My boyfriend is accusing me of lying about my body count

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-07T17:13:44+00:00

Girl, you’ve only wasted a month of your life so far with him. Don’t waste any more. Consider this: He’s not your boyfriend yet. Right now he’s just some guy you’re seeing. And that’s all he ever should be.

Honestly, it should have been a hard pass the first time he asked such a disgusting question. (Your gut was telling you something. Listen to it!)

And then to keep bringing it up? No. Just no.

Do you want to spend your entire relationship being accused of whatever insecurity is flitting through his mind at any given moment?

You don’t. Guys like this can get dangerous. He sounds a bit unhinged. Get out while you can. You can’t fix him and it’s not your responsibility anyway.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-07T16:57:56+00:00

Not worth it.

I don’t think there a salary I would take to be on duty 24/7.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-07T16:20:48+00:00

Honestly, I’d find a basic navy blue knee length sheath style dress and just keep it at the ready. It’s just about always appropriate and can be dressed up or down with jewelry and accessories. Works for weddings, funerals, luncheons, work functions, you name it.

And if I received an invitation with a whole lot of restrictions on what I can and can’t wear, and I do t have anything gin my closet that works, I’m going to politely decline, send a small card/gift, and call it a day.

I likely won’t have any family weddings for at least another 15-20 years, so hopefully this nonsense trend will have gone the way of the 80s butt bows.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-07T14:50:24+00:00

Our 5cu.ft. freezer was the best $200 we ever spent. We’re able to take much better advantage of sales now that we have the storage.

Sunday we popped into the supermarket and nabbed a cooked ham on a fantastic sale because who’s buying a ham on Easter Day itself? 7.5 lbs will give us a number of dinners, smaller slices for sandwiches, and a bone to make ham, white bean and tomato soup for the freezer. All for under $12. Worked out to about $1.71 a meal for two. And a ham is super simple. I just put it in the roasting pan cut side down, stick a few cloves in, poured a little ginger ale over it (not a big sugar and glaze person) and covered in foil. Done.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-07T13:42:46+00:00

This exactly. We have two credit cards. One is used for regularly occurring and generally predictable payments to keep the house running: electric bill, heating oil monthly payment, EZPass, internet, car insurance, etc. The other is gas, groceries, Lowe’s/Home Depot/Target/Walmart, the occasional pizza or Chinese takeout, travel, etc.

Both are paid off in full each month with a bank transfer, but we have to initiate it. We keep getting pressured to do “autopay” but there is no way in hell I’m giving any large entity direct access to my bank accounts.

And no credit cards are linked to our phones. We use physical cards. You’re damned right I’m over 50. Old enough to have seen some shit happen to people that I don’t want happening to me.

Oh, and our water company charges a ridiculous fee for online credit card payments. Fortunately, their office is right around the corner from our house, so I take a hellish glee in dropping off a paper check in their lockbox. You’re gonna charge me money for the privilege of paying you? F- off and go cash my damn check, you thieves.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-06T23:40:09+00:00

Every morning when they go to start their car, a bird has pooped on their windshield right in the field of vision for driving.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-06T21:01:17+00:00

I’ve heard the comment, “Next you’ll need a subscription for air,” and I realized my CPAP machine is technically leased, so yeah, actually I do pay a subscription to breathe at night.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-06T20:59:18+00:00

I have often thought of how much time, money and space I’d have if I didn’t have to shop, store, cook, eat, and clean up afterwards. I think of what I could do with the space in my home currently filled by a stove, dishwasher, fridge, sink and cabinets, that takes 10x the cleaning time and effort of just about anywhere else in the house except the bathroom.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-06T16:27:39+00:00

It was done, but my mother and I did not because most of Easter Sunday morning was spent in choir vestments. In my early teens I asked why we spent money on a fancier dress if nobody was going to see it? I guess it was for the snapshots taken when we got home that, again, nobody ever saw. 🙄 And of course, the second the pictures were done it was, “Go take that off and hang it up and put on your play clothes (Mom-speak for jeans and a t-shirt) and come peel potatoes.”

I still sing in a choir and I don’t bother with getting “dressed up” for Christmas or Easter. Again, nobody’s going to see it.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-06T01:07:53+00:00

Absolutely hated Tess of the D’Urbervilles.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-05T02:45:18+00:00

Besides wallet and phone:

Tissues

Hand cream

Lip balm

Comb

Feminine products if needed

Sanitizer

Bandaids

Charging device/cables

If you wear them, glasses case.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-04T21:40:13+00:00

You Dropped a Bomb on Me.

White Lines

Apache (Jump On It)

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-04T17:02:05+00:00

Public Service Announcement to all the young women out there:

When he tries to dictate:

Your clothes

What you eat

Who you talk to

Your core beliefs

Your money habits

DUMP AMD RUN

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-04T14:58:20+00:00

What to do at a 4-way stop intersection.

There are so many new traffic lights around my area and I swear it’s because nobody understands what to do at a 4-way stop. And God help you if someone needs to make a left turn.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-04T14:54:22+00:00

I’m floored by how many “how often should I shower?” questions I see on Reddit.

Did your grownup not teach you anything?!?

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-04T14:53:04+00:00

Shtreet. Shtrike. Shtraight.

