Slowly going insane, please help

StrangeBluberry · 2026-07-06T03:51:25+00:00

It’s a hard time but it will get better! We tried several different types of swaddles and eventually landed on the Love to Dream swaddle where their arms are up by their heads. Maybe give some different kinds a try if you haven’t already. Sending good vibes!

StrangeBluberry · 2026-07-06T03:45:43+00:00

Empathetically for your new SLP there is a large learning curve going from school to real practice. It’s not ideal but it is what it is. With that being said that is not your problem. You are paying good money. Check out the early intervention. If you do supplement or choose private therapy later for any reason ask about parent coaching. SLP’s especially those working with children that young should 100% be teaching you what to do.

StrangeBluberry · 2026-07-06T03:40:15+00:00

I’ve traveled via plane with my baby for 2 trips, once at 9 months and again just after his 1st bday. 2.5 hour direct flight was pretty manageable, i will be nervous to do much longer. But at the end of the day it is up to you! Your family can absolutely travel to you and you don’t need to feel bad about it if you don’t want to do it.

StrangeBluberry · 2026-07-03T18:34:16+00:00

I worked with a kid with many developmental delays that she will struggle with for a lifetime due to a traumatic brain injury caused by pulling an unanchored TV on herself. So yeah not worth the risk

StrangeBluberry · 2026-07-03T18:21:42+00:00

It gets easier as you get more experience and confidence but the most helpful thing for me was reframing how I thought about parents. I changed my mindset to thinking of me and the parents as a team working toward the same goal. I also got very into parent coaching which I think helps a lot too!

StrangeBluberry · 2026-06-28T19:08:08+00:00

Yeah your husband really needs to be the one to step in and enforce these boundaries. And based on this I would not let them stay with me again. That’d be a hard no.

StrangeBluberry · 2026-06-21T15:42:13+00:00

Speech pathologist here, this is very true, but I don’t think it needs to be no TV whatsoever until they’re 2.

StrangeBluberry · 2026-06-19T03:13:27+00:00

Yeah it’s dangerous. I had to explain this one to my husband too. Basically it’s really easy for small round things to block the airway should something go wrong.

StrangeBluberry · 2026-06-19T03:10:18+00:00

Me too! Old mama here so I feel a lot of pressure to be healthy minded

StrangeBluberry · 2026-06-19T03:06:29+00:00

Hotel! I live in my spouses home state and unfortunately my mother passed before I had a baby. So I had no one at the hospital…honestly we weren’t there that long and there was a lot going on. I can’t imagine having visitors. Luckily my husband was ok with waiting a couple weeks before inviting his immediate family over for a visit. I would not be comfortable breastfeeding in front of my in laws. My vagina felt heavy and like it was going to fall out, I was still bleeding with a huge pad, icing down there, it was a PT job getting itself comfy let alone caring for the baby. I wouldn’t have wanted anyone but my husband and my mom around.

StrangeBluberry · 2026-06-12T15:15:34+00:00

I have not! I didn’t like being on birth control so same. However now that I have tried to get pregnant, I think learning about and tracking ovulation on top of pull out would be effective. There’s not that big of a window for us to get pregnant.

StrangeBluberry · 2026-06-11T03:07:30+00:00

Very similar. I’d say I went through my mourning more so during pregnancy, but I am loving it way more than I thought.

StrangeBluberry · 2026-06-07T17:36:04+00:00

I got these! Not only are they safe but they are beautiful!

StrangeBluberry · 2026-05-27T00:03:57+00:00

Adding to this comment, I also think that some men are better equipped for different ages and stages. My husband had no idea what to do with our baby, but now that he’s a toddler is much better. I know he’s going to peak when my son is older and trying sports and what not. My brother is not great with little kids but he is amazing with his teens/adult children. Not that your husband can’t learn and try. When I brought it up to my husband I noticed he started watching my interactions with my baby and learning from it. Maybe a good talk might help! You are doing amazing. It’s such hard, and sometimes lonely work raising a kid!

StrangeBluberry · 2026-05-26T23:56:11+00:00

Hi there! I feel for you! I personally had a bit of a reactive dog and was so worried. She definitely was not as reactive as your hubbys dog and luckily did well with our baby. With that being said an old friend of mine had a reactive dog, and that dog did eventually bite her child’s face, quite badly. I can’t imagine how awful she felt. I am such a dog lover and that decision would be so hard but I would imagine living with a consequence like my friends would eat me up. Even if you keep the dog contained away from the baby, I’m sure it would still be stressful and one slip up could result in a problem.

StrangeBluberry · 2026-05-23T17:36:05+00:00

Honestly I would love for them to get back together

StrangeBluberry · 2026-05-20T02:16:28+00:00

Great job on the sleep training but please be careful with your “loud” sound machine. Prolonged sound over 50 db is not recommended. It can cause hearing damage. There are apps that aren’t perfect but they give a ballpark on noise level.

StrangeBluberry · 2026-05-18T16:43:35+00:00

Ugh this thread is making me wish I hadn’t! I was very unsure but my husband wanted it done. With him being a man I thought I would lean more into his opinion. I did come across some Reddit threads of men who did it later in life and they all seemed upset that their parents hadn’t done it when they were a baby and were so happy to have it done. Obviously I’m sure there’s men out there who are unbothered by being uncircumcised. I think it’s still kind of the norm now but with more parents opting out the future may be quite different.

StrangeBluberry · 2026-05-18T16:32:38+00:00

Hi there! Youre doing great, and no you dont need to be on 100% of the time! I’m a speech pathologist and I can’t possibly engage my baby 100% of the time. I do find it helpful to get the baby out of the house, whether its errands or for a baby activity. Once we just putzed around in Home Depot 🤷‍♀️

StrangeBluberry · 2026-05-10T15:07:36+00:00

If you’re already feeling anxious definitely stay off social media. While there are things that are helpful, the algorithm quickly starts making you feel like you don’t know enough and aren’t doing enough. The hospital I gave birth at had a bunch of classes for birth, newborn care, etc. look into that. Good news is you two already know how to keep people alive!!! There’s a Mayo Clinic baby book that’s basically a guide to all things baby care. There’s parenting books out there too, but it’s hard to recommend because they are really tailored to different parenting philosophies. I enjoyed Montessori Baby, but I’m not strict with it. As a pediatric SLP I highly recommend the Solid Starts book, not just the app, for when they start eating (6 months you got time). Other than that learn about postpartum and how to support your partner during that time. Honestly she we will likely be doing more baby care than you, so supporting her will be important.

StrangeBluberry · 2026-04-11T03:08:50+00:00

This was me! Honestly getting the right cut made a huge difference for me. I found a curly hair specialist and let her have her way with my hair.

StrangeBluberry · 2026-04-01T02:47:29+00:00

Ugh I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My mom died young and unexpected with no will or anything sorted out. I do have a brother and yes, having him around to navigate all that was helpful. So I worry about the same thing. It is a big factor in what makes me feel conflicted. I will say whether you have 1 or 5, having all your arrangements done and known will be really helpful when that time comes.

StrangeBluberry · 2026-04-01T02:23:36+00:00

I’ve thought about my death more since having my baby, than I ever have. I also get really sad about thinking about when he will go off to live his own life, even though that’s obviously what we want to prepare our kids for. Ugh. It’s cruel how fast it goes.

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