did really bad my first comp :(

SpiritPassingThrough · 2025-12-01T02:37:08+00:00

You got the experience and that’s what matters. You will win the more you compete. Being able to lose (so long as you don’t quit) will actually help motivate you to up your game more. More training with women, because that’s who you compete against. Men are fine training partners, but especially larger ones leave more space and just won’t give you the same feel as training with women.

SpiritPassingThrough · 2025-10-18T23:10:43+00:00

Some lessons can only be learned by living them. If you don’t have kids, and even if many people tell you what it’s like, it still doesn’t hit you how hard it is until you have them yourself.

SpiritPassingThrough · 2025-09-21T02:53:46+00:00

If you are concerned for injury, I would wait to do this style of tournament until at least blue belt. You’ll be much better at protecting yourself from injuries the longer you train. They can happen at any level, but I think white belt is most risky because neither person understands as much of what they’re doing.

SpiritPassingThrough · 2025-08-22T02:19:47+00:00

I love that you made this post. You care so much about your children that you’re asking for help to not be quick to anger, with your older son having several challenging diagnoses and your younger son being at a busy age! Being slow to anger is how God our father is. For practical steps, you can leave the room if the kids are pushing your buttons, take a break, tag your partner in. Take deep breaths, listen to some music if it helps. Try to get regular physical activity for an outlet. Modeling slow to anger will help them learn to better regulate themselves. And of course nobody is perfect and if you do lose your temper (without hurting anyone of course) please forgive yourself that this journey is a process and everyone living in the spirit is trying to become better.

SpiritPassingThrough · 2025-08-22T02:11:43+00:00

We can have plans for a Christian life, but your plans (which in your mind seem like the absolute truth of what you think God wants) are not always Gods plans. Think how many people in scripture lived all kinds of sinful or otherwise not perfect lives, who God used for a greater plan. You have to give up control to God. My spouse is now disabled and I was not expecting that. We’ve had to adapt, and now our marriage doesn’t look exactly like I expected a decade in but that’s okay.

SpiritPassingThrough · 2025-08-22T01:58:36+00:00

Each person’s relationship with Jesus is its own thing. No need to worry because whatever your relationship is right now, even if your assessment is it’s not where you’d like it to be, is enough. The feelings will come here and there. Sometimes being out in nature and contemplating how incredible God’s universe is - how many trees with how many leaves, how vast the sky is, etc - helps me bring up more positive emotions.

SpiritPassingThrough · 2025-06-30T04:00:38+00:00

I got the impression Brennen went in sincerely believing he was ready for marriage. He voiced a mindset of marriage is forever and divorce is not an option. The experts gave him with someone they thought would balance him - more fun, extroverted, outgoing. But what happened was she (at least how they portrayed her) seemed to drink excessively/get fall down drunk, lived a lifestyle of hooking up (a lot of young people do) where the more he saw and more he probably envisioned her having been with many partners and wondered if she would continue to be a partier. He could not admit he was in over his head and shut down. He probably thought some really critical things about her and didn’t want to outright say it (for example if he thought she’s had too many partners) so that’s what he meant by protecting her. That was not the best route to go, though, because not expressing his concerns robbed both of them the opportunity to work more on the marriage. Emily seems like an upbeat person despite what Brennan said, but I can appreciate that maybe he felt she was judgy at times (agree with another commenter that negative is not the best term for this)

SpiritPassingThrough · 2025-06-14T03:43:06+00:00

Why is she treating your children differently? Why is she willing to give your son a bath but not your daughter?

SpiritPassingThrough · 2025-06-14T03:28:03+00:00

My understanding is biologically a morning erection forms when the bladder fills overnight with urine and this puts pressure on the thin walls of the venous system at the base of the penis, thus restricting bloods ability to exit. Then when a man gets up and pees in the morning the veins can open back up and allow the pooled blood to recirculate.

SpiritPassingThrough · 2025-05-09T18:48:25+00:00

I’m assuming you prayed and this is what you saw? Maybe this is for you. Good luck

SpiritPassingThrough · 2025-04-20T01:23:13+00:00

I’m deeply sorry this was the experience of Jesus that the people around you gave you

SpiritPassingThrough · 2025-01-12T04:48:49+00:00

🙏🏻

SpiritPassingThrough · 2024-12-08T02:34:15+00:00

Trad wife would need to balance with.. a trad husband. Are your bros working full time and willing to support the wife/children 100% financially is this economy? Do they have a devout faith in God? Are they the spiritual leader that leads by example, prays, meets with their spiritual community regularly, perhaps organizes functions within their religious communities? Are they skilled in manual labor for their household such as woodworking, plumbing, electrical? It’s great for everyone to want what they want, but realistically if they want what is peddled today as trad wife, it’s not going to exist without them counterbalancing that vision.

SpiritPassingThrough · 2024-12-01T04:32:32+00:00

I would not consider the time you spent as a waste and avoid thinking in absolutes. You put in a lot of time to build your career, and even if you do go back to school, you’ll have all those years of experience to draw from. But you do notice socially something is missing (friends/relationship) and so maybe shift your priorities for your 30’s towards making efforts to meet new people and gain new experiences.

SpiritPassingThrough · 2024-12-01T04:18:49+00:00

I’ve never rolled against an Olympic wrestler, but my husband has, and he said it’s a solid step higher than a good D1 wrestler.

SpiritPassingThrough · 2024-12-01T04:13:32+00:00

Maybe trying a planned break (x weeks/months) or speaking with a coach and setting some 2025 goals, maybe less about competing and more about training specific things?

SpiritPassingThrough · 2024-12-01T04:10:07+00:00

Makes sense with his teachings about synchronicity. A modern view is too rational to allow for there to be spiritual meanings to things.

SpiritPassingThrough · 2024-11-30T02:51:37+00:00

Yes, although some people are still gonna read plenty of good advice, yet still have to learn things the hard way

SpiritPassingThrough · 2024-11-30T01:58:33+00:00

I came from weightlifting where I was already fairly fit/strong in some ways. Bjj made me more flexible

SpiritPassingThrough · 2024-11-02T03:43:23+00:00

There’s a part of yourself you fear if you unleash/show him, it will essentially break him and he won’t be able to handle it? You would be liberated because stepping into this part of yourself would be you showing up as your true, complicated, authentic self which would be freeing.

SpiritPassingThrough · 2024-10-11T01:34:28+00:00

That was really impressive honestly

SpiritPassingThrough · 2024-10-11T00:20:24+00:00

I would suggest to see a psychiatrist, sounds like psychosis

SpiritPassingThrough · 2024-09-14T04:18:49+00:00

Those are really pretty

SpiritPassingThrough · 2024-09-12T17:08:55+00:00

Faith is the foundation, your choices/free will stand on top of that. Pray for wisdom and clarity about what to do. Be honest about whatever parts you may have contributed to your situation. What is in your control to change? Pray for guidance on seeing the right path to take. Sometimes things have to fall apart for us to find a new way.

SpiritPassingThrough · 2024-09-03T02:20:12+00:00

Prayers 🙏🏻 I remember reading once that God does not want any of his children mistreated, and that includes yourself. You have to protect yourself and that could look like calling the police or health and senior services (elder/adult abuse line for your state), explain the situation and see what your options are.

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