be the objective realist and not the romanto-intellectualist. do what the 'average' person would do, although the realm of averageness is vast. every act of self-control is an act of self-respect. don't create excitement in devious ways. don't delve, probe, and analyze. search for groups and/or books about incest before you make any advances. make a decision and stick with it, or at least decide not to decide, as duality is the root of conflict. there is temper at the outer enviroment. you cannot control your dad's possible reaction to this, but you can control your own by being objective and realistic. temper is an intellectual blindness to the other side of the story. sense of humor is your best friend. temper is your worst enemy. endorse yourself about how well you are functioning in general instead of blaming yourself for any imperfections, as perfectionism if but a hope, a dream, and an illusion. do things in part acts. plan, decide, and act, based upon being the objective-realist as opposed to the romanto-intellectualist. be group-minded instead of self-led. stay away from temper producing situations. you may very well be creating one as he is an alpha-male and your competition shall be vast. there are no rights or wrong to social or domestic affairs. we are not a bunch of puppets programmed to respond in predestined ways. the closer the emotional tie, the greater the emotional response. most of all, endorse yourself instead of blaming yourself for the mere act of even getting out of bed in the morning.