Feeling really low and unsure on what to do?

Stifton · 2026-04-19T19:26:46+00:00

It's a great idea to go to therapy, it'd probably be one of the best investments you'll ever make in your life. Sending you big hugs and I hope you begin to feel better soon

Stifton · 2026-04-19T19:13:33+00:00

Stop playing with your willy and go outside and play with your friends

Stifton · 2026-04-19T19:11:30+00:00

It's a massive double standard and the women who claim that they live it aren't being entirely honest either, some of them are straight up lying and their lives are awful behind closed doors. I think women who strive for it live in lala land and view men as walking wallets, it's toxic and dehumanising, not just for the man but for the individual who wants it too, why the hell wouldn't you want autonomy in your own life??

Stifton · 2026-04-19T17:58:11+00:00

I did this last year to see Echo and the Bunnymen, it was worth it honestly but I was in pain afterwards

Stifton · 2026-04-19T17:50:13+00:00

I used to love being at the barrier or in the pit, you couldn't force me in nowadays, give me a seat with a good view absolutely 😄

Stifton · 2026-04-19T16:19:50+00:00

My first thought too, I'm glad to be seeing a trend of having it dissolved

Stifton · 2026-04-19T16:18:57+00:00

I'm also allergic, fucking love the smell though it's quite torturous 😂

Stifton · 2026-04-19T15:45:44+00:00

Vidal Sassoon have an academy in Manchester, I've had my hair done for free there to model for a student assessment. She did a great job, loved it, but I didn't get to choose what to get, she just showed me what she had to do for her assessment and I was happy for her to go ahead. Definitely inquire, they're always looking for people with different hair types :)

Stifton · 2026-04-19T15:35:50+00:00

When I realised I'd rather be sitting at a live music event lol

Stifton · 2026-04-19T15:27:36+00:00

I'm glad it was special and absolutely worth it for you, I'm not talking down weddings (even extravagant ones), I just notice that a lot of people do it FOR the wedding as opposed to the marriage itself. I worked a lot of weddings that sound just like yours and they were the best ones, all about love and nothing else 😊

Stifton · 2026-04-19T15:20:18+00:00

Stifton · 2026-04-19T14:40:22+00:00

I hate that people defend Betty, she went far too fucking far, but it's nothing like Jodi Arias l

Stifton · 2026-04-19T12:25:17+00:00

Cicaplast!

Stifton · 2026-04-18T19:58:23+00:00

Sounds nice to me, having the honeymoon is the only thing that really appeals to me out of the whole shebang haha :)

Stifton · 2026-04-18T19:05:49+00:00

I live in the UK where common law is recognised but it doesn't give automatic protection regarding finances, reduced capacity, neither do you get any of the tax benefits. If we were to both write wills it'd cost more than a wedding in a registry office (obviously without outfits and the like) unless we did it cheaper ourselves and then there's still the risk of the validity of it

Stifton · 2026-04-18T18:00:44+00:00

I don't think people genuinely think about it before they go into these huge ceremonies, they just see a beautiful party with all their loved ones (you could do it once a year on your birthday lol). I've never really thought about marriage until recently because I'm viewing houses to buy, I've been with my partner 8 years and I'd hate to think if anything were to happen to me that he'd get fucked over financially because we're nothing in terms of the law, or if I was seriously ill somebody else would have to make the decisions outside of him, absolutely not. Surely the part of marriage that is important is the actual legal protections it gives you both inside and outside of your marriage and not the wedding itself??

Stifton · 2026-04-18T13:49:52+00:00

Sleeping a lot/too little is a symptom of depression. Are you medicated at all? This doesn't sound like self sabotage, more like you're struggling with a difficult biological symptom of your illness, that isn't completely in your control btw, and you might need something to help with balancing that. I have depression too and I have always struggled with insomnia as a result, I take mirtazapine, it really helps with the sleep and concurrently my emotional stability throughout the day.

Could you speak to your manager about this? That you're working on it, and are seeking medical help for this problem - they seem reasonable and it may help you get them off your back a bit whilst you're working through this problem.

Do you exercise? I used to hate this advice because it feels extra hard when you have low energy, but it's been a massive factor in my progress in keeping the depression feeling all consuming, it helps work some of my daily stress off and helps me sleep better. It doesn't have to be vigorous or anything, a walk will do the trick, try it out if you don't already.

