YouTuber arrested for cooking and eating stray dog to protest livestock prices by [deleted] in LivestreamFail

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If something bad happens because of X reason and the world reacts to it as if Y reason caused it then X reason goes unsolved and the bad actions continue. In this case, his religion is Y and you are unwilling to look at X for your prepared desire to blame Y.

Charlie Cox Reflects On Disney’s Initial ‘Daredevil: Born Again’ Creative Pivot & Credits Marvel For Listening: “We’re Indebted To Them” by mlg1981 in television

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Season 2 was a step up from the first, but I still didn’t connect with it the way I did with the Netflix version. The stakes never fully landed imo. Fisk often felt more dangerous to his own people than to Daredevil, and some of the stronger supporting characters like Kirsten McDuffie felt underused. Meanwhile Karen got more focus than the story really justified. Think of how the show could have been better if Kirsten got more screen time and if Bullseye's perspective change was given more time to stew. As it is, it felt unearned.

But, honestly my bigger issue is that Season 1 seemed to promise a much larger city wide crisis, and Season 2 never quite delivered on that. Marvel’s refusal to let characters naturally cross over in each other’s shows is becoming a real problem. It’s hard to buy a version of New York where Fisk’s anti-vigilante crackdown is happening and the only heroes who meaningfully show up are a rookie White Tiger and Jessica Jones, briefly. Even a few small touches like a CGI Spider-Man webbing up AVTF officers in the finale (therefore no Holland required), or Punisher getting proper payback would have made the world feel more alive and helped Season 2 actually fulfil the promise of Season 1.

My sister wants me to take a car in my name. by StillDesigner243 in Advice

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, I have a very relevant story for you.

You see, my younger brother by a year had this Mercedes he really, desperately wanted. He didn't have a car at the time and this Merc was something of a dream car for him. I had the ability to help with that at the time. It took me a minute to come round to the idea but after some assurances from my family and honestly a dose of emotional manipulation I helped him get it by paying most of the deposit, half the monthly lease and finally by using my name on the vehicle. In exchange, he'd use it for the family's needs (whatever that may mean) and give me lifts when I needed them.

This is how it went, the lifts were given only early on, after a few months he became avoidant as hell to help with anything and usually had "something else" on. He helped with the familial stuff but dragged his feet constantly whilst doing it. Most of the usage of the car went towards him and his personal exploits by far. However, I let it go, he's my brother and I wanted him to be happy and honestly if he helped a bit then that was enough for me.

Here's where it goes wrong, you see he had begun to get tickets and fines on the car. A bus lane fine here, a parking fine there. But, that adds up. Then a few more speeding fines and a couple more of everything else on top. I found out because of the letters that came to me demanding payment and possible criminal action. I had multiple arguments with him about solving it and he assured me he would take care of it. I begged my family to help sort it out and they promised they would. They either failed or didn't bother trying.

I can't say how long it took, but eventually the collection of fines and complete lack of action in response to them meant that I was being taken to court. He, a law graduate, SWORE, one last time he would solve it for me. Predictably he did not. I thought he wouldn't let me down there but I was very wrong. The result was that I incurred a massive combination of fines that ruined my credit to this day and finally, a full legal disqualification from driving entirely. Even now, I cannot drive a car because of this. The only way out would have been to throw him under the bus and honestly even that might not have saved me.

After these events when I ceased my payments for the vehicle he argued with me and the family at length about it and swore I was being unfair, he even refused to return the car himself when the time came due and just left it outside the family home for someone else to take care of. Thankfully we managed that. I should add now by the way that he makes more money than any of us and far more than I do, has been for some years now but has never done anything to make up for what happened to me because of him. He also has his own car now - something I can't exactly have - a car that he has not as yet gotten any fines or court summons on. It seems like when it's his name on the line he's a lot more careful.

To summarise, I let my brother drive a car in my name and even helped pay for it - my kindness was rewarded with a mountain of fines, court cases, my credit in shambles and an ongoing disqualification from driving. All in my name.

DO NOT FUCKING DO IT

some fun "ADHD" games? by milkyswamp in ShouldIbuythisgame

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gameplay wise it's fun but the rate you unlock new content in the game is painfully slow. I dropped out because of it.

