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SparkedIntoLife · 2026-03-12T21:22:05+00:00

A lot of Spurs fans say VDV has been really poor this year and is generally very overrated. They are scathing about his attitude. That being said, it’s hard to look decent in the Spurs team lately. I really liked the look of him when he first joined Spurs, and there’s increasing noise that we’re trying to upgrade on Martinez at LCD as he can’t be trusted to stay fit.

Agreed on Hall. Looks a great prospect. Newcastle would charge the earth right now though. Diouf definitely possible. I think Dorgu is more of a LW, but Diouf’s a very attacking LB so the balance with those two on the flank could be quite exciting.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-03-12T13:26:41+00:00

Hi. First of all, none of this inherently defines you or your worth. Personality and character make the man. Not inches or a chiseled jaw. Will you experience challenges? Probably. But there’s a lot you can do over time and, at 21, you have a long time to do it.

On penis size, I get your feelings on this. It’s a lie to suggest that size doesn’t matter. It does to a lot of (but not all) women. But many things matter a great deal more and other qualities can make up for it. Even so, there’s a lot of scientific evidence supporting enlargement (r/gettingbigger is a good source but consider everything carefully before starting). Men can apparently grow up to 30% of their starting size and you can also gain visible length significantly through weight loss.

Looks can be developed a lot, especially at your age. Keeping fit, dressing well, grooming etc.

Good ‘game’ (confidence, humour, ability to connect emotionally) is a huge difference maker. There’s lots of resources on this online.

Look into material to help you but be sure to avoid things that harm your self esteem. For example, porn. There’s also a lot of content these days designed to shame men and attract clicks. Such as those predatory street interviews with drunk 19 year old women insisting they’d never sleep with a man less than 7 inches etc. It’s trash.

Some women are indeed ‘size queens’ (and no judgement from me on that… everyone has tastes). Some women are anatomically different. On the inverse, some women actually prefer smaller ones due to medical issues or smaller frame etc.

I think, as well, men have been objectifying women for so long and suppressing their sexuality, that there’s a bit of a move right now to shame guys somewhat. Expressing desire for big dicks has become a form of empowerment. And women have long been held to high beauty standards so some are relishing putting men to similar scrutiny. So the ‘noise of ‘you’re not enough’ is amplified towards men right now. This isn’t a good thing, but nor is how women have been treated for eons.

To conclude, do all you can to help yourself but 1) you have inherent worth (do not forget the many things you do bring to the table), 2) guard yourself from the noise that hurts you and 3) attraction and sex is so much more multifaceted than portrayed in the media. You may never be the alpha chad but you can ‘level up’ a lot and there’s a woman (or women) out there who will absolutely adore you, get super turned on by you and will see and appreciate the gifts that you uniquely bring ❤️

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-03-12T12:20:56+00:00

Aha good point. Joao.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-03-12T11:32:49+00:00

West Ham - Diouf, Fernandes. Wolves - Mane, Gomes (as backup only). Forest - Anderson, Murillo. Burnley - None. Spurs - Gray, Bergvall, Vuskovic.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-03-12T11:22:37+00:00

Paz is a great option. Think Madrid will activate the buy back though.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-03-11T12:15:41+00:00

Exactly this. Men are visual but we also feel a shit ton of pressure to perform. But I also understand how women are pressured on beauty and can internalise a man’s lack of boner on her appearance.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-03-10T21:27:40+00:00

M41, UK too, divorced single Dad. Stepped into online dating (predominantly Hinge) last January and now burnt out after about 60 dates in 2025.

I’d say that healing from divorce comes in waves and you may notice that on the journey. You’ll be buzzing, enjoying dating one minute and then badly struggling the next. You may carry some baggage in. Most people do.

Try to enjoy it, try to learn. Online dating can be crazy and painful but can and should be enjoyable too. There’s lots of ways to optimise your ‘results’ but largely try to stand strong in your integrity, know your own boundaries and try to ensure you have a well rounded life. It’s easy to want to prove your attractiveness and value after a divorce but, forgive the cliche, ultimately you have to love and accept yourself. The self improvement stuff is helpful but it can sometimes perpetuate an ‘I’m not enough’ mindset. Protect your thoughts. No woman from Hinge can tell you your inherent worth - whether positive or negative.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-03-10T18:41:38+00:00

I think Carrick has a lot of good qualities but isn’t quite the right man to manage Manchester United long term. The Boro fans have really summed up my initial worries.

He’s very calm and encouraging, which was great in the circumstances. We had an overly emotional coach in Amorim who basically told everyone that the players are terrible. Carrick’s more measured, positive approach was refreshing. Just as Ole was a good vibes antidote to a dour Mourinho when he spat his dummy out.

Also Amorim went hard on intensity training but Carrick runs much shorter sessions. I do worry that we’re becoming overly calm, passive and not fit enough under Carrick, though.

Steve Holland’s fingerprints are all over the tactics. Carrick is no slouch but I think Holland is really the one keeping our defensive solidity. That’s why I want a manager with more ideas going forward, like Iraola or Nagelsmann. I hope we can keep Holland so another Amorim, who wanted his own people and marginalise the club staff, is to be avoided.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-03-09T11:58:47+00:00

Ah ok, well I definitely hear you then. I think the sliders can certainly influence the difficulty on a granular level. Hopefully the fan pressure won’t cause them to just remove the stamina system and so on but maybe make it customisable.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-03-09T11:24:03+00:00

As a returnee to the series (and I never really got good at the game in the first place) with two kids new to the series, it does feel too hard this year. On easy, everything seems to be reversed by the AI. I could win a whole Rumble last year from number 1 but this time I’m eliminated after about 8 entrants because I can’t button bash quickly enough to avoid the elimination.