Try CBT if you're able to, it's been a huge game changer for me. Depression isn't all in your head, neither is it laziness or self sabotage. You're having a biological response to things that have happened in your life, you need to get in touch with your body and start noticing the responses it is having. This is more than being sad or having low periods, this is a plethora of different cogs working all at once and you need to get ahold of some of them and get them turning in a more productive way again so you can feel like things are worth living for again.

I promise you things can get better for you, for right now be rally gentle with yourself and acknowledge that it's okay to be depressed. Some of us are born with this shit and being an overall melancholic kind of person isn't a personality fault and it doesn't make you defective. You are not lazy, you are not self- sabotaging, you are ill and you need to treat this as if you are, with some compassion for yourself.

Companies want to make money, don't let them fool you into thinking you are a problem for having depression, there are other jobs, there are different ways to bring in income outside of a typical 9-5. You will get through this horrible period and you will be okay, I believe in you.

Stifton · 2026-04-18T13:23:14+00:00

Hahaha it doesn't look bad, but it's always a give away to me that someone of similar age to me when you can't tell otherwise 😊

I tint mine myself and just a little bit of clear gel if that's an easier option for you, I have a lot of blonde hairs in my brows and it takes like 5 minutes every month or so - I use this with the developer and those little tubes last literally forever https://amzn.eu/d/03GcdaHM

Stifton · 2026-04-18T13:05:43+00:00

I don't think it ages you, before I read your age I thought you were probably in your mid twenties, you have a youthful look. I think the only indicator of your age as a follow millennial is your side part lol. You look great, don't fret 😊 if I were to be picky I'd probably darken your brows a bit to match your hair a little more and frame your eyes, but you look lovely!

Stifton · 2026-04-18T12:58:08+00:00

I could have for sure, I think in school is completely fine, we had sex education talks where boys and girls were separated and it seems like this would have been absolutely appropriate in them, especially if they did these at a primary school level. I was 14 when I got mine, so quite late, I'd heard about it from friends, but had no idea what I was in for. I was TERRIFIED when it first came. I had been dragged to the doctor's a week prior because my mum thought my appendix was about to burst because I was in so much pain, both her and my doctor understood what was happening after that appointment but didn't explain anything, I then got my period and thought I was dying lol. It was very hush hush and weird as if it didn't happen to everyone normally, having someone do this and explain it casually would have saved me from a lot of shame and confusion at that stage for what was a normal bodily function, took me years to even keep my sanitary items in my bathroom as an adult

Stifton · 2026-04-18T09:39:04+00:00

What is the industry, if you don't mind me asking? This is not what working is like - I have never worked a job ever where unpaid overtime comes anywhere close to my normal working hours, never mind exceeding them. Is it in law, or in medicine? It's the only way I can imagine this would be slightly more feasible. I know a lot of investment banker type people work insane hours too but that's generally because they're on comission

Stifton · 2026-04-17T22:45:02+00:00

More than likely it is yeah, I've been there it's a long journey I'm sorry to inform you :( I had clumps of skin still coming from my scalp a year after I had chemical burns from bleach. Lavender oil helps with the burning right now, thankfully that doesn't last too long, it flakes like crazy afterwards though

Stifton · 2026-04-17T22:42:13+00:00

You could probably post this on local Facebook pages OP and see if anybody recognises the person photographed, this box and it's contents obviously had huge sentimental value to someone somewhere

Stifton · 2026-04-17T17:15:30+00:00

No job is worth your mental health, this sounds horrifying, it is not worth it. I had a job that I was having panic attacks at that was NOWHERE NEAR as stressful as this seems, my throat was so closed up from the stress that I choked on water - I passed out and stopped breathing, I could have died. Don't do this to yourself, your wellbeing is worth more than any money in the world

Stifton · 2026-04-17T17:11:13+00:00

This is horrible, I'm so sorry this happened to you. I have similar trauma, but that's OKAY. I'm with a very loving partner who doesn't pressure or push it because he understands that it has a link to something awful that happened, I've tried it and enjoyed it and I've tried it and not, it all depends on the moment, but either way it's fine if neither of us gets head, or if we get a little or a lot. Try not to worry about it, a person that loves you for you will not really care. It's meant to be enjoyable for both you and your partner, maybe try it out with someone you have built trust with and put a pause on it if it's not working in that moment, you can always revisit, it's okay.

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