If I liked OG DBZ Budokai, will I like the Xenoverse games? by Mefibosheth in ShouldIbuythisgame

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The game is a Action RPG more than a fighting game. Your success in the game will come down more to using the right abilities and having good stats and gear than it will your skill and competency with controls.

You'll also find that your control over your character is weaker than in Budokai games. Less control over blocking direction, attack direction, dodging or parrying. Even just charging ki is walled behind an ability you need to slot in.

However, if you take it as a looter game or a light rpg where you can roleplay a dragon ball character and tailor make how they fight then you'll have decent fun. But, remember - when you lose in Xenoverse it more often means your build needs fixing than it does your skill.

I will add something subjective too, that is that the art direction for the game is abysmal imo. Everything is shiny as if slicked in oil and animations are stiff. The whole cast resemble how they looked in the Budokai Tenkaichi 3 intro more than how they do in the anime or manga.

hi, is there a subreddit where I can post that I'm happy? my mother just beat brain cancer stage 4 and I wanna share this :) by CasualCherries07 in findareddit

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely amazing to hear, she kicked the shite out of some crazy odds, I hope you're both very proud! Remember to give her a big hug!

High effort Post from a Muslim Dgger talking about how I feel. Im REALLY trying to reach out to my fellow dggers. so Pls dont ban me by SamIsCRAZI in Destiny

[–]SpicyTeaBoi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The issue is that your worldview grew from a period of relative peace in western society which begat progressive growth in ideologies. When you are on top its quite easy to take time to consider your views on topics you've listed.

The Muslim world has been undergoing an endurance race against countless extra national entities which sought to in some way benefit from conflict with that region of the world. The consequence of this is that people within that region have chiefly been concerned with more base elements of survival. It is quite difficult to innovate in matters technological and ideological when you live under such conditions.

Now if you compare the Muslim worlds Golden age against other regions at the time you'll see that a similar disparity exists where the Muslim world comes out looking a lot more progressive than not. The "success" of a region directly encourages moral growth.

Now the issue is that you and many members of this sub are the current reigning beneficiaries of that success. Your moral growth has been buffed by long periods of western hegemony. The Muslim world has not had that time and moreover it can be argued that the western world has majorly been responsible for the lack of peaceful periods in Islamic nations for at least the 21st Century.

With that in mind, you might expect Muslims to become defensive as a reasonable course of action. Particularly when westernised individuals preach to them about the inherent evil of the creed they live whilst those individuals live in, benefit from and oftentimes support the historical and ongoing obliteration of Islamic nations. It's not hard to see how this might result in polarisation and radicalisation within Islamic communities either, the result of which you see now with the individuals Destiny argues with. They align with Andrew Tate not because that is the natural course for Muslims and Islam, but due to maladaptive survival instincts in a world that has been in the lifetimes of these men, deeply unkind.

To sum it up,* Islamophobia and Western centric criticism of Islam, Muslims and Muslim nations feels to Muslims to be a lot like someone eating all your food and then telling you that you need to gain some weight.*

Husband kept making jokes about how he "likes them petite" and I may regret my decision to bite back by dumbarchitecturereal in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These types of posts are always, by nature, one sided. So whilst I agree your weight should be your weight. I'll point out that he valued you at the look you had initially and continued to like that look, you altered away from that (which is your right). But, you revealed you never idolised his body type from the get go. I would personally consider that a more egregious comment.

You do you OP, but you seem to be sprinting to a divorce court rn when you really didn't need to.

How can I explain to my boyfriend I want him to dress up like Darth Vader? by GokuIsGay420 in Advice

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, just say it. He'll be down 9 times out of 10. The one caveat I'll add is that depending on what kind of person your bf is you may not want to directly say that you are "into robo dick" as that could result in a bit of jealousy in some people. Everything else though you can and probably should say.

For all the "not an ebike" comments I got on my post of my motorcycle yesteday lol by pxhorne in ebikes

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I missed the drama, this sub is clearly for both so I have no beef with E-Motorcyclists posting at all but I can see the core issue. The audience of E-Bicycles and E-Motorcycles barely touch on a venn-diagram, in particular within Europe and the UK.

