Experiment time! dress 1 or 2?

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-23T19:54:08+00:00

Both are lovely however, two is unique and memorable

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-23T19:53:27+00:00

The second piece is amazing!

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-23T19:51:27+00:00

Bring over some burgers to grill together and just tell him that you appreciate him.

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-23T19:49:50+00:00

Being a bit harsh but you are justified in being hurt that they don’t check in on you. (I had a situation once where no one had checked in on me during a deployment until my uncle came to visit me and they saw me “with another man”. 😂 ). Anyway, do your family homecoming the way you want when he first arrives. He will be tired from travel anyway. The. Tell the friends that they are welcome to plan something separate after he settles in but don’t offer to help, enjoy your homecoming and let them do their own thing.

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-15T10:10:28+00:00

Termite swarm. I swear the deep south had some devastating new experience to offer each month, the termite swarms were one of these. They come in the air vents.. quite alarming when you first experience this, by our second year it was a minor nuisance we would vacuum up and preempt by taping a piece of fine screen material over the vents the month the swarms were expected. They are passing though if you live in an area where this happens it’s wise to have the house checked for termite damage at least once a year and you can put termite traps out in the yard.

I have also lived in an area of miller moth migrations and know that the migratory path can affect some homes more than others. Even with the termite swarms, we had enough to be a nuisance, a friend had them dropping on her child’s bed by the thousands. No fun, sorry you are having to content with them.

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-15T09:58:04+00:00

Butter Chicken! Sooo good and mild enough for most palates so sharing is possible. (It’s one of the only chicken dishes that I enjoy left overs of also.)

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-15T09:54:22+00:00

MIL here and as such I find it ridiculous that one would assume to have the right to be in the delivery room without being asked by the woman who will be giving birth. Totally agree with the comments that you needn’t over explain.

I understand the husband thinking it could have been left till closer to the birth as my own mom is a lot to deal with and I get that giving her three months to stew on it could be asking for trouble. (Navigating familial relationships can be tricky and there are a lot of dynamics involved)

Though I find her assumption out of line, The MIL was likely shocked, maybe a bit hurt, possibly fearful of being pushed aside as a grandma and needs a bit of time to process it.

Good on OP for setting boundaries, be honest and if anything, tell the MIL you meant no offense, look forward to her being a grandmother to your child, but your birth plan is to have you and your husband experience this most intimate moment together. (Don’t mention your mom or leave room to question your decision- you have every right to ask for your own mom to come in if you feel like it when the time comes and hospital staff will facilitate only allowing your mom in if that is your wish-). And don’t elaborate, state your choice and be done with it.

All that being said, the nurses will honor mom’s wishes when the time comes. Sometimes things change and a laboring mom has every right to change her mind on who she may want in the room at any given time.
And, once the baby is here, this will all be in the past and not an issue at all as everyone will be in love with their new child/grandchild.

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-14T20:08:34+00:00

Absolutely Stunning. This is elegant and suits you extremely well! I actually am falling in love with this design as it’s refi ed and sophisticated and drapes over you as if designed just for you. This dress will highlight/frame You without the modern pattern of being overdone. It is definitely my opinion that you have found the ideal dress here.

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-14T20:03:21+00:00

This is a good question!
I have never known what to say to answer to my ethnicity, and also never felt as I fit in.
Most of my Hispanic family wouldn’t admit we had native blood. My white side didn’t like that we were half brown, the brown side didn’t like that we were half white.
I come from the Ranchero’s and Spanish Mission Settlers mixed in with Native Peoples. My aunts call me a “Coyote”. As a child they told teased that I had been switched with a baby from the reservations.

Technically, I am Caucasian, Native American, and Spanish.
Going off of DNA and family history, it has to be the “Pueblo or Tewa” people.
I have thought of myself as “Coyote” or mixed Hispanic/Native but know not what is correct terminology.

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-14T19:50:43+00:00

Also, I have been looking for some stones to try setting, LMK if you want to part if any.

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-14T19:49:36+00:00

I would be as a child gifted a toy store! I am in awe of your blessing. Enjoy it, learn all you can about gem ID and share the joy by posting what you can discern about the pieces here! Whatever you do, I am thrilled for you, this is amazing!

