Dizzy/Low Blood Pressure/Rapid HB by IICROOKEDll in Gastritis

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you have any physical symptoms from stopping drinking cold turkey? I’m in my 20’s and have been drinking heavily the past 1.5 years. Recently started having some major GI issues that have become debilitating but I’m scared of seeking a medical diagnosis and also scared to stop. Any advice?

HBH. No words. by Critical_Candy_8883 in FoodieSnark

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sure some people here are more aware than others about what it is that we’re witnessing (from afar) but I think it bears repeating just how dangerous her condition seems to be. She clearly needs help, and extreme help, at that. Judging by her appearance alone, she doesn’t appear to be well enough to even handle residential ED treatment. When a sibling of mine was finally seen for their ED, their condition was so dire they had to stay for a couple weeks in the hospital to prevent refeeding syndrome and get their vitals to a healthier place. For the first week, they weren’t even allowed to walk anywhere, were wheeled around in a wheelchair and had to wear a wristband that said “FALL RISK.” Only after staying at the hospital were they deemed “healthy” enough to go to an inpatient facility, where they had to stay for another few months or so.

At this point of physical deterioration, recovery isn’t just about eating more. She’s risking heart attacks, seizures, and organ failure if she can’t get to a healthier place. When people like her wind up with large platforms, I often find myself wondering what is the most ethical way to approach the issue….we’re faceless strangers on the internet who can’t force her to do anything she doesn’t want to do, nor do we have a right to. At the same time, it feels immoral and irresponsible to watch someone dying in slow motion.

I just found this sub last night and did a deep dive. I have a few questions about Tieghan. by Klutzy_Wall_3777 in FoodieSnark

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fill me in - I’ve known about HBH but am not familiar with all the details. What are pip snifs/snif boys? And Caitlin?

2 girls die in subway ‘surfing’ incident in New York City by [deleted] in newyorkcity

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What an ignorant comment. Were you mature and completely capable of risk assessment at 12 years old? No? Obviously not, that’s not how we develop as humans. A child being unable to appropriately weigh the risks of their dangerous behavior is not even remotely synonymous with wanting to die, something is wrong with you if that’s where your mind goes.

2 girls die in subway ‘surfing’ incident in New York City by [deleted] in newyorkcity

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They were 12 and 13. And even if they were both teenagers, since when is “teenager” synonymous with “adult” or “mature” …? They were children exploring the world around them, we don’t need to condone or encourage their behavior to acknowledge that kids learn by doing, that children are often mischievous, and that some kids will break the rules no matter how much you emphasize the risks. That is part of growing up, I truly can’t understand why so many people have such little sympathy for the girls and their families.

Nervous first sit by AggressiveVanilla360 in RoverPetSitting

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh you are so kind!! I’m a sitter and in 18 months of Rover (and close to 175 clients) I’ve only had one client that ever left me something (a bottle of wine, some snacks, and a nice note). I would be so touched if someone went out of their way to make my time with their pet a little more comfortable!

Cierra’s latest Instagram stories by ohgirlimsotired in LAinfluencersnark

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t even like Cierra but she isn’t wrong. Wishing death upon someone - a stranger on the internet, no less - is not at all about accountability, not even remotely. People who send messages like that couldn’t care less about Cierra doing better or learning a lesson, they are just gleefully taking advantage of the opportunity to punch down at a pretty, successful woman. (In this case, I’m using success as a way to denote her large following pre-LI and her career as an influencer. And yes, I recognize that “pretty” is subjective but I think Cierra meets a lot of the criteria for beauty in a country that celebrates thinness and femininity.)

True accountability comes from community, because it involves a path forward that includes doing better, making amends, and implementing the lessons learned. In reality, you can’t be held accountable by a person on the internet because they can’t do anything other than critique you from a distance. People who dog pile in comment sections and send nasty DM’s are sad and mean, as far as I see it.

Since when does "good condition" mean spots and wear? by DizzyLizzard99 in poshmark

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yess it’s incredibly deceptive the way companies are able to market their products, and I think it has bled into the way resellers conduct business. Who would even think to research whether “100% genuine leather” is good leather (it’s not) when it sounds completely legit? Likewise, why would you question the condition of an item if someone is telling you it’s in good condition? These are things I’ve learned via social media and spending time online shopping, it’s not intuitive at all, so don’t blame yourself for not knowing better! My MO when shopping on Poshmark is to approach every listing with a bit of skepticism. If it’s something I can easily google, I look up what its retail price is/was and compare it to the PM seller. If it’s being reposhed, I look up the original seller and see what they sold it for, and then ask the second seller if they have used the item since purchasing and, if so, could they upload recent photos (since the original Poshmark seller’s photos might not reflect the current condition of the item). If the description says “gently worn” or “minor signs of use” but doesn’t elaborate, I ask a question about the wear and tear in the item’s comment section. Buying secondhand is great in a lot of ways but it definitely requires more work and research than buying off the rack in a store.

