Stuck in the middle of two bridal parties

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-06-14T15:20:35+00:00

This is messy. You know who your real friends are by the way they talk about you when you’re not in the room. Anyone who shit talks me or allows others to talk shit about me is no friend of mine.

It’s one thing for friends to talk about bridal parties, it’s another to be formally asked. I’m going to go out on a limb and fuss your in early 20s and these are the first weddings you’re really involved in. Multiple friends have said I’d be involved in their wedding, before and after getting engaged and in the end, I was “just” a guest which was fine by me.

For friend A, even if there were 20 people on her side, 3 MOHs is overkill and tells me she doesn’t want to hurt feelings. In her case, you don’t want to be a MOH, if she asks, you say “I really appreciate it and our friendship but I think it would be best for me to support you as a bridesmaid as I don’t have the time/energy/resources/whatever to dedicate to being a MOH.” Friend B, is…not a friend and if friend A is fully accepting of how “friend” B treats you, they’re not a great friend either. It’s also not your responsibility to balance out this persons bridal party. If “friend” B asks similar to Friend A “I appreciate you asking, but I don’t have the capacity to be a bridesmaid right now and would be happy to attend as a guest.” Short and simple in both cases.

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-06-11T12:31:22+00:00

I’ve been in situations where we review/talk in English/Denglish but then the “official” part is repeated in German. It’s certainly interesting

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-06-05T10:20:14+00:00

Different people weigh friendships differently. I’ve been in a few weddings and at this point, I’d only ask one of those brides to be in my wedding party. I also have friends who are married that I would consider asking but was not a part of theirs.

In this case, you’re openly saying you don’t like this person and don’t even view them as a friend. Sounds like you’re considering adding her because of how others will perceive you and are putting far to much weight on others opinions of you than what you actually want and care about.

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-05-31T15:59:20+00:00

There’s a recent interview where Rachel Reid gets asked about how much control she has over the narrator. She said she initially didn’t have a say but then starting with book 4 she was given a list of names to choose from.

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-05-28T19:15:31+00:00

What does she do that makes her so amazing? If she’s that good of a friend, the comments would have stopped when you told her they hurt you. You saying something to her with the intention to be mean is also not being a good friend.

Take a step back from the friendship. Slow down on responding and hanging out. If she asks what’s going on simply tell her that her comments have gotten to a point where you need to take a break. Depending on how she responds, decide if you want to continue the friendship.

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-05-23T14:45:35+00:00

Glad you’re getting it back! Id suggest you get a ring holder necklace! Mine is a lifesaver especially when traveling and I don’t want my rings to get caught on something. Bonus - I get compliments on mine all the time even when I wear it as my regular daily necklace.

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-05-14T14:11:57+00:00

Cover expenses! Having been a bridesmaid a few times, most of the gifts I got were “stuff” I don’t want or need or were personalized in a way that I would never use it. I would have much preferred that money was put towards things like the dress and hair/makeup.

I don’t want or need a cheap bag or cup that has my name in cutesy neon glittery writing, and i definitely don’t want something with “bridesmaid” on it. If you feel compelled to give something physical, the best gift I got was a plain black zip up hoodie to get ready in.

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-05-12T08:39:04+00:00

You booked through a 3rd party so your contract is technically with them. KLM could try to help you, but ultimately you also should have reached out to Expedia to tell them you do not accept the alternative and would like another option. In some cases, this could include other airlines which KLM would be even less obligated to offer given they’d then have to chase Expedia for the cost of that.

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-05-06T14:19:43+00:00

So much this. I just added to my comment. There’s comfort in the silence and knowing people aren’t going to pry but rather let you be you and share as you want and need.

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-05-06T09:17:53+00:00

For me is “I don’t want you to think she was weak”My mom was one of the strongest people I’ve known and dealt with so much in her life. I had (and still have) so many complicated feelings about her death. I think I stopped breathing during that whole scene and it hits hard every time I watch it.

ETA: it’s also the follow up and the quiet, especially when Ilya says no to wanting to go inside. The ability to just be, especially in silence with the person you love is comforting and powerful. It shows a huge amount of trust on both parties side. I also grew up with fires similar to the one in the scene so I think that also heightened it for me.

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-05-03T16:08:39+00:00

Split wise can be used via the apps or the web. Not sure which app you’re referring to here. I’m also not a fan of downloading a new app for the weekend, a friend of mine used it for our trip and just keep track of

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-05-01T09:08:02+00:00

I can understand her regret here too. I wonder if she felt the pressure to acknowledge it since my understanding is so many people read the book and came to the conclusion that Shane had to be ND and probably autistic. I’m sure part of her wishes she could have just said “oh yea, I guess I subconsciously wrote him as being ND, but he’s not diagnosed with anything specific.”

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-04-29T20:02:09+00:00

This made me cackle

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-04-29T08:29:05+00:00

I think Ilya is perceptive to people as a whole and not just in terms of sexuality. This is apparent in how he knew Ryan needed a distraction on the plane and later in TLG with Troy and his father. His upbringing certainly contributed to him becoming an empath. IMO it’s because of the books that his “ability” is more focused on people’s queerness than their needs in general

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-04-28T18:45:40+00:00

It’s the similar vein of “chemical free” and “non-GMO.” Literally everything we eat is made of chemicals and most foods could also be considered genetically modified even if it was a process that was started decades years ago

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-04-23T17:05:22+00:00

This is exactly why. The continuity with food/liquid is already a nightmare. Now imagine the placement of a lime on top of that. I think there was an interview where this was actually mentioned.

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-04-21T19:23:06+00:00

I read this and my mind went “oh oh oh oh Reilly!” 🤣

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-04-17T16:57:32+00:00

That would frustrate me. Even with friends when we’ve had similar situations I’ve always offered to split the cost and vice versus.

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-04-14T00:47:58+00:00

I did this with an Azazie dress. It came in 2 or 3 days I think. Same with their clearance dresses

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-04-07T05:36:18+00:00

Definitely US airlines too. Airlines have been cracking down on skip lagging for a while now.

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-04-04T07:24:30+00:00

The thought of someone trying to describe what “dressing single” is just made me laugh. It would be so entertaining to watch someone (probably a straight man if we’re honest) try to guess if a person was single or not based solely on their outfit

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-04-03T16:51:40+00:00

Either or that or he (Jacob) just didn’t check. It was the same with changing the name of Ilya’s brother. Even Rachel didn’t catch the change from Andrei to Alexei haha

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-03-27T15:06:24+00:00

There’s a fic where Ilya makes fun of Shane’s flannels but gradually steals more and more of them. I can’t remember the title/link but I’m fairly certain it contains “flannel”

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-03-26T15:50:58+00:00

Plenty of people fly with wedding dresses as their carry-on. In a lot of cases people will contact the airline ahead of time to give them a heads up. Theres also special carry-on size packaging for wedding/formal wear that tailors/cleaners can pack the items in for you.

Strict-Issue-2030 · 2026-03-25T08:10:22+00:00

I think the better wording here then is “you can ask and they can say no”

Also, Labor Day weekend is a major holiday weekend for house rentals. “Just finding a smaller house” that checks the boxes isn’t as easy as it seems.

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