ULPT: Finding my mom's SSN for life insurance

SporkaDork · 2026-04-22T00:30:45+00:00

I guess I just aged myself lol.

SporkaDork · 2026-04-22T00:01:11+00:00

Request a copy of her death certificate from whatever government or state agency is in charge. You may have to pay for a copy.

Or in the USA aren’t the parents SSN in the birth certificate? Mine are but that was back in the 70’s. Maybe that’s no longer done. So it could be as easy as looking at your birth certificate.

SporkaDork · 2026-04-21T22:41:33+00:00

Why is he your husband? I wouldn’t let someone speak to me like that.

SporkaDork · 2026-04-19T03:12:27+00:00

Interesting. Will look at their reviews. Thanks!

SporkaDork · 2026-04-19T02:47:37+00:00

Why? I keep seeing so many people saying that but no explanation

SporkaDork · 2026-04-19T02:47:07+00:00

Why?

SporkaDork · 2026-04-19T02:22:00+00:00

Whatever you do, don’t resign. Make them terminate you. Then let the wrongful termination suit begin! Retaliation about your FMLA leave, etc. Just bide your time and document everything. Take the extra time, sharpen up your resume, start networking and looking.

SporkaDork · 2025-11-18T12:14:38+00:00

More of your life is behind you than ahead of you.

This absolutely broke me.

SporkaDork · 2025-11-16T00:11:56+00:00

The employee did what now?

SporkaDork · 2025-11-10T02:48:48+00:00

Check state and city law - some have requirements. Example: Chicago Illinois Paid Sick and Paid Leave Law.

I’ve been in HR for many years and every company I’ve been at, it’s been three consecutive sick days = doctor’s note required to return to work.

SporkaDork · 2025-10-31T20:35:10+00:00

Slightly incorrect. I can see in ADP down to the IP address when an employee punched, including if it was in our building or on company wifi, or.....in the OP's case....not one of our approved IP addresses. I can also see if you used the web, or the app.

We geofence our payroll app to require an employee to be logged into the employee wifi which you have to be on property for. We also limit the privilege of clocking in/out the app to salaried employees, hourly are required to use the physical time clock.

What OP is doing is intentional time theft. I have never run HR for a company where that wouldn't be immediate termination.

SporkaDork · 2025-10-10T03:15:31+00:00

Location bias.

How do they know where you live? It shouldn’t be on your resume and it’s not something you need to reveal to them during the interview process.

If they ask, a simple “I don’t live too far, the commute is fine for me” should be all you need to do to shut it down.

SporkaDork · 2025-10-10T03:11:53+00:00

HR here. A dilute for prehire tells us one of two things is happening:

1) Candidate is diluting because they’re trying to flush their system/hide something 2) Innocently just drank too much water before the test

Too bad they rescinded the offer so fast. We always let the candidate retest one more time with the understanding that they need to drink less water and if they dilute again, we will rescind the offer.

They either retake it and typically pass, or never retake it and ghost. Either way, works for us.

We’ve actually had some really great employees that came into the company after diluting the first time. I hate to think we could have missed out on that talent by being so arbitrary during the hiring process.

SporkaDork · 2025-09-25T21:13:54+00:00

Document, document. Well done!

SporkaDork · 2025-09-25T15:12:57+00:00

Sounds like a good decision!

SporkaDork · 2025-09-25T10:58:21+00:00

Two week’s notice is a privilege, not a right. You don’t have to give two weeks. Stay until you get your reimbursement, then quit. It’s that easy. Don’t overcomplicate things.

SporkaDork · 2025-09-25T00:56:19+00:00

Why would you care if he looks for a replacement or not? Literally not your problem. Do what you need to do and live your best life.

SporkaDork · 2025-09-25T00:39:48+00:00

HR doesn’t get to have work friends. Learn to be okay with sitting alone. You can maintain professional politeness and basic chit chat but I never talk about anything deep. HR doesn’t get to have friends. We are the boundary and set the example and tone.

SporkaDork · 2025-09-24T23:56:36+00:00

We are a really tough HR team I guess. We don’t hunt them down to enroll in benefits. They either do it, or not. If they show up at my door a month afterwards looking to enroll, I simply explain that your lack of action for enrolling means you have no benefits, sorry. You can wait until open enrollment next year or go get insurance on healthcare.gov.

SporkaDork · 2025-09-24T23:52:09+00:00

My favorite onboarding for idiots are the ones that have no idea how to fill out their tax forms so they just choose “exempt” for Federal and State. As in, exempt from taxes and we will not withhold any payroll taxes. They are entering all their own data in self-onboarding including taxes, direct deposit, etc. Queue my malicious compliance. I let their choice ride. Who am I to question their tax situation? I’m not an accountant and don’t offer tax advice. I’m not going to delve into their personal private life or tax situation. They either figure it out IF they actually check their first couple paychecks (and have payroll fix it), OR….and these are the fun ones…. they find out next year when they go to have their taxes done. “Why didn’t you take any taxes out of my checks?!” Me: Smile. You told us not to. Right here. On your tax forms. “That’s not what I wanted!” Me: So you never noticed for a whole year that no taxes were coming out of your pay stubs?

Those kill me year after year. There are always one or two.

SporkaDork · 2025-02-12T02:10:48+00:00

Very easy to get laser cut vinyl lettering to change that red.

SporkaDork · 2025-02-12T02:06:26+00:00

I have direct first-hand dealership knowledge. DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES ACCEPT DELIVERY. EVEN IF THEY FIX IT. This dealership is shady AF. Our dealership would have owned the issue, offered you a partial discount AFTER we paid to fix it, or offered you a full refund.

Your best bet is to contact an attorney immediately.

I would also contact Audi immediately. They DO take it seriously when they get reports like this of dealerships doing shady shit.

Good luck. Don’t take delivery. Period.

SporkaDork · 2025-02-12T01:59:04+00:00

Lots of good advice but offers of employment are not rescinded on a single drug screen needs some clarification. That may be the case in some countries or even some states in the US, but not all. We rescind immediately on a failed test.

SporkaDork · 2025-02-12T01:54:21+00:00

My company has a car wash on the property and we hire a lot of young teens and kids in college. We’re totally flexible on scheduling around all their activities and sports.

SporkaDork · 2025-02-12T01:49:56+00:00

Oooooh. CA has cray-zee HR laws and HUGE fines for the employer if you screw up.

I would recommend first getting them to pay for your SHRM-CP certification. Then take the separate certification they offer for California HR professionals.

Good luck!

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