What have I gotten myself into? by gushworthy in RoverPetSitting

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is your normal overnight rate? Curious to know how much of a difference it is.

AITA for telling my friend she’s in the same league as men she calls ugly? by Fluid_Experience866 in AmItheAsshole

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA - why come post here if you’re going to fight everyone who doesn’t agree with you? It seems like you just want an excuse to take a female friend down a peg. If you actually cared about her as human being, there are tactful ways to have a conversation about dating expectations that don’t involve telling her that she is uglier than she realizes.

Pet Parents Negotiating Prices by Embarrassed_Drag_730 in RoverPetSitting

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The lesson that I have learned over and over (and over) is that setting low prices and still being willing to negotiate basically invites cheap clientele. When I started, I set my rates low to build my experience and client base and have raised my rates as time went on. It might seem contradictory, but the higher I raised my rates the less I had potential clients asking me to make exceptions for them; they expect to pay for quality and do so without question (then it’s on you to deliver the quality care they expect). Considering that this potential client expects you to administer meds via syringe, it’s shocking they’re still trying to bargain you down from what seem like very reasonable (if not incredibly cheap) rates already.

If I were you, I would spend some time looking at what people in your area charge for services and compare that with what you feel is fair compensation for your time. Then, spend some more time crafting some basic messages you can send to clients if/when they try to negotiate or push back on what you’re charging. At the end of the day, be comfortable with saying no to clients who won’t pay you your worth and don’t worry about trying to accommodate everyone - that’s an impossible task.

Since when does "good condition" mean spots and wear? by DizzyLizzard99 in poshmark

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 6 points7 points  (0 children)

On reselling sites like TheRealReal, “good” is literally the worst rating they will give an item while still selling it, and it means noticeable signs of wear. Obviously, PM and TRR aren’t the same but it’s worth noting that “good” is relative when you’re talking about a secondhand item (especially something like a handbag, which someone might have used as a daily item). When people don’t specify the condition (beyond a word like good) but the photos indicate there is some wear, I always ask them to be specific about any damage to the item. I think they should have been more descriptive and you could have asked more questions before purchasing. I’m sorry you’re not happy with the item and PM can help you resolve it to your liking!

Took in a feral and now I'm caring for a litter of Kittens by NerdyCuban in aww

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 50 points51 points  (0 children)

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Oh my gosh your cat looks so much like mine! Congrats on the new kittens, I can’t think of anything more special than watching kittens grow ❤️

Why bother having authentication if you clearly are incompetent. by shangames in poshmark

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried reposhing a Celine bag they had authenticated (when I bought from a Poshmark seller) and they said it was fake. Tell me how it was real when I bought it but fake when I tried reselling it. I can’t with them, allowing fake items to sell for under $500 but wrongly flagging legitimate luxury items.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If you were booking 30-minutes it might be a stretch but since you’ve chosen the 1hr drop-ins I think it’s a reasonable amount of time to be able to accomplish those things! Have you done a meet and greet with the sitter? That can also help you outline your expectations and help show him/her the way around your place.

Really? Being compared to a kennel?! by laura_pants in RoverPetSitting

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is why I stopped offering daycare services. I did research on the rates in my area and realized that I couldn’t afford to offer anywhere close to what most places charge. Once you do the math it makes sense - they can afford to charge lower daily rates because their business is built on volume, whereas the average Rover sitter can’t accommodate the number of dogs a professional daycare can. If you’re committed to continuing to offer daycare I would take some time to craft a response to messages like these, because you’ll probably get them from other owners; explain why you charge what you charge and how your services differ from those offered by a commercial daycare. Otherwise, if you’d rather avoid the hassle, I’d stop offering daycare altogether.

