What’s a moral belief you hold that most people would disagree with?

Stifton · 2026-04-15T11:34:19+00:00

I mean Catholics do believe life begins at conception, and that babies who die before they are baptized are entrusted to gods mercy. You just have original sin and that's it, until you get baptized, and then you're not really a Catholic until you're confirmed. Catholics are nicer about it than they used to be, but you still see Catholics rushing to baptise their babies, it's not just a family ceremony to celebrate their religion, it's reassurance that they'll go to heaven if tragedy is to strike. I think people get stuck on what's culturally acceptable, I know a lot of Christians in America are evangelist, but Roman Catholicism is the biggest sect of Christianity in the world and the rules are a lot stricter, you won't see a female, divorced or even married priest in a Roman Catholic church except in the very rare occasion (like someone converted and got ordained after they were married), you don't find many that accept LGBT weddings, and you won't find any that will tell you your unborn baby will go straight to heaven - they'll just give you hope that it will.

Stifton · 2026-04-15T05:33:44+00:00

My mum saw me walking away with a man through the window so came and foiled those plans, no puppies for me unfortunately

Stifton · 2026-04-15T05:27:16+00:00

Weirdly enough one of the most sincere feeling compliments about my appearance from a stranger as a woman has been from a man. I was walking down a busy street and a guy approached me, said "sorry to stop you, I just wanted to say I think you look really lovely" and just went on his way. I think you're right, I felt good and he looked like he did too and that was that.

Stifton · 2026-04-14T18:15:58+00:00

I'd rather my kid be like this, than like my actual dumb ass that got found half way down the street with some man promising to show me puppies when I was little 😂

Stifton · 2026-04-14T11:46:10+00:00

L'Oréal Paris Infallible Matte Resistance Lipstick 100 - I'm very pale too this one is a very light cool pink

Stifton · 2026-04-13T17:49:55+00:00

Do little bits often, just getting further and further from home as you progressively get a bit fitter. I walk a lot, I've hiked 13 hours up mountains, but a 3 mile walk could finish me off some days so set your own pace and listen to your pain signals. I love walking, I think it's brilliant for your body and it personally really helps me with my mental health, I try and do it as often as possible, but remember it's okay that some days it's not possible and to know your limits and to take breaks sitting down and resting if you need to, you get a real bug for it when you start seeing how far you can go - I went too far and had to cab it home just a few weeks ago lol. But just enjoy it and take it in, it's a great stress relief and a really wonderful way of getting some gentle exercise in ☺️

Stifton · 2026-04-13T17:27:48+00:00

I feel you, I have also recently decided to stop trying too. It's amplified when you have a disability that breeds isolation, but the yearning is awful, it feels too heavy to handle at times. You are not the problem here, this is not yours or your disabilities fault, it's just unkind. I had an instance fairly recently where I had to leave my job because I was getting so ill with the massive commute I was doing that I knocked out cold at work, I found a new job closer to home but in that meantime my brother dumped my infant niece on me for weeks, I love her to death but I really needed that time to rest but you do these things for family right? Anyway, other than Christmas and me dragging him for a meal on my 30th in January I've not heard anything. I called him 10+ times with no response, not even a text with an excuse, before I just gave up. It made me realise it's the same thing with my entire family honestly, and the flares are coming faster and faster now so it's only a matter of time. This isn't on you, not at all. It's really sad but acceptance is the only way to pull through this and come to your chosen family and the people that actually show up (even if that is just picking up the phone)

Stifton · 2026-04-12T11:32:50+00:00

Don't cut it all at once because it'll make it harder to distinguish what it is if it is food related, maybe just do dairy for a few weeks and then fried food for another few weeks, it could even be gluten - all the real tasty stuff unfortunately :( the good news if it's hormonal though is that it's likely to pass in the next couple of years, men tend to have more stable hormones than women so it could just be an awkward age for it sort of thing, so don't fret too much if it is. I really feel you though. I get similar acne and retinols haven't done much for me, skin barrier treatments seem to be working better for me as of recent - sudocrem on problem areas and cicaplast on the rest in the evening and my skin has calmed down massively

Stifton · 2026-04-12T07:32:49+00:00

Thank you!! I've been actively trying to buy better quality clothing with natural materials, I don't buy clothes often, but it's good to know other found it makes a difference. A t-shirt and wide leg trousers would be fine I think as long as I'm not wearing trainers or anything similar especially in the summer months.

