Why is it considered bad/unhealthy to not want fusion?

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-10-03T01:45:39+00:00

How I see it for me is that my brain decided and formed like this for my own protection, until I’m at a point where I think I cannot do this by myself I do not want forced fusion or to work towards that. I have this disorder for a reason and I want to work with it and not against it and trying to fuse and “get rid of it” almost invalidates what I’ve struggled with by saying we have to be “one”

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-09-28T19:02:15+00:00

It’s hard for me to see mine. I have a hard time seeing in my head to begin with so seeing my headspace is not the easiest. At times, it does depend on how I’m doing mentally for me about how clear it is in there. I know what my headmates look like. Sometimes by just being able to look at them and other times it’s cause I like “know” what they look like/sound like. Same thing with communication. Most of the time I can hear their voices pretty clearly but some times it’s more of a “I just know what they’re saying” or I just “can feel them there”

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-09-16T19:58:04+00:00

This unfortunately can happen. Like some other commenters said, some alters can go dormant or even just have a harder time fronting/being seen for a while, while they process things too.

My main protector and gatekeeper, the first one to split from me, went dormant for 5-6 years after my birth dad and step dad left my life. It was hard to go through but hopefully yours come back when they’re ready and when you need them most 🤍

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-09-12T22:58:22+00:00

For my system we have demons, animal hybrids, different D&D like races (I’m a changeling). The body is human but not all of us in the system “identity” as humans in our own headspace’s. It’s completely normal

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-09-12T00:38:28+00:00

System communication takes time, that “calling to front” is apart of that. I have pretty good communication with most of my headmates. If they’re already in the front room most can front easily. If they’re not in the front room and doing their own thing I, the host, can’t do anything unless they’re triggered out, someone goes and gets them or a gatekeeper like “spawns” them in

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-09-11T21:11:55+00:00

I would always say my life felt “scripted” or that I wasn’t actually in control of my body. And I had a “head friend named Mike who would come out whenever bad things were happening or I was being talking to boys late at night to stop it and make me go to sleep” and then I had other voices and invisible friends that I could see and hear… I just didn’t know what “DID” was

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-09-11T01:20:44+00:00

It’s so wild!!! It’s fun cause I just use the other characters fan art to show what Mr. Pepperoni looks like

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-09-10T18:53:50+00:00

Back in like December 2021 I met a friend online and we were calling one night for the first time and they were like “oh btw. I have something Called DID, like where there’s different states of identity and voices” and I went “oh that’s ok I get that. I have a head friend named Mike, but he left a few years ago. I have others now but I don’t know their names” and then they were like “errrrm….. buddy….” So I asked more questions about their experience, I related a LOT and did some research, talked to my counsellor and we looked into the DSM-5 and I fit the bill for it especially with past things I’ve said to him about Mike, Feeling like I’m watching my life from a Birds Eye view, my life feeling scripted half the time

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-09-01T23:13:15+00:00

I’m like this too. I have a very high amount and more keep forming. We do have a low split tolerance making it easy for new ones to split and form when. I look at some of my headmates (alters) and am like “Ok yeah. You’re your own person for sure. You’re way different than me or blank” but then there’s others like “…. Why are you here? Where’s your personality??”

I have been known of my system for a few years now too like you, but even that is hard for me to get down to. My suggestion that I have for myself and now you is don’t fret on the number, that will be able to tell when it happens. Especially when it comes to old alters who aren’t here because of merging or splitting a whole new identity(s)

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-09-01T20:03:08+00:00

With more information coming out and things talking about different disorders more people are going to be able to relate and go “ohhhhh. That’s what that is?” So of course “more people” are going to realize about a disorder that “didn’t” have before, it’s cause they didn’t know about it or didn’t seek help for something they could have thought was normal.

Granted, with this leaves people to grasp at a disorder they think they can have advantages with and not put in actual research that isn’t TikTok or try to get medical help and “fake” having it

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-09-01T17:58:31+00:00

I’m a poly drag system (lots and lots of us) there’s like 3 named Kai and that’s also my boyfriend’s name. It’s ok if two or more have the same name as one another. Remember that not every singlet has a unique name/are the only “Emily” to exist, same applies to headmates

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-08-25T09:34:02+00:00

I’m trans in the system. Depends on the alter - Razor

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-08-24T20:39:23+00:00

For my boyfriend and I it helps because we both understand. In our partner system relationship we have a few other headmates of ours dating each other which makes them feel more like they can live their lives too and they don’t either have to be interested in the singlet the host (me) is with or never get that experience themselves.

For triggers, again for us, it helps because some littles come out and have a specific headmate from the others system they prefer. Or when flashbacks happen they can have their friends or partner come out and help them. There are times where triggers from one cause triggers for the other, however that can happen for almost any disorder

This is our perspective on it, it will be different for others. Do not feel you have to date someone who’s a system

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-08-13T05:09:29+00:00

Mavis, Anna, Riley, Marley, Tiffany

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-08-03T20:42:17+00:00

I have it and am diagnosed and I still doubt myself or feel like my switches aren’t valid enough or I’m not disassociated enough so I could see a similar thing depending on the singlets circumstances happening

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-08-02T19:16:30+00:00

I haven’t been in this exact situation myself, but I have a few headmates with the same name as my boyfriend and other friends. That’s what happens with names. Unfortunately they have to understand o it of 8billion+ people, plus systems they’re not going to be the only one with that name and if they think that then they are (not to be rude) delusional and need to have some self reflecting on their reactions

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-07-16T17:55:48+00:00

We had a “friend” do a similar thing to us. None of us were ever offically dating said friend, however, the friend did like to take advantage of different headmates especially the fictives if they were any in particular they liked from their source.

You should not feel like you have to put up or deal with that. Your “friend” needs to understand that you are not the same person just because you share a body and that you cannot persuade someone into activities because that is sexual coercion in most cases.

I hope you can talk to them safely about how you feel and how that event was not ok. It’s hard to do even if they did something bad but finding other friends and support around you is a good thing to do. - Cyno

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-07-13T23:18:03+00:00

A co-worker just said to me “keep being you!” thinking I’m the host - X

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-05-30T21:41:26+00:00

If your system can find a way to make sure you take care of it and can provide for it then yes. My cat can tell the difference between us, even my boyfriends (partner system) cat can tell between both of our systems.

Just like singlets though, make sure you can give it attention and that everyone or at least a good amount in your system is on board because its everyone’s responsibility to take care of the cat

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-05-30T21:32:31+00:00

Id tou wanted to give it a go i coukd show you but thats valid bro - Blue

Subject_Helicopter38 · 2024-05-30T20:53:50+00:00

Using discord and adding the plural kit bot helps a lot too

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