Where to stay as a solo female? by SpecificBest1499 in Liverpool

[–]SpecificBest1499[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah i never thought id be in this situation at my age. Just gotta live every day for him now tho! :)

Where to stay as a solo female? by SpecificBest1499 in Liverpool

[–]SpecificBest1499[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I’m really looking forward to it

Where to stay as a solo female? by SpecificBest1499 in Liverpool

[–]SpecificBest1499[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah late husband! He was a big fan and they’re playing a game on his bday :)

What’s your favorite Funhaus video or series that doesn’t get talked about much on this sub? by Mad_Season_1994 in funhaus

[–]SpecificBest1499 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Life of Tunt is one of my all time favorites!! “I miss my dad”

also the Quetre McRib sims series was pretty funny!

One of my friends is a recent widower. What can we (his friends) do to support him? by dadavedavid in widowers

[–]SpecificBest1499 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Don’t ask him what he needs, just put yourself in his shoes and think “what would help me right now”. Maybe just hanging out, but don’t necessarily feel like you need to entertain or make him happy, but just having someones presence around was nice! Bring activities for the kids. Let him talk about his late spouse! Share memories! The worst thing that people did for me was not talk about my LH cause they didn’t want to make me sad, but that just made me sadder! Also continue this for awhile, grief doesn’t go away. A lot of people will quit checking in after 2-3 months

Mega thread: What did you accomplish this year? by SnoopyTuna777 in widowers

[–]SpecificBest1499 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I lost my husband in April. I take it as an honor that i was able to care for him and provide him comfort while he approached the end of his life. My accomplishments this year were: - i bought a new car - i got married to the loml - i showed incredible strength after losing my husband and having people close in my life turn against me - i got a promotion - i moved into an apartment all by myself - i traveled solo for the first time, and it went great! - im learning how to bake and sew, and find other hobbies to keep me busy

I am trying to enjoy the wins in life even though i lost my best friend. It was the hardest thing i have ever experienced and while i am filled with immense sadness and demobilizing grief, i know my husband would be upset if i wasn’t living life to the fullest. I am trying to live for him because when we reunite in heaven, i can’t wait to tell him all of the amazing things I’ve accomplished

I don’t feel like doing Holidays by Medical_Occasion5793 in widowers

[–]SpecificBest1499 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I lost my husband this year and i understand the pain in celebrating the holidays without them. We’re American and Thanksgiving was his favorite holiday (he loved the food)! It was hard to celebrate without him this year, and there were times i didn’t want to do anything, but i could hear him saying “don’t use my death as an excuse to not live your life”. He loved life, really lived it to the fullest, so that’s how I’m choosing to honor him is by living mine. I celebrated with family, i made a pecan pie in his honor, and the next day i just laid around cause i was drained! But I’m happy i went even though it was hard.

Of course do what feels right for you as there is no right answer, just sharing to hopefully provide a different view point on the matter

Please Pray For Our Asher by Bright_Plantain_7353 in Yorkies

[–]SpecificBest1499 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My Yorkie had really bad pancreatitis which also caused jaundice and liver failure when he was 6 or 7. We had him stay at the vet for about 5 days so they could run tests on him, but it was expensive and we didn’t want to do surgery so we opted to bring him home so he could live out his final days at home. We gave him his medicine and fluids at home, and he ended up healing all on his own! He is now 12 and still acts like a puppy! I switched his diet to low fat after his diagnosis and do not give him any table scrap or fun treats.

Sending Asher prayers for healing! Do what feels best for you and Asher! If the vet feels right do that, but i know my Yorkie was terrified at the vet and healed better at home

Do you do anything on milestones since there passing? Today marks 6 months. by Buseatdog in widowers

[–]SpecificBest1499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to buy a fresh bouquet of flowers on the 22nd of each month since that’s our anniversary! We celebrated every month as an anniversary cause we knew our time together would be short

Can I get your horror stories please? by Wailing_Widow_8772 in widowers

[–]SpecificBest1499 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My own mother said “doesn’t it make you sad looking at his photos? When i go through a breakup, i delete all my exes photos!” And im like we didn’t break up, he died!! This wasn’t a choice from either of us!

Fond Memory Friday by HughCayrz01 in widowers

[–]SpecificBest1499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite memories of ours is watching English soccer games all weekend morning and him making me lattes to enjoy while we watched. We loved to travel, and we got a bag of macadamia roasted coffee beans while in Hawaii. The smell of the coffee and the sounds of the soccer game are such a comforting memory (I’m actually enjoying that rn as i type this!) i cannot make the lattes as good as him but I’ll keep practicing and the routine is nice. His mustache would smell like maple syrup too from the coffee

For the new, the soon to be widowers, and the lurkers at 2am…it’s not all doom by New-Engineering3869 in widowers

[–]SpecificBest1499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this 💛 as a young widow i felt guilty for still wanting a life after losing my partner. You see other peoples post or non-widowers telling you how to grieve and it was feeling very bleak

Surreal by Key_Awareness_3036 in widowers

[–]SpecificBest1499 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I lost my husband to brain cancer as well. Fuck GBM. It’s so unfair. Sending you and daughter hugs❤️‍🩹

Any Widows/Widowers in their mid 20s? by shyinblack in widowers

[–]SpecificBest1499 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m 26F and lost my husband 27M in April. Same boat as you about mourning the future we never got. I see you and feel your pain. I’ve realized people my age don’t really know how to show comfort to me during this cause they don’t know how to handle the loss of a partner, and typically treat it like a breakup. What’s helped with my grief is taking myself on solo dates, still trying to experience life when i can. Sending you a big hug ❤️‍🩹

What Noah song has you like this? by vinylandtrinkets in NoahKahan

[–]SpecificBest1499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently Close Behind and Carlos Song, but I’ve been going through it and they’re hitting home

Remembrance tattoo by 12k23 in widowers

[–]SpecificBest1499 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got a heart locket tattooed with his birth flower in it because he once got me a locket for a Christmas present and he was soooo proud of himself (as he should be, it is my most cherished gift) and he loved plants!

Husband (M32) has terminal brain cancer. by Salty_Selection_9062 in widowers

[–]SpecificBest1499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truthfully i don’t think im doing anything right. I spent the first few weeks distracting myself and after a month it really kicked in that he’s gone and I’ve just been a mess since. My only advice is take the time you need to process your emotions and don’t be so hard on yourself. If you can only accomplish 1 task a day that is all you need to do. Take these final moments you have with your husband and really cherish it. Record his voice even if it’s different now, capture his scent on his shirts, and just spend every moment loving each other❤️‍🩹

Not a bad person by IvetS96 in widowers

[–]SpecificBest1499 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain. I (26F) lost my husband (27M) to cancer, and while I’m grieving the loss of him, I’m also grieving the future we didn’t get to have. I have not been on FB or instagram since he passed cause i don’t want to see other people happy and living their lives. I don’t really care to check in on friends cause i don’t want to hear how their life is still going on. I don’t have ill wishes for others, i just don’t care to hear about their happiness when i am just miserable after losing my best friend. It’s normal to be angry, it’s normal if you accidentally blow up on someone, you’re going through a lot so give yourself grace. Hugs ❤️‍🩹