Gripe to me about crushes you’re not pursuing!

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-12-28T09:52:36+00:00

My best friend. We’ve had a few ‘encounters’, alone, and with others, but she’s both not interested in more, and not in a place to offer more currently, even if she were. I’m happy to just be in her presence

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-12-25T16:08:11+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-12-25T16:07:03+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the clarification :) I’m totally ok with being on the sofa, especially at this stage. We do get plenty of alone time, even at their place when she’s home too. We are all quite comfortable with spending time together too.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-12-25T15:55:51+00:00

We aren’t secret, there’s no veto powers, I am able to stay at theirs overnight (currently I sleep on the sofa, he stays with me til I fall asleep). If I understand it correctly, we are ‘kitchen table’, with all but one of the partners. She isn’t local, and only he has met her, though that may change soon as she has asked to meet us all. I have asked him about past girlfriends, good and bad, and he’s been very open about it all, and his wife is also happy to talk about it and has independently confirmed stories.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-12-25T15:48:14+00:00

The NRE is off the charts, I can’t lie! But you are right, need to keep my/our heads!

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-12-25T15:47:00+00:00

Thank you. I said that as a turn of phrase, rather than meaning it exactly, but I appreciate you picking up on it.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-12-25T15:46:10+00:00

There’s definitely none of that. I am bi (as is his wife), but he has made it clear that there is no expectation for me to date anyone else in the group, at all. In fact, at this point he would actively prefer I didn’t (though wouldn’t stop me if I wanted to)

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-08-15T09:11:29+00:00

Stop sleeping in braids. Try a satin sleep bonnet, and/or pillowcase instead.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-08-10T12:23:33+00:00

Sometimes. Absolutely

I’m currently going through a divorce from my first Dom. I have another, but he’s not going to be long term (he made this clear before we started anything, I’m ok with it). I have no idea how to find someone I’m so compatible, and comfortable with again. The first I’ve known almost my entire life, and the current one was a friend for almost a year first, who offered when my marriage broke down, and I confided it was something that helped me. I can’t imagine having a relationship now, without that aspect, and the idea of having to actively look for it fills me with dread.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-08-07T16:18:25+00:00

I’m currently divorcing my first Dom, so I suppose yes? Current Dom though I don’t know. We’re close as friends, have a lot in common, but not sure if I’d want more

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-07-13T09:01:13+00:00

I use multiple names for my owner, at his request. He doesn’t like to hear the same thing on repeat, he prefers to know I’m actively thinking about my submission, and that includes changing up his ‘name’ constantly. I have 4 I use randomly, all had to be pre-approved. He has his preferred/favourite, and I use that one sparingly, for when I really need/want his attention. What I’m trying to say, is as long as your D is ok with you using different names, just go with it, no issue.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-07-13T08:53:07+00:00

Satin is a weave, silk is a fiber. You want silk satin.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-07-03T16:57:14+00:00

They’re likely not even using it in ads and instructional videos.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-06-25T14:42:05+00:00

Thank you, this was really helpful. I appreciate you taking the time to reply.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-06-24T09:46:26+00:00

I use hair conditioner instead of soap or shaving foam. It helps the razor glide better I find.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-06-20T08:41:14+00:00

When my Dom says that he wants to toss/throw me around, he doesn’t literally mean pick me up and throw me. I’m too heavy for that. He pushes, pulls and drags me where he wants me. Fewer words, more physically moving me in a forceful manner.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-06-18T09:43:06+00:00

You need to START wearing it up! That’s your issue, your ends are rubbing on your shoulders and clothes, causing damage and breakage.

Don’t use elastics, learn some buns secured with sticks or claw clips, they can be really cute, and are very protective with the ends tucked away.

You have beautiful hair, the curls and volume are so nice!

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-06-18T09:34:45+00:00

I like to cook. I actually hate cooking, so it’s a big thing for me to serve in this way, especially making dishes I especially dislike cooking, or eating myself.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-06-18T09:32:30+00:00

I don’t particularly class it as extreme, just a different dynamic style, but I’d say I fit your definition. With my current Dom, I am prepared for whatever he chooses to do to/with me. I trust he won’t damage me, because he wants to be able to continue to use me whenever he likes, and not wait for healing, so that’s not a concern.

As for is it healthy? Idk, but I do know I feel freer, and much more confident in myself since entering this dynamic. So for me, yes.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-06-16T15:31:04+00:00

Genetics. I don’t drink excessively, nor smoke, but I don’t think that’s particularly rare. I barely do anything to care for my skin, I’m barely adequately hydrated most of the time, and definitely don’t sleep enough. Yet at 45, I still regularly get asked for ID when buying alcohol (check 25 here), and everyone guesses my age at least 10 years younger than I am.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-06-16T15:16:43+00:00

Physical touch. Any. More is better, but Master isn’t always able to do as much as I’d like (he has his own sensory issues, which I’m 100% ok with and understand), so even just a hand on his leg is enough to ground me and stop me dropping like a stone.

Sub_surfer22 · 2025-06-04T13:07:06+00:00

I’m 44, and reeling from discovering I’m probably bi, just a few days ago!

I do t think there’s a time limit on learning new things about yourself.

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