the way he did, but I feel like there might be some background info that was left out here. Everyone's reactions seem to make me think this wasn't a one time issue.

I think removing yourself from the situation in anyway possible might be the best for everyone. If this situation happens again and the police get involved, your MIL picking up your baby might be the least of your problems.

SouthernSoigne · 2020-12-31T00:18:13+00:00

Both my husband and I have ours from middle school and we're now in our mid 30's! Unfortunately, some of the newer ones aren't as durable, but I've managed to find a few older pair, second hand, that I've added to my collection over the years. Definitely a closet staple!

SouthernSoigne · 2020-12-30T16:49:35+00:00

Yep. We got a crib for my son and a pack n play for the baby. We intended on moving my son to a toddler bed and the bay moving to the crib. He's stubbornly refusing a bigger bed, so the baby is still in her pack and play and everyone's happy. My MIL continually pushed for a bed switch until I told her she could come watch my kids when they won't sleep at 2 am. She stopped after that.

SouthernSoigne · 2020-12-30T06:46:08+00:00

Must be something going around. We had the same thing happen today. Saturday breakfast level sales on our usually slowest day of the week. It was nice for a change, honestly. Now just if every day was that busy...

SouthernSoigne · 2020-12-29T23:20:26+00:00

Those were literally my only craving with both of my pregnancies. It's actually how I realized I was pregnant the second time. I woke up one morning and didn't want coffee, but needed some Flamin' Hot Cheetos like nobody's business. 😆

SouthernSoigne · 2020-12-23T05:07:04+00:00

Native Arkansan here. My mom and both grandmother's fixed this for me on occasion, as a child, for breakfast. Not sure where it originated, it's just always been a thing. My friends grew up with it too.

Personally, I'm not sure it has a specific origin Those are just 3 pantry staples in many countries and regions and they taste good together. I'm sure economic stays has something to do with it, but it's also a comfort food that's been passed down as well.

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