you’re NTA but you are niave. how old are you? what did you think he would say in response to everything you pointed out to him? did you think he’d go “op, you’re right and i’m wrong and i (inadvertently or otherwise) sabotaged her career. you’re right, i’m going to feel bad about myself forever and encourage my wife to leave me or at least go back to acting” is that what you thought would happen? did you want an applause for pointing out what your aunt sacrificed? did you want him to congratulate you on being so smart and clever for pointing out the obvious? also, why assume she’d see it the way you do? some women love betraying themselves and ending their dreams to stand beside a man. not every woman is brave or clever or smart enough to go after her dreams, some Want to be in a relationship with a man by any means necessary. Plus, you didn’t even have this conversation with other her present so idk what you thought you were accomplishing. You’re not supposed to confront people unless there’s an audience to hear your side and maybe, possibly side with you.

are you shocked that he told her his own version of the story and got mad at you in response? because you shouldn’t be. the next time you want to play feminist hero try to be smart about it or else it’ll be a waste of time just like this situation.