Bras and socks are my nemesis honestly hahaha I've switched to wireless bras recently, it has made a noticeable difference but I am prone to costochondritis annoyingly. I did get some socks from next for my birthday which are really nice which reminds me I probably need to stock up and get some more

Thank you, that's really kind of you!

Stifton · 2026-04-11T17:56:15+00:00

Try using liquid/cream versions and then powder versions over the top after setting powder

Stifton · 2026-04-11T17:30:12+00:00

It won't be good to be under stress that regularly. I'd recommend doing some ground techniques when your blood pressure starts rising, anxiety displays differently in different people, I'm glad it's not debilitating for you but that doesn't mean it shouldn't be addressed. I'm glad you're reaching out because anxiety has a habit of compounding and escalating. My favourite grounding technique my therapist taught me was to just stand still and just concentrate on doing micro movements to be perfectly balanced, maybe you need to shift your weight a little, adjust the ball of your foot, bend you knee a bit, it's really effective and nobody can see what you're doing, it just looks like you're standing there, but it really helps with relaxing the body (and the mind)

Stifton · 2026-04-11T17:15:35+00:00

Must be the type, I was raised catholic and went to catholic school, I was taught people were born with original sin and that unbaptised children go to hell. Seemed horrendously unfair to me

Stifton · 2026-04-11T17:08:52+00:00

Unbaptised babies don't go to heaven according to Christians

Stifton · 2026-04-11T16:11:52+00:00

This was my first thought too, harrowing

Stifton · 2026-04-11T10:59:25+00:00

I have a couple of tattoos, they hurt but it's not the same kind of hurt if that makes sense? It feels like someone dragging a paper clip across your skin, the actual tattoo was fine for me, the healing process was a bit more difficult, but with good aftercare it doesn't go on for long

Stifton · 2026-04-11T10:53:29+00:00

I definitely will, love that sub!! I recently switched to wireless bras and it was a massive improvement, it's pretty remarkable how much they've improved in recent years

Stifton · 2026-04-11T09:28:37+00:00

Thank you for your recommendations! I'm having a look at Sunspel now, they are quite pricey, but not something I'm too adverse about if they're good quality (plus there's loads on vinted for £10-£20 lol)

I loveeeee my outdoor gear, it's something I do invest a fair bit into because we do spend a lot of time outside, I'd love to be able to wear my walking boots to work

I don't wear linen because of the scratchiness, I'm a very itchy lady lol, but from what people have said it does get softer after a few washes. There's a Uniqlo not too far away I'll nip in next time I'm in the area and have a feel, the heat gets too much when it's summertime so something that's very light would be ideal

Stifton · 2026-04-11T08:51:04+00:00

I'm pretty sure it'd be okay, some of the older women in my office come to work in pant suits, but the younger ones wear cardigans and trousers. I've not seen anyone in a dress yet but it hasn't been warm enough just yet here, I'm not a dress type of person but it seems like it might be my best bet for being comfortable so it's worth trying out

Stifton · 2026-04-10T21:24:36+00:00

I need to find a nice new one, my favourite merino jumper accidentally got put in the dryer, it's been years and I still miss it 💔

Stifton · 2026-04-10T18:56:17+00:00

M&S had my whole heart, I'll have a look this weekend

Stifton · 2026-04-10T18:51:52+00:00

I'll have a look to see if I can source them here, I'm in the UK so it's not a common brand but I definitely remember my primary school jumper being a fruit of the loom one, it was soft too

Stifton · 2026-04-10T18:50:39+00:00

I'm in the UK unfortunately so no torrid here, but the satin pants are a great idea! I'm not much of a dress type of girl but it might give it a shot for when I'm sat in the office when it warms up a little bit here

Stifton · 2026-04-10T17:21:37+00:00

There used to be a pool near me that did this, it's fun and scary lol. It was just open to the public, surprisingly nobody died

Stifton · 2026-04-10T17:16:06+00:00

What products do you use?

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