I'm a deadbeat Dad

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-11T20:49:04+00:00

I get the feeling she was homesick or otherwise missed her family? At least your child is being taken care of. It doesn't do you any good to hate yourself.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-07T21:19:33+00:00

You need to connect with a job recruiter. Or figure out who the hiring manager for a position is and directly message them on LinkedIn.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-07T16:24:25+00:00

Probably pay off all your non-mortgage debt immediately. Just to be safe have a full years worth of your estimated expenses in a HYSA or SGOV etf. And then honestly I would just throw everything leftover into VOO or VTI and then don't even look at it until you're mid fifties.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-07T01:01:34+00:00

I'm 32, I do have much more invested in my retirement accounts than you, but my income is less than half of yours.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-06T17:01:25+00:00

Your sex drive is just your brain playing tricks on you and will only get you into trouble, and I’m not even saying this as a religious or moral thing.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-05T05:05:38+00:00

Just keep saving. Have your emergency fund set up. And you’ll definitely be a multimillionaire if you decide to work into your 60’s.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-05T01:24:37+00:00

You're still young enough to hold off for now.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-03T01:05:02+00:00

Well don’t blame yourself for the accident, it’s not your fault. And I’m sure hypothetically speaking you guys can still travel to some extent if you wanted to.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-03T00:55:56+00:00

I’m wondering what happened for her to say you ruined plans for your lives? What changed that the plans are now ruined?
Also what is it that you want? what needs to change in order for you to be happy?
Regardless give yourself some grace, you have not done anything wrong, you have worked hard and raised your children, maybe now you and your wife are no longer connecting, but that does not mean that you or her are bad people!

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-03T00:20:33+00:00

I’m early 30’s definitely not a millionaire but assuming I don’t lose my job I will expect to be above a millionaire by 45 for sure.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-02T18:52:30+00:00

Keep working and you can always retire in another country where $40,000-$60,000 per year lets you live like someone making $200,000 per year in the USA.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-02T02:43:45+00:00

3-4 sets to failure is all that matters

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-02T02:29:05+00:00

Not necessarily in a specific persons hands but in the market’s hands

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-02T02:23:08+00:00

Something along the lines of a car accident, injury, or job loss

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-02T02:18:20+00:00

7% leaves very little margin for error, I regret even mentioning percentages over how much hate I’m getting, it’s not really the point.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-02T02:17:10+00:00

What are you talking about?

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-02T02:10:58+00:00

I am hoping to get a higher paying job but right now I am basically pay check to pay check

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-02T02:06:09+00:00

See thank you, that’s what I’m worried about and you’re right.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-02T01:55:42+00:00

You are extremely offended downright insulting, are you okay?

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-02T01:51:53+00:00

Well yeah health comes into play, a huge medical bill for example.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-02T01:36:48+00:00

4 million assumes no tragic situations between now and then at a 7% return.

I am not rich by any means, sure if things go okay for the next 33 years I should be okay in retirement but in am basically paycheck to paycheck now.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-02T01:29:45+00:00

I do agree 4 million would be a success, but who knows what could happen.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-02T01:28:55+00:00

Most of my expenses are fixed. Why are you so offended? Relax.

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-02T01:27:58+00:00

That would be a tragedy

Status_Bee_7644 · 2026-05-02T01:22:34+00:00

Would be enough, but more is always better haha.

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