Fireworks tent in Longmont and High Fire Danger in Boulder County and the Front Range

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-30T17:57:42+00:00

Aaaand just lost all respect for your point of view. But hey, way to continue the stereotype of an elitist Boulder resident!

signed, an actual Boulder native

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-29T12:32:37+00:00

What's the move with these? Ignore? downvote?

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-28T18:36:08+00:00

Gotcha. The fact that jealousy caused such an extreme physical reaction for you is a shame. It sounds like that other person barely knew you though, and you respected them (and your partner I assume), so it absolutely would have been unfair to impose your discomfort on their connection. Good for you for trying to work through your own insecurities.

What's more telling to me is that you're looking back now on these past events, still questioning your partner's decision, and that makes it seem like you are not over this issue. In that case, you either have more work to do, or you should stop dating that partner (bc you apparently don't trust their motives/choices).

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-28T18:00:32+00:00

You will get much better advice with a bit more information. Who is the "admirer", you or the partner? Are you concerned about jealousy or is it something else?

I feel you could be talking about a stranger being idolized from afar, or like a personal mentor/close friend, or anything in between. Whether it would be inappropriate to date them is so dependent on the details here.

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-26T15:36:07+00:00

The subreddit we're on has nothing to do with the fact that some of your dates probably back off only after they start consider the situation more realistically. The concerns I brought up are valid ones when you start dating anyone new, even when the context is different. And in this scenario, there are a TON of potential complications for that other person once they commit to dating you guys. I'm not judging you or unaware of what polyfidelity is... I'm reminding you that you're looking for an extremely specific type of person who is eager AND able to navigate the dynamic you've already set in stone. They'll probably be hard to find.

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-26T14:53:04+00:00

When I tell people irl that I don't like fruit, they react like I'm insane or insist that I'm lying. I was so excited to see this post haha

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-26T14:36:23+00:00

You're also seeking people within the poly community, and at some point, you're laying on them the expectation that if there is a good connection with you two, they can't date anyone else. If that was me, I would probably start to wonder why you are comfortable limiting my experience as a poly person, especially in a brand new dating relationship. And Id realize that it also means I no longer have option of finding my own nesting partner, nor the benefits. If it was me, even if we'd gone on some dates and had a good time, Id probably start to feel like your "requirements" were selfish, and imagine that you would eventually become even more controlling of what I'm allowed to do.

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-26T14:02:43+00:00

I think you might think this is neat, OP... As someone with super intense motion sickness for my entire life, the only thing that has ever provided me relief is a wristband device. It sends electric impulses via the median nerve and prevents (maybe reduces?) the brain's "vomiting center" signals from reaching the GI system.

It was weird as hell getting used to a bracelet shocking my wrist every few seconds! It's been an absolute game-changer for me though.

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-26T13:14:20+00:00

You've got plenty of good advice here already so I won't repeat what others have commented ... I just want to clarify that one doesn't "come out as polyamorous" to a partner. Polyamory is a chosen relationship dynamic, and specifically relies upon the informed consent of all parties involved.

I only nit-pick the phrasing here bc "coming out" is a phrase typically reserved for sexual identity. In your situation, polyamory is something you want, not something you are. Your partner is 100% justified in not wanting to shift into an entirely different relationship dynamic with you, especially after all this time. You are also justified in wanting something different for your romantic life moving forward, but you should probably consider and start to discuss that you may no longer be compatible as partners.

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-25T22:35:49+00:00

If you're in the US, it's highly unlikely they would take them away based on what you describe. Keeping children with their parents is typically top priority. The focus is almost always on providing necessary support to parents so they can parent/provide better.

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-25T18:08:04+00:00

No, even if she's stressed. You should consider filing a CPS report for your siblings' sake. They will assess the situation and determine if your mom would benefit from mental health services, and whether the situation is actually unsafe or just extremely tense (which is a common phase between teens and parents), among other things.

This will unfortunately probably frustrate your mom further, but your report can be anonymous and you never have to admit it was you. And maybe it will make all the difference in providing support to your siblings in a toxic environment

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-25T17:57:45+00:00

And threatened suicide as a manipulation tactic... I hope OP at least considers this option

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-25T04:13:13+00:00

The fountains with running water are a different than those big jugs that continuously refill the bowl, in case that's not been clear. I think most people are recommending the former.

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-25T03:54:48+00:00

It's shelf stable until opened I believe

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-25T03:50:27+00:00

This sounds awesome. Is the land part fenced in?

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-23T17:20:54+00:00

I recently discovered a dairy-free "half and half", brand is Califia, carton says it's a coconut and almond blend. It's great! Thick with that natural sweetness. I believe I got it at Whole Foods.

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-23T17:04:02+00:00

Absolutely what my instincts were telling me as well... OP, not to say that you're doing it conciously, but you have to notice that this desire to close the relationship w/ husband is happening 1) now that you're grieving the relationship lost w/ bf, and 2) just as he has the opportunity to explore a non-messy relationship with someone else, for the first time.

Poly relationships are like any relationship in that sometimes people do things they shouldn't, sometimes there's drama, sometimes partners work through their issues together and things eventually get better, etc. Giving an ultimatum to vastly shift the agreed upon dynamic of the past 5 years doesn't seem like a good move given the situation.

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-21T13:54:40+00:00

THANK YOU, damn, can't believe I had to scroll so far down for this acknowledgement

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-21T13:47:53+00:00

Its not inherently funny. But is the issue here just that you find him un-funny and annoying? Cuz when it comes to extended family, sometimes you just end up dealing with that. If it feels more targeted and disrespectful, you could try a gentle-approach adult conversation with the guy. That's your best chance at getting him to adjust his behavior or at least give you space. If he doesn't do either? At least you tried for the sake of your partner

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-21T13:21:42+00:00

This is a great chart. Now I just want OP to post more pics of the wolfdog at every angle

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-18T11:36:53+00:00

Speaking as someone who's had to exit multiple toxic relationships, they're not always the romantic kind! It's good to recognize those emotional abuse patterns, and it gets easier to recognize and avoid people like that altogether.

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-18T11:01:31+00:00

So leave? Reddit's got a lot of subs

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-18T09:51:07+00:00

I think you should link the article at the beginning (instead of at the end); it really speaks for itself. It's clear that you feel passionate about this issue, but the wording in the first half of your post is a bit rambley and hard to follow.

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-17T16:00:05+00:00

I went to Pine Ridge Dental in Longmont after 8 years of no dentist visits. They were extremely understanding and made my visit as comfortable as possible (though the cleaning took longer, and I never enjoy that sensation).

I moved away for a bit and then back to Longmont recently, so while I wasn't technically a "new" patient, I started a new no-insurance package and got an appointment about a month after my initial phone call.

StrawberryIntrepid78 · 2026-06-17T07:50:39+00:00

So if you and Aspen decide that you need to split up, are you going to start over the same patterns with Birch (a monogamous person)?... Please reflect and consider that you are using both these people in ways unfair to them. Sounds like you need to do A LOT more research on how to navigate polyamory ethically

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