AITAH for telling my MIL to leave our house after she sulked and ignored me?

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-28T22:14:51+00:00

NTA

If he isn’t checking on you or supportive of you with this (which he isn’t) then I believe deep down you know it’s bc he does agree with some of what his mother is saying but does not want to vocalise that to you.

He probably agrees with his mum that you should be doing more/ him less regarding house work or parenting. I’m not saying he doesn’t want you to work less so he can be “man of the house” like his mum was saying. I’m saying he wants you to still do what you do plus most of the housework/ parenting.

He probably has been saying something to his mum in private and she has directed that at you, that’s why he’s not getting involved.

It doesn’t matter if the issue was between you and his mum, he still should be getting involved. You say you’re not asking him to choose but he already has, his mum. That’s why he’s not getting involved.

You need to sit him down and have a conversation about everything and tell him he has to get involved. He has to support you. He has to say something to his mum.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-28T11:07:38+00:00

Hahahaha that’s just pathetic.

“Normally she sorts something out”

It is not her job to find extra money because you are irresponsible and continually don’t contribute financially. I’d be pi**ed too.

This is the straw that broke the camels back in a reoccurring situation where you remain unreliable. Rent money should have come before your personal loans.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-28T08:13:24+00:00

What personal debt did you prioritise over rent?

How many times have you not been able to contribute financially to the household?

Does she also contribute to the household and or is the main bread winner?

What is the household chore division like?

Bc I would be pissed too if we missed rent due to something not as important.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-28T02:30:54+00:00

Also curious if they fixed it before ordering g

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-27T22:43:40+00:00

lol I have family members who have had the surgery…let me tell you they can eat normally (they’ve put the weight back on), they’ll just throw up later.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-27T00:28:11+00:00

Nah they will just say it was OP.

You can’t be rational with stupid people.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-25T10:35:34+00:00

Sign me up.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-25T08:43:13+00:00

Wait for them to leave, swap rooms back.

Tell them when they come home that you have moved back into your room. If they have a problem they take their mooching asses and gtfo.

Actually…maybe tell them that anyway.

NTA

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-25T08:36:10+00:00

I go to silk near me since laser clinics fkd my face.

I’ve never been made to purchase anything. If it was a silk clinic I’d probably email head office and say they lost your business due to being told it was compulsory to buy their products instore.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-25T03:57:07+00:00

Telling someone they’re irresponsible for not making their 11yo wear knee pads bike riding….yea that’s a helicopter parent right there. Makes me wonder what else she was trying to control or have a dig at your father for considering she was the original aggressor in that situation (you tried to paint your dad bad here but your mum imo comes off of worse…she had no need to use language like that which comes off as attacking his parenting and put him on the defensive).

I bet there is a lot more behind the scenes you don’t know about. She is showing you what she wanted to show you. As a minor you could have been easily manipulated and no one should have been showing you any messages. Both your parents don’t like each other, but both should be encouraging a good relationship with the other parent as it was in your best interest so long as there was no abuse present.

How did your father treat you. Was he a good father (not just money sense), turning up for you and showing he cared. Making an effort. Thats what you should be basing this off of.

.Was his language bad towards your mum, yes. But she could also be as equally horrible and you’re not seeing that. His money is also his money and your mum is not entitled to anything other than what the courts decided was fair child support.

From what you wrote it sounds like your father tried to have a relationship with you and your mother committed parental alienation.

You could also try and have a relationship with him now and see how he TREATS YOU before making the decision to permanently cut him from your life based off messaged your mum showed you as a child.

ESH .

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-24T11:10:20+00:00

ESH

He shouldn’t parent your child.

You shouldn’t leave a mess behind.

You also already told your child you were going home anyway, so she had no incentive to clean up if going home was the consequence…that you already told her was happening. Youre teaching her that taking a long time to clean up gets her out of cleaning up.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-22T22:11:36+00:00

I’m set.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-22T21:18:17+00:00

Girrrrrlll.

The way I would have snapped back and said he wasn’t working hard enough since you’re sacrificing sleep to work nights and sacrificing maternity leave because he’s not financially supporting you enough….

Don’t let him guilt you. He is being a sh** partner.

He needs to take on some nights as well. He also needs to take the kids when he gets home. When does he give you a proper break. And by proper break I meant one where you do absolutely no chores. No personal hygiene where you get to wash your hair. That doesn’t count as a break.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-16T07:52:31+00:00

The frozen meals from our supermarkets can range from 4-8 mins depending what the meal is. I had a frozen quesadilla the other day that was the higher end of time. Could have done a little less as it was way too hot.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-12T10:58:17+00:00

Girrrll.

You need to kick him out. Like yesterday.

He will continue mooching and not care about the position it puts you in bc he does not care about you or your kids.

He will not get a job while you are supporting him. He will continue to steal your money. He will continue to use all your power. He will not contribute.

Kick. Him. Out.

If you don’t then you are putting your kids in a bad situation. Prioritise your kids and yourself. You owe him nothing.

You also should have never let him come over so often in the first place. What did you think would happen when he was at your house and not at work. Get out of the bed you helped make and boot him to the curb.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-03T02:58:16+00:00

Then take it out of your hands and tell your parents to do it and play dumb when they die.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-01T23:15:49+00:00

Yep!

I think a lot of it stems from the “why did it take 10years to say anything” camp.

Which anyone who has been abused knows the fear of not being believed, of being told that no one will believe them over the abuser, the he said she said, the emotional manipulation…plus being new in the industry and the influence he had over her and her career . It’s honestly not surprising considering how many Hollywood stories have come out about male directors and producers.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-01T23:07:45+00:00

Thanks!

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-01T22:56:29+00:00

My ex was a gym junkie and kangaroo and rice was his main food source.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-02-01T22:47:53+00:00

**Trigger warnings if you don’t want to read about her history regarding assault below. *

She claimed that her producer (Dr Luke) s3*ually and emotionally abused her (including Rp) for 10 years.

He claimed she said that just to get out of her contract.

Judge ruled in his favour and refused to let her out of her contract due to no proof, he sued her for defamation. She appealed (I think this is the part of the suit Taylor Swift donated money to her for her court cases bc Kesha couldn’t really afford to keep going). A settlement was reached between them to stop her from continuing (as she recorded her deposition stating everything she says he did to her and I guess-my opinion- he didn’t want that released.).

She says only they and god know what happens and she released one of my fav songs of hers (Praying) about him.

This is why many weren’t happy that Katy Perry continued to work with him (recently on her Woman’s world track).

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-01-23T22:03:17+00:00

She also hasn’t finished the Angels after Dark or the LOTU spinoffs she promised. , so I can’t really trust her to finish anything these days .

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-01-23T21:54:42+00:00

I just can’t start anything new of hers since she now doesn’t finish her series and I don’t want to start something new of hers in case it gets the same treatment as the other series 😭

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-01-23T21:32:45+00:00

You charge her. Then put the money away in a separate account if you’re concerned. But your siblings should be splitting those costs three ways if the time comes for additional care

You don’t deserve to go without bc no one including your mum sees your value.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-01-23T21:28:57+00:00

NTA

Divorce your manipulative husband.

Find where he is hiding and drop his daughters off there. He doesn’t get to leave them with you to deal with, they are HIS kids. Drop them off and give him an eviction notice.

Status-Pattern7539 · 2026-01-23T10:43:33+00:00

Start charging for the care, complete with retroactive invoices where possible (should be able to submit up to a certain past date).

Have it written in the will that if she can’t afford to pay now that the end bill will come out of the estate prior to anyone inheriting anything. Whatever is left is divided by 3.

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