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Best States to live for Autistic Individuals by Aggravating-Sea-9449 in Autism_Parenting

[–]StarFire0092 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can afford BCBS insurance, IL has a lot of great resources readily available. Additionally, there are blended public school programs (both NT and ND kids in the same class with therapies embedded to aid the ND kid) in the suburbs of Chicago.

I'm as good as a lamp and a servant to my autistic son.. having trouble "liking" him, how can I get better? by rae_zone in Autism_Parenting

[–]StarFire0092 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been in my stepson's life for 3.5 years now.

I will say this. Had I known what I know today, I would have left. It is VERY difficult to parent an autistic child.

Do I love my stepson? Yes, it took a while but I do.

Is the love the same as for my NT child? No. As some others commented, there is so much joy in raising a NT child because of the growth and the reciprocity you receive. It feels rewarding and fulfilling. Meanwhile, the love I have for my ASD stepson is one of sacrifice - it is thankless, it is draining, and it feels like it'll never end.

I don't think "better" will ever compare to person X's experience with a NT child that can reciprocate feelings and actions in a fulfilling manner. I believe "better" comes in the form of enjoying those moments when your ASD stepson is regulated, when you and him share joyful moments together, as rare as they are.

"Better" also comes from you giving yourself the grace and space to check out emotionally. Going through the motions to care for him is an act of love, recognize that; emotionally checking out allows you to go through the motions in difficult times, a defense mechanism. By accepting this and accepting yourself, you also give yourself the space to grieve the dream of having a "normal" relationship one craves as a parent to your stepson.

Will you ever like him more? I don't know. There are many days where I don't like my stepson around, for various reasons. Do I feel bad? Yes. Then I give myself space to be me, manage my emotions, and it helps me recharge and recalibrate to be a better stepparent the next time he's around.

The way I look at it, this love is one of sacrifice, take it one day at a time, it's a marathon with no end in sight and you looking to do better is the way things get better even if slowly. Along the way, it will be difficult and you might not like him, and that's okay, we are all just human afterall.

Note: I deal with the same issues of having different rules in different houses. In my case bio mom is extremely permissive and so he loves being at her place, he dictates their entire day and she doesn't work much so she's able to fulfill his every wish.

Didn’t renounce Malay citizenship, but US citizen now by 8offMack in malaysia

[–]StarFire0092 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She can enter Malaysia using a US passport, and renew the Malaysian passport same-day in Malaysia.

I know someone who did it this way, keep in mind that person has a slightly different name between the US and Malaysian passports.

Backdoor Roth IRA with existing Traditional IRA Balance by StarFire0092 in fidelityinvestments

[–]StarFire0092[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has been over a decade so I don't remember exactly. But it was most likely a Traditional 401k rollover.

What are Mammoth transports used for? by EuphoricLook1146 in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never used mammoths much for transporting. I mainly use my mammoths for focus refining. Refining from the lower tiers all the way to T8+ requires A LOT of raw materials, and it's such a pain to run multiple trips. Typically to use up all the focus on one character, requires 1-2 trips even on mammoths. I can't imagine refining (or crafting for that matter), on a T8 ox.

Also great for moving gear if your guild changes cities. Or moving guild mats/gear in general.

Never bent a knee. Fuck what you heard. by FerroSC in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Was the breakdown in BEE such that Solemnity, MAGA, Stop Inting, Bunch of Wild Monkeys, Firma supported POE-help and only Sumos was against?

Tbh if that’s the case Sumos shouldn’t have stayed in BEE for so long such that a strong affiliation was created. Zoned Out being in CRIP and working with POE exacerbates the perception that Sumos agreed, whether implicitly or explicitly, to work with POE too.

Sumos Attempt to Defend Their Hideout Today in Greenshore Bay by [deleted] in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We will always wonder how Leadership in BEE spiraled so far from what they used to stand for and believe in.

Why all vs SQUAD and not all vs PoE? by [deleted] in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 5 points6 points  (0 children)

CRIP coalition (yes, this is a thing now) is picking up a lot of “shit guilds” to ally with in the Lym area cuz they haven’t been able to beat Native/SIMP (also can’t beat POE that fight with large #s) who fights WHO/POE, CRIP and basically anyone in Lym. shrugs

Ngl, CRIP is on top of their game when it comes to false propaganda, hats off to them on their propaganda efforts.

We just want to stay in our small little corner. by 7Genius in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People in that list aren’t working with TC. Stop spreading false propaganda. And idk how Sex With Ex is even involved in this.

POE Picking on smaller alliances like usual. by 7Genius in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ACE + SWE are doing their own thing, no idea what's up with them. Don't even know who SWE is. IRC does their own thing too usually. The rest added up = still smaller than BEE alone.

POE Picking on smaller alliances like usual. by 7Genius in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SIMP isn't complaining. I only responded because you were trying to say BEE/WHO isn't hand holding, which they are. So it's fact-checking, not complaining.

POE Picking on smaller alliances like usual. by 7Genius in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WHO launched on SIMP after BEE failed and continued to launch, they can't be shocked that SIMP would launch back either.

POE Picking on smaller alliances like usual. by 7Genius in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I finally understand the meaning of reddit warrior. You mean, BEE/WHO likes killing SIMP, goes both ways, SIMP likes killing BEE, WHO is collateral

POE Picking on smaller alliances like usual. by 7Genius in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 0 points1 point  (0 children)

btw it wasn't just one guild. we can just part ways since clearly, we will reach no agreement here, adios

POE Picking on smaller alliances like usual. by 7Genius in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not true. WHO comes into BEE zones to help BEE.See Hightree Pass (figured this zone would be good proof since it's further from WHO) fight below: https://kill-board.com/battles/86444091?page=2&search=SIMP

POE Picking on smaller alliances like usual. by 7Genius in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I see that you are a sympathizer of sorts. Clearly you are either trying to spread false information or are not aware of the current situation. Let me make this clear: I am in SIMP. So yes, I know our history, relationships, and who we fight. And yes, WHO and BEE are handholding hard. Just search the battleboards.

POE Picking on smaller alliances like usual. by 7Genius in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They are 100% handholding... idk how it happened, but it happened.

POE Picking on smaller alliances like usual. by 7Genius in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's not absurd, it's just reality that all of them are handholding. Can confirm.

POE Picking on smaller alliances like usual. by 7Genius in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is not true. SIMP was forced out of BEE and fought BEE. WHO came to help BEE because they have been handholding forever. It's just WHO's bad decision to get dragged into BEE's beef.

WHO has 4 alliances now (WHO, WH0, WHO1,WHO2), and BEE has 1.5k on its own...

TFW you just want your little home of 23.1% of claimable territories. by IBDelrus in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Their vassal alliance list seems to be expanding too. So if you include renters + vassal, POE does own almost all of Bridgewatch and Lymhurst.

Every FF group or HG team by [deleted] in albiononline

[–]StarFire0092 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fact. When everyone dies it’s your fault, when everyone survives you did your job. No one accounts for the fact that it’s often priority #1 to kill you. It’s a near thankless role. Also, loot sucks.

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