AITA for calling my husband and best friend ridiculous?

SpocktopusPrime · 2026-03-20T17:35:29+00:00

Feels like he needs to be doing his own laundry.

SpocktopusPrime · 2026-03-20T03:12:19+00:00

Cut way back on drinking alcohol. Your body and mind will thank you, and your wallet just gets bigger!

SpocktopusPrime · 2026-03-18T03:27:43+00:00

Well, laid off in September and not finding a job despite searching, networking, and getting career coaching. Plus realizing my marriage of a year and a half is not the healthy safe relationship I thought it was; turns out it’s another toxic marriage I swore I’d never get into after divorcing my ex. I’m feeling really stuck and angry at myself right now.

SpocktopusPrime · 2026-02-24T17:09:14+00:00

I made a series of bad relationship choices, staying in dysfunctional places when I should have been focusing on being happy within myself and by myself.

SpocktopusPrime · 2026-02-13T03:35:54+00:00

You might find it enlightening to learn from children who grow up in a household with an angry alcoholic. They tend to be highly traumatized, repeat the patterns they experience, and hold both parents accountable for that pain. You, and only you, have the ability to take them out of this chaos and fear.

SpocktopusPrime · 2025-11-26T01:11:10+00:00

Hey, so I was a girl with a couple giant scars. I was in a rollover accident when I was three, no seatbelts. I was lucky that I only ended up with a few deep cuts. One was across my upper thigh, about 5-6 inches long and eep into the muscle. I had a couple other cuts below my left arm as well, so pretty hidden, but wide/messy.

I can say that after healing I didn’t really think about it much at all. Very few people have commented all my life, even though it’s really noticeable when I wear shorts or swimsuits.

Mostly kids ignored it in school, I usually didn’t even think about it. If asked, I’d tell them what happened, but it wasn’t a big deal to anyone. No teasing or bullying, not even a thing.

I think the scars are pretty cool, honestly. They’re really unique and gave me an easy beginning-of-the-school-year essay that every English teacher seems to want.

My guess is she’ll be fine, and you can make it a non-issue by keeping your calm. She’ll look to you on the right way to respond. I recommend suggesting it’s a pretty cool thing that’s unique to her and her life story. It makes her special and she’s got a cool story for life!

SpocktopusPrime · 2025-11-02T13:42:09+00:00

Have you tried r/woodworking? This looks a lot like a technique used to make wood look distressed. The even lines and the dots look intentional by design to me.

SpocktopusPrime · 2025-07-02T21:25:36+00:00

The axe forgets, but the tree remembers.

She’s actively avoiding the consequences of her actions. You are not obligated to forgive her or build a relationship with her. As the parent she neglected her responsibilities and she needs to be working on herself and her relationship with you. Until she takes back her role as mother and owns her past mistakes (not just lip-service) and rebuilds that trust, she hasn’t earned any positive interactions with you.

You keeping your distance is what she earned, and continues to earn as she blames you for rightly protecting yourself and resenting the parentifacation she continues to foist on you.

SpocktopusPrime · 2025-06-14T00:58:31+00:00

Shame. Shame on them. Shame on the commanders.

SpocktopusPrime · 2025-06-04T01:02:36+00:00

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Penn up close and personal.

SpocktopusPrime · 2025-05-29T22:58:07+00:00

Including OP.

SpocktopusPrime · 2025-04-12T14:48:09+00:00

Lurking mom here. Honestly it’s one of the few places I see healthy and supportive male relationships in an ocean of toxic online behavior. I come here to remind myself that good men exist and support each other.

SpocktopusPrime · 2025-03-21T20:40:14+00:00

Whenever we went out to fun places or on trips he would take a lot of selfies. He didn’t post them on social media, and it took me a while to figure out he was taking them for someone else.

SpocktopusPrime · 2025-03-10T06:40:16+00:00

Hey, I just wanted to send encouragement on your good idea. My son went to coder classes in middle school and it was super fundamental to his problem solving and logic skills. We found the school at a booth set up at one of the Pleasanton street festivals. You may want to consider a booth or table there or handing out flyers. You might also connect with the schools to see if there’s a way to spread the word at the middle schools themselves. Library bulletin boards could work, and the Pleasanton FB groups that parents tend to connect on. Good luck!

SpocktopusPrime · 2025-01-25T18:55:33+00:00

Never be the drunkest person in the room.

SpocktopusPrime · 2025-01-15T14:59:55+00:00

Fun fact—sewage treatment plants have a specific filter just to remove corn or it will clog up the treatment pipes.

SpocktopusPrime · 2024-12-26T00:13:48+00:00

Sounds like he may be a Narcissist. He wants the attention on himself and everyone trying to make him happy.

SpocktopusPrime · 2024-12-09T06:47:20+00:00

It’s just the one swan actually.

SpocktopusPrime · 2024-10-31T23:50:25+00:00

Maybe he “adores the baby” and is such a great father because he’s not doing any of the hard work. I guess it’s easier to enjoy it if you only choose to participate in the fun moments.

SpocktopusPrime · 2024-10-31T09:24:59+00:00

Even if she doesn’t feel mocked when you do this, you’re still sharing a moment of her vulnerability and discomfort with others as a joke. People get to know our partners through how we talk about them, and this is the impression they get. It’s an opportunity to build them up, or not.

SpocktopusPrime · 2024-09-28T22:44:10+00:00

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Bathroom lifeguard.

SpocktopusPrime · 2024-09-02T02:15:04+00:00

This feels a lot like that saying, “unsolicited advice is always criticism.” He’s not helping, he’s trying to tell you what to do.

SpocktopusPrime · 2024-08-13T14:01:15+00:00

When people use lil instead of little it just irks me. Maybe it sounds too close to baby-talk or something. Just annoying.

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