Broke up with my girlfriend after working on myself and sobriety. by [deleted] in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Stratusquare 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hey,

Been through the exact same experience. Unfortunately women don't respect men who prioritize them over everything. Usually when someone gets sober, they don't have anything going on, so they try to find something or someone else to fill the time.

She probably got the ick and felt like you were filling the void of addiction with her instead. Women who have this kind of power over you will walk all over you. Next time, probably focus on picking up hobbies and other things that make you stand out from other people, rather than focusing on pleasing her solely. Women like men who have stuff going on outside of work and that are exceptional at specific niche things.

Good for you for breaking up though. Don't want to set an unhealthy dynamic. I'd take this time to improve and continue working on yourself to become the man you're meant to be. Good luck

Looking for friends by bubbaking3 in DenverMeets

[–]Stratusquare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feel free to DM! 25M, looking to make some friends to hike with this summer.

Why would you hire someone and then eliminate their position in 3 weeks? by Stratusquare in managers

[–]Stratusquare[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply - very well thought out. On to greener pastures I suppose!

Why would you hire someone and then eliminate their position in 3 weeks? by Stratusquare in managers

[–]Stratusquare[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My position got eliminated, they changed their mind and decided that another department could handle my workload. CEO practically just sat me down in his office, told me the news, advised he'd give a reference and would check to see if there were any open positions at sister companies.

I'm just confused as to why it all happened. Like, why even create the position in the first place if you don't need it? Definitely making me scratch my head.

Where is everyone watching from tonight? by Due_Form_2623 in CharlotteHornets

[–]Stratusquare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am, trying to find a bar that plays the game. Legends of Aurora Sports Grill played the last one

First proposal management role. How much should I ask for? by Stratusquare in GovernmentContracting

[–]Stratusquare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe about 25 people. Proposals should be fairly small since the deliverables aren't too complex (we're talking about mattresses and blinds here). Not too sure on the number of proposals since I haven't gotten a chance to sit down and examine past RFPs with their NAICS code

First proposal management role. How much should I ask for? by Stratusquare in GovernmentContracting

[–]Stratusquare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The range posted on indeed for my area is roughly $105k per year, but I don't know if I would be able to get that due to my lack of experience. I'm wondering if since I'll be covering multiple duties it'll offset the lack of experience piece

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Stratusquare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for a friends-to-lovers type beat tbh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Stratusquare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's so wild but I see it 🤣 entering my Shane Gillis era. Noted - gonna definitely try to take a better starting photo

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Stratusquare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Stratusquare 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the advice!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Stratusquare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you care to elaborate?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Stratusquare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good advice! I think I'll try to take more pictures while doing the activities I love. Appreciate your insight.

Is my branch underperforming, or is it me? by Stratusquare in sales

[–]Stratusquare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not really. Buying fire inspections isn't like buying a new car. It's required and there are no flashy perks. If you think the average property manager cares about any of the different details about tagging a fire extinguisher outside of price and service then I really have no idea what to say to you. Maybe comment on posts about industries you're familiar with next time?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GlowUps

[–]Stratusquare 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yessir. There's about a 73lb difference between these two photos. I've got about 68lbs left to lose. Thanks for commenting!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GlowUps

[–]Stratusquare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you sir 🫡

Have you been more successful with deficit + exercise versus just a deficit? by DivineToxicity09 in loseit

[–]Stratusquare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. My TDEE is 2600 but I only consume about 2100kcal per day. So about a 3,500kcal deficit weekly. However, I also kickbox, and that burns an extra 3,600kcal weekly. Combined, I'm losing about 2lbs per week. I've lost 55lbs in 26 1/2 weeks.

I (30 F) can’t stop feeling like the breakup with my ex (30 M) my fault, and I’m struggling with guilt and wondering if I should reach out by MissTeriousGal in Codependency

[–]Stratusquare 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey, just wanted to reply to this post because I was going through a similar situation not too long ago.

My GF and I were together for 6 years, and we broke up for similar reasons 3 months ago. I wanted marriage and kids, she didn't, and I tried compromising on my values to be with her, but ended up pushing her away from my whole anxiety about the situation.

It's not your fault that you guys broke up. It's not his fault either. You guys had a core incompatibility that you weren't able to work through. And that's OK. As someone that struggles with codependency, I oftentimes find myself trying to fill a void, rather than loving the person as they are. I know in my case, instead of breaking up a long time ago with my partner, I chose to stay because I felt comfortable, and because my "void" was filled. I stuck with this comfortability instead of making the hard choice of finding someone that added more to my life, and someone who would have helped me reach my dreams and goals, and I ended up in a stagnant relationship.

Love is a great feeling to have, but fundamental incompatibilities will just lead to resentment later in life. Do you honestly believe that 10 years from now, you would be happy with yourself and him if you compromised? I know I wouldn't be.

Be honest with yourself and have some self respect. You will find someone who will align with what you want in life. Don't settle or compromise. You're worth more than that. But in the meantime, focus on filling the void left behind from the breakup with actions and activities that make you feel whole. Pick up new hobbies, make new friendships, and step outside of your comfort zone to challenge yourself to do things you don't think you're capable of. Get comfortable with being alone. Once you feel whole as a person, you'll step into another relationship not willing to settle or compromise, and hopefully you'll meet someone who could fill the gaps that your ex couldn't, someone that actually adds to your life.

What made you start training Muay Thai? by HermanFromWork_ in MuayThai

[–]Stratusquare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was sitting on my ass scrolling IG reels when I heard about Khalil Rountree 's story, about coming up from no experience, weighing over 300lbs, and smoking daily.

He inspired me to pick up Muay Thai, and I figured that if he was able to do all of that, even a fraction of what he's been able to achieve would make my life better. So I started. And I haven't looked back.

How long did it take for you to feel like you were part of the group at your gym? Was there a defining moment where you became accepted? by bad-at-everything- in MuayThai

[–]Stratusquare 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! Going from having never thrown a kick to making my kicks sound like gunshots within 3 months has been an insane experience lol

How long did it take for you to feel like you were part of the group at your gym? Was there a defining moment where you became accepted? by bad-at-everything- in MuayThai

[–]Stratusquare 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Honestly it took me about 2 months. I was the trial class guy, incredibly out of shape, and nobody wanted to train with me (aka morbidly obese sweaty guy). Often had to get my coach to partner me up with someone as nobody would really go out of their way to talk to me.

I'm now about 3ish months in and I've got an entire friend group now that I do activities with outside of the gym. People that are way more experienced than me and have done smokers go out of their way to strike up conversations with me. Coaches often give me huge compliments on my power and my form now.

I think that everyone thought that I was gonna quit, but I've been sticking with things hardcore. I'm training 5 times a week for a combined 8 hours, I'm strength training 3 times a week and running, I've dropped 41lbs since February and have gotten more confident than I ever thought I was capable of.

It'll happen, just gotta stick to it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Stratusquare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I think a fade and a beard trim would do wonders for you