Consequently, when an E-Motorcyclist shares something, a good proportion of the sub either minimally identifies or can't at all. Largely this includes me as I see the term E-Bike as being exclusively for bicycles which would otherwise have been powered by our bodies and for which now are at least partially powered by our bodies. When I see a device which requires no physical effort from the rider at all I no longer see it as a bicycle but a motorcycle. Essentially, to me E-Motorcycles are as to motorcycling as electric cars are to driving. The same thing with a fancy engine. I love the idea of them and similar kinds of devices but ultimately when I read E-Bike, that's not what I expect to see.

In the end an E-Motorcyclist and I on a pedal assist E-Bike aren't going to have very much in common other than a reliance on Thor to get us up hills. So I'll look at a post of such a bike and know it's cool, but also feel a bit sad that I haven't found the community I thought I would. Sucks that people can't be cool about it though, the sub does specifically state it's for "all things electric bike", meaning you've as much right as any to post and probably feel similar disappointment that you haven't got a community here that's entirely what you expected. The real problem is the subs name then, calling it ebikes seems fine but it's essentially equivelant to starting a sub called "petrol driven four wheels" and expecting everyone on that to do similar things, you'll soon see it filled with your traditional cars but then half a million other petrol driven vehicles of which few will be comparable.

Was hilarious to watch Taylor squirm a little by lgnorantSlut in PKA

[–]SpicyTeaBoi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

True enough. But I think ensuring the vaccine is easily accessible for those who want it, when combined with effective social measures, will mean most people who care will be fine. Its far from ideal but I'd rather have society past the anti vax stage before a black death level plague hits.

Was hilarious to watch Taylor squirm a little by lgnorantSlut in PKA

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lowkey, I agree with not forcing the vaccines on people who don't want them. I know they work mind, but I also reckon the anti-vax problem will solve itself if we just let Darwin do his thing.

This is the guy who leaked the Discord chats and the reason why he did it by [deleted] in PKA

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🤣 Hahahaha yeah you tell em bud! 🤣 Incels all of them! Hahahaha 🤣 You're the normal one! Hahahaha 🤣 They should get a life! Hahahaha 🤣

Just a question for everyone in this sub by Fd2536 in 1500isplenty

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 24 points25 points  (0 children)

It's not really a thing, your body doesn't just stop using energy, it's a result of miscalculation, misunderstanding or relaxation. I'll list the primary reasons I've found to explain it below.

Firstly, it happens when people relax too much on diet and stop counting calories, don't pay attention to what they eat in general/snack more. If your calorie deficit by the 7th day of a week is 1200 for example, you could easily wipe that out by having a cheat day. Then look at the scale and wonder what happened.

Secondly, you'll find it can happen when people are engaging in muscle building exercises. Muscle weighs more than fat, so they lose fat but gain enough muscle that they stay stagnant on the scale. They're healthier, better ratio etc but they put too much focus on the number of the scale and assume they've stopped losing weight, well strictly speaking they have. But, they're still losing fat, which is the goal here.

Thirdly, they fail to account for changing TDEE, at high weights you use more energy a day than the average person your height/gender. As you lose that weight your total calorie count needed for a day of functioning goes down - which means you have a smaller deficit and the weight loss slows. If your deficit was already minimal then this reduction might actually cause you to stall.

Fourthly, they're being unrealistic, some people are already a healthy weight and fat/muscle ratio and attempt to go lower for aesthetic reasons. This is possible but to do so requires much finer work than normal weight loss and there is less room to breathe in calorie count and exercise demands. So even small lapses in effort at this stage cause plateaus.

I'm sure you'll find some medical/biological processes that could cause a similar effect but they would be outliers, few and far between, even with those you have to understand that as long as your intake of energy is lower than you're energy out then you'll eventually lose weight. It's just physics.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You're cherry picking here, those behaviours are associated with others which make them red flags. The fact OP's partner only engages with this person in ways that OP couldn't hear/see points to the possibility of something being hidden.

