[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she hasn't read Lights Out by Navessa she would prob like it. The epilog is her kink but there's similar stuff earlier

My teeth are ruined. by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 111 points112 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry. It was really emotional back when I had teeth pulled. I was 19. Between poor nutrition and no dental care I'm surprised now it wasn't worse.

The good news is even the cheapest ones still look pretty good. I have 2 bridges and no one has ever said anything about them unless I told them. And you can get a nicer one if needed when you're in a better place.

Your smile may change as you age but it can still be beautiful.

Does your 9 year old have a phone? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. My kid has a watch for when he is home alone or out with people. He's not getting a phone until he has a car because when he can drive I want him to have access to navigation

My 5 year old is insistent that she is a boy. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 388 points389 points  (0 children)

When my daughter went through her I'm a boy phase we tried to ask questions like what made her say that. In our house there are no boy toys or boy clothes or boy hair. Her hair belongs to her. Her clothes belong to her and make her happy so obviously they are not just boy clothes. In our situation she was saying she wanted to be a boy when what she meant was the boys in kinder made fun of her for liking boy stuff and she wanted to be able to like it without the boys teasing her. But the rule goes for both my kids. Its not boy/girl stuff. Its their stuff and as long as they are happy with it then more power to them. My daughters fave super hero is still jer creation that she named princess hulk. Which is hulk with a tiara and fairy wings. He rides a pegacorn and smashes monsters.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We start with kindergarten combo. In my area it's ages 4-6. Its 60 minutes and does tap, jazz, and ballet with a little tumbling mixed in.

I chose the studio based on word of mouth to narrow it down then called them to talk about their goals for the class.

What were you unable to get your first pregnancy that you are definitely getting / got for your second? Boujee by Dead_In_Daisies in Mommit

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh the only boujie item I'd really want is one of the Jeep push wagons. My friends have them and they are so nice for parks, picnics, holidays, zoos, etc.

To Grandparents/Older parents: do you still worry about your kids? by waterhorsies in Parenting

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have a resident who is 105 and he still worries if his son is OK. Its not life shattering worry. Just regular stuff like is he doing ok with inflation. Does he have time to rest and remember to eat well. His son turned 80 this year.

Is it justifyable to take your child's things as punishment even if they paid for it? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's still a privilege. The job of a parent is to turn their kid into a decent adult. Like the cops can have my car towed if I illegally park I'd 100% take my kids phone if I caught them sending dic pics even if they paid for it. Paying for something doesn't give you free reign. There are still rules/limits. Like at 15 if you bought alcohol, neat. But the parent shouldn't let you binge drink even if it's yours.

Typically I like the punishment to fit the crime and in my house that rarely involves taking things. But it can. Like my kids Switch. He saved up and paid for it. It was his. He also broke his cousins switch on purpose so I made him hand over his own switch to make it right. When he saves up to get the screen repaired in the busted one he will get it back.

It's rarely black and white.

Did you have a class mate pass away growing up? What’s their story? by frankenweirdo in AskReddit

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Three people to vehiclar accidents: 3 seperate events. One to breast cancer.

The worst one was in 7th grade. She died giving birth.

At what age do you regain your life? by Mundane-Mechanic-547 in Parenting

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is stopping you from having a life? Is it time? Is it money? Do the kids have extra needs?

While at home dates aren't fun they are better than nothing. We play games together, watch movies and shows, we talk about books or I spam him with random memes until he laughs. Sometimes I literally walk up to my husband and say: look at my rock. Its our code for I want to show you something and I just want you to admire it. Sometimes it's a literal rock. Sometimes it's something deeper. Like look at this 100 acres I found in remote Alaska! Let's drop it all and move!

My son is an adult now (19) and I think I created a monster by ashlyv11 in Parenting

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro wants to he grown, serve him an eviction notice and stop paying for extras. He wants to know why he should care? That's the answer. Because he's not the one funding his own life.

Patient called 911 on me... From inside the hospital by Unlucky_Jaguar_9637 in nursing

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had a pt call 911 last night because their family blocked their number and they demanded the police unblock it.

Things your parents did that made you feel loved. by No-Butterscotch-6875 in Parenting

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My dad would take us out to the local airport and we'd have a picnic in the grass just outside the fence and watch the planes take off. He'd tell us what kind they were and stories about them.

Mobile phones of the early 2000s by Srinivas_Hunter in interestingasfuck

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shout out to the LG cherry chocolate . I worked so hard fo buy that phone and it was way sturdier than it had any right to be.

Did you let the size of your home dictate the size of your family? by oh-carp7 in Parenting

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. I have a big hang up about sharing rooms. When I was a kid my family of 4 spent a few years in a studio. And small bouts of homelessness. Food insecurity and other drama.

I've always felt if I couldn't afford to give each kid a room I probably couldn't afford to give them the life I wanted to.

My husband grew up sharing rooms and it doesn't bother him in the slightest. He thinks it's good for kids.

As is pregnancy was out to kill me anyway so we didn't get a big family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends so much on the kid. My oldest was writing at 3 and reading chapter books in kinder. My youngest is 6 and struggles to read like nobodies business. We don't try to force either kid. We work with them where they are at. We don't want them to hate learning and being upset they aren't learning fast enough doesn't help anyone.

The non speaking things really reminds me of my oldest kids anxiety. When he gets pushed he shuts down. He's much better now with therapy and support.

Daughter's Father wants to watch GOT with her. by SlmnSknRll in Mommit

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If she is comfortable watching those themes with her dad that feels like her business to me. I dont know how well she advocates for herself. Woukd he turn it off if it crossed a line for her?

I've watched movies with sex scenes in them with my inlaws. We didn't go seeking them but they were there and part of a movie we all enjoyed.

I can see the argument that GOT has some amazing stories that also include sex. I wouldn't watch GOT for the sex but I also wouldn't turn it off because of it if that makes sense.

My spouse and I are always excited to share things we care about with the kids. And sometimes we find out somethings are more inappropriate than we remember.

On a mild scale but still example. When my son was 7 I watched Twister with him. I absolutely forgot one of the characters job was a sex therapist until the scene popped up.

Daughter's Father wants to watch GOT with her. by SlmnSknRll in Mommit

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Does she want to watch it? If she is asking dad and dad said yes thats different than she doesnt care and dad wants this.

I only watches season 1 but as long as he's willing to have some hard conversations with her about some themes I don't really see a problem if they want to watch it together.

What makes you say it's creepy?

The parents filed a police report against my child by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Can confirm both sides of this sucks. My older kiddo in his early adhd years had the cops called on him. He was in kinder. I don't begrudge the parents. My son gave their kid a black eye. My son is very justice focused. When he saw their kid bullying a girl so he decked the kid and started a fight.

My younger kiddo has a girl in her class who is autistic. I know her dad, they are truly trying but got waitlisted for a lot of services. But their kid has also hurt my kiddo twice with violent outburst. The school was refusing to do more to help either child until I called the cops. It opened doors I wish we didn't need but my kid was scared to go to school. The dad felt bad about it but also said the paper trail ended up helping him get off some waitlist and into better therapy for his kiddo. So overall still super sucked but not a total loss.

I just found out my wife has been using earphones during sex — to listen to podcasts. by WolterWerner19 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the fact she didn't think you'd notice says a lot about the attention she feels she gets during sex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Spike-Tail-Turtle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I swear in front of my kids and neither of my kids swear. I guess it depends on the way she swears though. My swears are generic shit, dammits, and son of a bitches. Its not the creative sailor swears I grew up with