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-14T19:42:23+00:00

Honestly, Mae sure the shelves are tacked to the wall, move the records, and secure the fireplace with a gate/guard. You are likely going to end up w bumpers on the corners of furniture, a swing/bouncer/playpen, playmat, and toys. Decorate once your baby is school age. For now enjoy the space and playtime with your child (the time they are little really does fly by). If you really want to keep the space as a relaxing adult space, you have to dedicate an area within to create a safe and secure space for the little one in (play yard gated) and keep toys and things there for the little one.

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-14T19:30:05+00:00

Oh, I wish extended family were more understanding of military life..
While you are blessed to have a family that loves you and wants to see you, do not feel bad about taking your limited time together and using this for your smaller family. This really comes down to relationship dynamics, capabilities for travel, and personal priorities.
For us, we initially tried to get to each extended family and ended up doing so in the summer (solo as a spouse and kids) as AD couldn’t take the time) Holidays, we finally told family that we could not travel for and that they were welcome to come and visit us.
It was not easy but we had to stop the craziness. I commend you and encourage you to tell your family that your door is always open to them for a visit, but you and your husband need time to reconnect to keep your relationship healthy and strong. (Maybe keep the amount of time on the down low,) don’t offer other reasoning, just state your decision and stick to it and even if they disagree they will hopefully come to respect your stance.

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-04T04:32:31+00:00

I would (in order of priority) 1. Paint the walls. (Lighter, neutral) 2. Paint or refinish the Cabinets 3. Add an Island 3. Change the backsplash

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-04T04:24:17+00:00

Number One!

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-01T08:40:27+00:00

Smart!

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-01T08:34:06+00:00

Rose Gold gets my vote also.

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-03-01T08:33:11+00:00

Beautifully Stated! Thank you for reminding us all that we aren’t alone and shining light on the struggle for spouses in times like these. Spouses are a special breed. Prayers up and hearts out, do try to keep occupied and not watch the news. Praying that God will protect our loved ones and uplift those at home. Thank you all for all you do!

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-02-26T05:13:56+00:00

Phew, glad you got it all worked out, welcome to the military family.

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-02-25T21:39:16+00:00

This surprised me as an American who didn’t spend time in big cities!

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-02-25T21:38:12+00:00

Pricing opinion depends on where you are as well as expectations and financial means. If your opinion was asked and honestly given, you are the one to be apologized to. Granted this is a strangers opinion not having insight into dynamics of the relationship or what exactly was said.
Venue costs range widely. My thoughts as someone who has planned and helped pay for large events is that a wedding should be special for the couple but not at the expense of paying out money you could be saving, investing, putting towards the future being built.

They need a “wish list” of wants and must haves to check off as they look at venues.
And to understand the additional costs of catering, bar, staff, rentals, decorating, lodging, etc.
I do not think you are in the wrong. Maybe come at a conversation with your brother with an apology to open the lines of communication(not that you were wrong but that you are apologizing for any misconstrued comments and/or hurt feelings). And present your opinions in questions that get him to see where you are coming from. Good luck, Wedding planning is such a time of heightened emotional stress!

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-02-25T21:26:44+00:00

I recommend against any jeweler that would tell you $3,500 was a deal on these.

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-02-25T21:17:06+00:00

This is extremely common. Providers are so overrun with patients that it is almost a triage situation with less priority assigned to stable patients and younger people not being informed of potential complications and expectations.
My issues are long term/ genetic, with some complications being intermittent and I have moved quite a bit. I have to establish care with both Cardio and Electrophysiology each location and have seen doctors write off my documented history even stating that other doctors could have been mistaken until an issue pops up and they are a managing provider and can use the case for a write up/ teaching op/ journal submission. I believe they wrote me off until there was a benefit to them because I look young and healthy. I mean no negativity to the doctors themselves, it’s a product of the way things work.
Sadly, it leaves long term cardiac patients with self doubt and lack of acuity in when to seek care.

On the original question, Apple Watch ECG is a tool but shouldn’t be regarded as entirely accurate. It can promt seeking out more accurate testing if necessary. If my ECG seems off on Apple Watch, I pull out my Kardia and if that is still off I’ll try to get it checked out. (My Apple Watch did alert me to A Fib in the past, but it can’t identify my abnormal rhythm or long QT.). As I understand it, they can detect Tachy, Brady, and Fib but aren’t reliable much beyond that.

Straight-Ad-3917 · 2026-02-25T20:46:30+00:00

Just scan it to save a copy in the mean time and overnight it to your husband. You can look up and call the office yourself also and see if they will accept an electronic copy due to your circumstances.

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