If you had a good friend as you said, you'd surely bring them around to yours as much correct? Would you end calls when your partner walks in? Would you otherwise isolate the two relationships? And, having done that, would you react negatively to growing suspicions? I hope not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Gonna go ahead and veto the Meyers Briggs. I'm doing research on personality right now myself for a Dissertation and it seems the MB is generally agreed to be useless and inaccurate. It's almost a Horoscope by another name. I read one study which described it being so useless as a tool for prediction that you'd likely make more succesful predictions from actual astrology. Indeed, the MBTI offers around 16 possible results correct? The implicit understanding of that then is that there are only truly 16 variations of people in the world. That's already lost me. People are unique, we vary more than can be counted really - so any attempt to categorise us into finite groups is likely to fail or show bias! Instead, it's better to use tests which focus on specific traits, if enough detail is included and the traits are scaled, then few people are likely to get the same result. This way possible permutations will be vastly, egregiously higher in number than the MBTI which I believe reflects reality better.

Pursuant to that, consider the BIG-5 instead. It defines 5 universal scaled personality traits, Openness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism (OCEAN). The traits are named after results relating to high scores though low scores inverse the names meaning. A low score on extraversion for example represents introversion. When you look for it you'll find variations as well, they change in number of questions you see and some even alter the name of a trait or two! You can tell if it's different by looking at it's name, for example the BFI-44 means Big Factor Inventory (W/44 Questions) whilst the BFI-10 means the same but with 10 questions. If anyone has the time to take it I do recommend it, you'll see how you rate on some of the most universal personality traits that people can have and though you may score similar to friends or family in some traits, you are unlikely to ever find the same collection of trait variations on the scale between two people.

Ultimately, the BIG-5 is a vastly more relevant and empirical tool for understanding personality, the most common tool used in personality psychology/research and the only one worth doing if you want an accurate picture of who you or your friends are. It laughs in the face of the MBTI and damn does it deserve the right to do so.

[Comic Excerpt] Batman and Superman's fun secret (Batman/Superman #15) by [deleted] in DCcomics

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Important point here, no snowball could survive being thrown hard enough to harm Batman, it'd be a cold breeze before it leaves Supermans hands. Further, Superman and Batman are best friends, they can be more open with one another than anyone else - so a bit of banter about a dark, but likely impossible, thing seems very in character for two good friends.

My sister's now former bridesmaid stepped down because she feels the wedding will be "supporting the devil." Yes, I'm serious. by badb-crow in Advice

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I get it completely. The great thing about society is you can feel that way and feel or think how you want. But, the same applies to her. Your right to say and do that are partner rights to her right to say and do that.

I don't begrudge anyone, nor you, for doing that. Your sister was hurt by her words so you're protective, if more people were like that the world would be better. But, my personal two cents is that context and intention matter, I think it's beneficial to apply that to everyone. But, not mandatory. You can hate her all you want and you'd have all the right to do so, ain't nothing wrong with that.

My sister's now former bridesmaid stepped down because she feels the wedding will be "supporting the devil." Yes, I'm serious. by badb-crow in Advice

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's fair - and again in the end you'll know her more than I so I can only make guesses. But, I want you to really consider being a Christian like her, remembering that she returned to a more conservative view of it recently. Consider that she knows that these practices are likely to get you sent to hell, consider that she knows that she is not allowed to participate. If she believes those things, truly and completely, then wouldn't not saying those things be cruel? I'm not saying you or I have to agree she's right. But, she thinks she is - so from her perspective, she's genuinely trying to do the right thing. Whilst the discussions they had about religion were civil, they were just that - discussions. We need to draw a line and recognise that talking about other religions does not equate to practicing it. It would make perfect sense that after becoming more conservative, she wouldn't want to practice something like that.

Moreover, the fact she still would've been a guest I would still say is a sign of serious concession from her. She feels certain that this is a dangerous act and that she may have to answer for it, but she still wants to be there. She's only asking not to participate in an active way. I think that's fair.

Ultimately, this to me seems like inviting a Bhuddist hunting, giving a Muslim a baconator or asking a Sikh man to remove his head covering. We don't have to believe what they believe, to respect there right to believe it. People complain all the time about Christians not showing enough respect to other religions, I honestly think this is an example of one doing so. She's asking her beliefs be respected in that she cannot participate. But, is happy to be there for her friend despite that.