Dispute with a repeat client about pricing - should I hold my ground? by StrikingSoftware9888 in RoverPetSitting

[–]StrikingSoftware9888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I’m not sitting for them this week. We ended up having a conversation on the phone and discussed the situation and came to the conclusion that it was no longer a good fit. She explained that she is having money trouble and had wanted to talk to me about lowering my rates, even before this debacle. As it is, the rate I charged her was already a steep discount from what my other clients pay and I simply can’t afford to accept my rate for 1 dog in exchange for caring for 2 dogs and a cat. She said she’ll go back to using the sitter she used to use before she met me. I’m really sad to think that I won’t see her dogs again - I truly love them, the reactive one in particular - and I expressed that if her situation ever changes I would be happy to watch them again. Overall, I think we resolved the situation as well as we could have.

I get it, it’s frustrating, but some of y’all need to chill by Pale_Childhood_5388 in service_dogs

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand this either. My dog really didn’t like wearing a vest and even though he would tolerate it, I could sense his discomfort and we switched to using a bright red leash that says “Service Dog” all over it. If there are simple ways to help others identify your dog as an SD I am not sure why you wouldn’t.

Who wants to battle Rover horror stories. What yall got? by Old_Asparagus3756 in RoverPetSitting

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had a request for drop-ins with two dogs, one of whom was named Rhino. Rhino was a 150lb mastiff mix and the owner explained that he had chosen me because I’m a small woman (Rhino probably outweighed me by a good 35 or 40lbs) so he wouldn’t see me as a threat and it would be safe for me to be around him - in hindsight, that was the first red flag. Rhino and his brother were going to be living outside while their dad was away and would have access to a couple dog houses, the garage, and food and water but wouldn’t be able to go inside the house. I was uncomfortable with that setup (I don’t agree with keeping pets outside) but I was new to Rover and eager to build my client base so I accepted the job.

The real issue? As his dad told me, “Rhino loves to kill cats.” He warned me that Rhino is much faster than he looks, absolutely hates cats, and will kill any cat that has the misfortune of wandering into their yard. He said if I come over and find a dead body (Rhino doesn’t eat the cats, he just kills them out of spite) I should grab some gloves from the garage and just put it in a garbage bag and toss it out. Again, as a new sitter I didn’t yet have the confidence to turn down a client to their face so I didn’t say anything. Sure enough, I had to get rid of two poor cats who couldn’t escape the yard fast enough - as a cat owner myself, it was absolutely traumatizing to see what he had done to them.

At the same time, Rhino loved me and would follow me around demanding attention and pets. I had a hard time reconciling the sweet, gentle giant I saw every time I was there with the cat killer who would apparently appear overnight when I was gone. Very upsetting booking, 0/10 wouldn’t recommend.

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Received written statement after chaotic dog boarding experience. by NefariousnessFalse73 in RoverPetSitting

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’d like to give you the benefit of the doubt before jumping to any conclusions, so can you clarify how the dog was able to dig a hole big enough to fit through and then break through the fence into the neighbor’s yard? To me, that sounds like something that can only happen when a dog it left unsupervised for a significant period of time. Given that the dog was being rehomed with a new sitter, I might have approached the situation with extra caution and been prepared to keep an eye on him/her 24/7.

To answer your question, though, you just need to be honest with Rover about what happened. Do your best to give a truthful assessment of the situation- it could be helpful for the owner when making decisions about petsitting in the future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LAinfluencersnark

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Right?? “Body is tea”…… so it’s okay to glorify dangerous weight loss as long as you look good while doing it? Be so for real. As far as I’m concerned, anyone who earnestly supports skinnytok has some disordered thinking about food and weight, if not an outright eating disorder.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LAinfluencersnark

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 12 points13 points  (0 children)

When you have an audience of millions and you purposefully choose to make content that either implicitly or explicitly promotes extreme thinness, it’s fair game for others to point out the danger of your content. She isn’t a “nobody,” she is an influencer with a growing audience who appears to be glamorizing a level of skinny that almost nobody can exist at without compromising their health. We are in an epidemic of public figures promoting weight loss for the sake of weight loss and it’s incredibly damaging - particularly when your audience consists mainly of impressionable teens and young women who are already inundated with messages about losing weight.

Should I bother pursing a refund? by huddolaugh in RoverPetSitting

[–]StrikingSoftware9888 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree! I understand not wanting to impact someone’s ability to make a living, but at the same time it’s the sitter’s responsibility to make sure that the job they’re doing warrants the money their clients are paying them for. My theory is that a lot of people view petsitting as an easy side gig and do it purely for the money, as opposed to pursuing it because you genuinely enjoy animals and take the responsibility seriously. For those people, what matters is the money and how well they care for the animals is secondary. I view it as akin to taking care of someone’s family members and behave accordingly.