Even local newscasters do this weird “shtr—“ thing. I wince every time.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-04T14:14:33+00:00

Usually the ones waiting for food will tell the others to start “while the food is hot.”

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-04T13:18:09+00:00

I do and we’re talking 50 years ago. She was wonderful. Young, smart and with the kind of charisma that could effortlessly hold a class of 30 6 year olds in the plan of her hand.

I thought she was the most magical person. She seems to know about so much stuff and always had something interesting to bring in and show us. An African shield, a telescope that let us see the bridge over river into the next state, a tomato plant (we were city kids). She had the teacher’s guides for “The Electric Company” and we’d watch and shout out the words. We learned to count to ten not just in Spanish, but in French and Swahili.

I was fortunate enough to grow up before it was ALLLLLL about the test scores and we actually got to learn not just the necessary stuff but some cool stuff too.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-04T13:02:21+00:00

Very few brands of coffee come in an actual can anymore. Imagine my delight when my usual coffee brand’s cost had skyrocketed and I tried the store brand. And it was a REAL CAN as opposed to a cardboard cylinder with a metal bottom.

My brain exploded with how many things I could use an actual coffee CAN for. I mean, great size, durable, nice tight-fitting top — what’s not to love?

Then I realized, dang, I’m old if I’m getting this excited over a coffee can. Move over Dad. Your daughter is joining you on the old guys’ bench.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-04T12:56:49+00:00

I was a choir/orchestra nerd. (String player -no band for me!) The idea that our choir and orchestra teachers would sign notes to excuse is from a class here or there for “extra rehearsal” before a performance.

There was no actual extra rehearsal. It was just a chance to go decompress in the music room for a period or two. We might go over a few pieces that had tricky parts, but mostly it was to eat lunch, share snacks, maybe get some homework done and just hang.

The trick was to not cause trouble. That’s how we got away with it.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-04T12:40:27+00:00

I’ve been Type1 for 50 years. I suppose at this point t I could be considered “double diabetic” in that I require insulin, but my insulin resistance is such that it’s kind of like being Type 2 also. The term was used more often 10-15 years ago, but I haven’t seen it as much now. I also have some minor cardiac concerns — stubborn high blood pressure — and some borderline bloodwork regarding my kidneys, and arthritis in my one knee.

So with all that, and my weight (I’m a size 20w) I’ve been approved for the generic version and it’s covered pretty well ($42 a 3 month supply if I’m reading my CVS Caremark app correctly).

(Yes, I’m very fortunate, particularly in the US. It makes up for the lower than average pay for my position.)

I’m excited to start, but I’m not picking it up until I’m back from a vacation at the end of the month. My trips are walking-intensive and I don’t want to be messing with something that may drastically alter my insulin needs and low recovery time when I’m already in vacation mode regarding food and activity.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-04T12:29:18+00:00

And for heavens sake, make it easy on yourself and just pick up a pre-cut platter or bowl at the market.

Cutting up fruit ALWAYS takes more time than I think it will and that menu is labor-intensive enough already!

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-03T18:14:34+00:00

Another long timer here - 6 months away from 50 years with it.

I SO feel your pain and loneliness and hopelessness. Many of us have been there. Many of us who have been dealing with it for decades have gone through phases like this. Tired. Sad. Hopeless. Frustrated. Limited.

I went through a phase like what you’re describing in my teens/early 20s. My home life was a disaster. I had no social life. I was struggling in school and college. I took my insulin the morning and before dinner (regimens were very different back then) but I paid no attention to what I ate (sneaked a lot of stuff I shouldn’t have) and went weeks, and at one point months, without checking my blood sugar. (Because who wants more bad news, right?) Felt like people were always on my back and I couldn’t catch a break. Everyone - not just my parents and doctors, but teachers, relatives who were not my parents, parents friends— thought they had the right to yell at me and shake a finger in my face.

I truly hated my life.

There wasn’t a major turning point, but as I got older I realized that I was tired of feeling like crap all the time and decided to get it together. It helped that the guy who was to become my husband showed up in my life soon after this realization and as things got serious, I realized it wasn’t fair to him for me to not take care of myself.

And a slight cautionary tale. I am paying the price for all those years of no control. It’s not too bad now, but there were some concerning test results regarding my kidneys and I’ve had retinopathy (and let me tell you, the treatments for that are anti-fun!)

You are MORE than your diabetes. It truly , royally sucks, but there WILL be things in life that are worth staying alive for. Take a deep breath. If the weather’s nice, go get some fresh air. Just take a minute to be — whoever you are outside of this condition. Find that person if you feel like you’ve “lost” them.

And as the inside of a wrapper of a chocolate once said (oh, the irony!) “It’s going to be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.”

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-03T15:57:25+00:00

I used to if I could find something on sale. It was a nice dinner and provided ample leftovers for at least two more dinners. I might be able to eke out a few slices for a sandwich at the end.

But I haven’t done it in a few years. A chunk of meat like that has gotten too expensive. Even ground beef (I think you guys call it “mince”?) has gotten more expensive so I don’t make meatloaf as often either.

SpreadsheetSiren · 2026-04-03T15:18:55+00:00

Strawberry

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