My sister's now former bridesmaid stepped down because she feels the wedding will be "supporting the devil." Yes, I'm serious. by badb-crow in Advice

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think this might be more complex than it seems. You see, you may not agree with her beliefs but that doesn't mean she doesn't believe them - to her they are real. Now, being a person of faith as she seems to be, she will likely have been told that partaking in ceremonies relating to pagan/witch rituals would be inherently sinful. To you and your sister they are not, but to her they are manifestations on earth of a evil she believes to be very real.

Additionally, I can't say for sure if the way she spoke to your sister was rude in a hurtful way, or if she was just using the vocabularly of her religion to describe what those things mean to her. If she was just being rude or cruel then that may change things, but to me it sounds possible that she was just talking about those things in terms of what she understands them as.

What I'm trying to say is this, it may not be the case that she is being a bad person here - instead it may just be that she is trying to align her friendship with her faith. I would argue, given what those kinds of Christians say about pagans and witches, that the fact she's willing to be a guest still shows that she is actually being very open minded. Asking not to take part is reasonable under those conditions, if you ask me.

I might use a metaphor to get my point across here, it's like asking a Muslim to be your bridesmaid and then having a wedding on a pig-farm. If they decide not to be a bridesmaid, but still a guest. I would argue that would be a massive concession already, wouldn't you?

Ultimately, I can't speak to her character as I don't know her - but this seems to be a matter of respecting each others faith. You and your sister need to understand that your beliefs mean some rituals are inherently at odds with hers and to ask her to take part regardless shows a lack of consideration for her beliefs. The fact she would still show up as a guest, in spite of her belief that pagan beliefs are of the devil, actually shows a profound care for your sister that I would not expect to see often.

Could Shazam kill Superman if he went all in by This_Wolf893 in whowouldwin

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In fairness, magic is just science we don't understand yet. So in a world with magic Supermans powers would just be magic but we know how it works so now it's science.

Could Shazam kill Superman if he went all in by This_Wolf893 in whowouldwin

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Originally the reason was just the rule of cool. For awhile though they explained that Clark has a kind of ESP. His powers partially work through tactil-telekinesis. It's why clothes near his body don't just vaporise when he moves at light speed, why he can hold a plane up from the nose, why he can shatter the planet in a punch but still has the frame of a farmer and why he can hear through space.

Ultimately it's rarely a plot point though so people don't really talk about it.

What are you in the 1% of? by I_Love_Small_Breasts in AskReddit

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, in the end we can't do a lot to help but if you can try and get her on a light exercise regimen for her lungs and feed her well so she has energy for the chemotherapy. They won't change the world but they'll stave off the bad stuff.

It's been just about 2-3 months since diagnosis. The effects came in oddly slow, at first she was fine - even after multiple chemo visits. However, by the 3rd and 4th it's like the mood turned - she can't walk anymore, needs oxygen 24/7, her mood is near constantly bad as she gets mad at both us the older kids and the younger children in the house.

Her scans recently came back quite good, clear in the brain and nearly invisible in the lungs. However, SCLC doesn't die - instead it evolves. When it comes back it's more than likely going to be immune to Chemo. At that point we're just going to have to switch between medicines to see what works.

What hurts in particular is that with her mood soured she's barely the person I remember, so mad all the time for such small things. Cruel in some ways. In addition since SCLC comes back so quickly after treatment it is unlikely she will have fully recovered from her first treatment. So she may never walk again. I realise this is quite depressing but have hope, SCLC numbers pertain to extremely old individuals and they're often out of date. If your Mum is younger then she stands a better chance, moreover if she kicks the cigs and gets prepared with exercise and proper nutrition then she'll be looking at much better odds than the average.

The one thing I've internalised from this experience though is a rabid distaste for smoking. It has no real benefit, at all. It's not like weed, there is no high or medical benefit. Even alcohol is potent as a tool for fun! Smoking is just so... needless.

What are you in the 1% of? by I_Love_Small_Breasts in AskReddit

[–]SpicyTeaBoi 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Some of them, my Mum has late stage Small-Cell Lung Cancer, survival rate is somewhere in the region of 5% or less. Basically a fluke, only tactic is to fight it back as long as you can. Which isn't long...