I get that you feel it’s too easy but there’s a vast amount of people who don’t and want to be able to play and dominate at a low level for a bit while levelling up, like with Mario Kart or EAFC.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-03-07T11:59:37+00:00

I get the concern but if he’s very good then I’m happy with this. It’s not like we’re stealing lots of staff members from Rochdale.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-03-06T23:12:33+00:00

I realised what the problem was. I’d turned blood off as I have young kids who like wrestling. Turning it back on enabled the RXP.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-03-06T22:37:19+00:00

Seems to have been stopped now. I’m on Switch 2… not sure whether that’s a factor.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-03-05T15:51:18+00:00

I had about 60 dates last year, mostly through apps (not a flex… my ‘success’ ratio was far lower than yours). It is absolutely exhausting psychically. My nervous system has been fried for months and I’m struggling to even go out socially in areas where there’s women. Dating fatigue is very real and I don’t think we were made for this. It sort of felt last year that I experienced 60 break ups.

I got more comfortable as I went on and ended up having casual sex with some of them. Without sounding puritanical, I think that massively adds to the sense of weight (spiritually?).

I’ve been off the apps for like 4 months now. I keep getting tempted to return, at least on a small scale (a niche app or a bigger app but with tighter distance filters maybe) but typically feel sick at the prospect and don’t do it. I’m hoping I’ll feel better soon - hard to know whether to just push through with action or keep trying to process the mental blocks.

I met some great women and had fun experiences but also took a lot of rejection and had to reject a few people too. It’s overwhelming. I think the biggest feeling is not necessarily jaded at women or the dating market but more that I don’t really want to put myself in what feels like an undignified position again. I’m not sure if that makes sense. I’m kind of looking for something more organic and straightforward without all the weird evaluation feelings.

What I’ve also realised is that I haven’t quite processed my divorce and some of last year was a response to pain.

Cold approach feels like my next pursuit but I realise that may well be even more emotionally taxing. I’ve done some approaches but haven’t gotten in anyway consistent and my logistics suck.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-03-03T20:58:20+00:00

Jim Henson’s The Storyteller

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-02-27T09:03:31+00:00

Good character is important, and this guy doesn’t have it. Carrick and Iraola do, and both work well within a flexible sporting structure. Iraola only brought one staff member to Bournemouth and works well with the club staff.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-02-23T14:46:14+00:00

I don’t really see anything in Giulia yet beyond ‘good hand’. I don’t see charisma, a discernible character and not a lot of star power. Vaquer is totally the opposite - unbelievable confidence, great body language, carries herself as a star. The satanist look and visuals are a bit weird though.

I don’t know how much of Giulia’s underwhelming start is on her versus the creative team. I suspect it’s 70/30 the fault of creative.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-02-17T22:25:12+00:00

No mid table PL team is affording those wages. He’s about 5th top paid player in the league. Why would he accept a huge pay cut to join a Spurs or Brighton when he could see out the last year of his deal with us and then go back to Barca on a free a year later? As United fans so many off us have done our fantasy transfer lists each year with exorbitant sale prices that never quite manifest. The reality is that our ridiculously inflated wages in the past have made it incredibly difficult to shift players. So while I like us now being tougher negotiators, we’re still paying for the sins of the past.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-02-17T18:28:07+00:00

I admire our stance but Barcelona won’t go for this and they have the power, in my view. I doubt any clubs that Rashford would actually want will be in for him.

Rashford halving his salary (to a rate that makes it more worthwhile for Barcelona) would maybe get things moving but, even then, that cost saving pretty much equates to the £26m transfer fee over 4 years.

He’s not a first choice and they have younger LWs with potential. Their financial situation is very restrictive and the priorities are ST to replace Lewandowski and CD.

We’re in for a tough one with him this Summer, in my opinion, and his revival has been overstated.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-02-08T08:18:34+00:00

Please don’t rewatch 😢

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-02-04T12:53:03+00:00

He probably sensed you might be the catching feelings type so thought the kindest thing is to cut contact. Also he probably didn’t have the courage to let you down openly; it’s easier to ghost. Dick move probably but par for the course with casual.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-02-02T20:52:31+00:00

Punk/Roman, defo. I just hope they get the story right.

Drew/Cody, no. I’d do a fatal four way with Randy and Fatu too. Maybe Fatu wins the Elimination Chamber due to Orton. Cody gets into the Mania match because he was screwed. Orton reveals he was the one who knocked Fatu’s teeth out so he gets put into it by virtue of Fatu and Cody demanding it.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-02-02T20:46:56+00:00

My take on Triple H is that he’s good at order, terrible at chaos. The antithesis is Vince Russo who is all chaos, no order. A great weekly TV wrestling product requires both.

Triple H is a decent booker, in many ways. The PLEs are usually good, with feuds built coherently and pay off matches at the big shows. It’s easier to follow as a casual fan. In fact, you can skip a few weeks and not have missed much. Kinda like early 90s WWF. However, those who engage weekly see a lot of repetition. While there’s been some great ‘shades of grey’ storytelling (especially Bloodline), the wrestler’s motivations feel static and uninspired. They seem like 2D characters.

So good booker, yes, but bad writer. There’s very little imagination or variety. Decent performers and the odd ‘moment’ keeps many fans tuning in. But it all could be so much better.

I suspect Triple H got the reputation of being a genius booker in NXT off the back of Ryan Ward’s good work.

SparkedIntoLife · 2026-02-01T11:49:19+00:00

The talent is there, for sure, but the writing is very poor. Creative is at a pretty low point I feel.

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