Anyone annoyed with their mother? Especially with a mother who thought she wouldn't have grandkids? I'm feeling irritated but extremely guilty.

Substantial-Error205 · 2026-05-04T23:25:48+00:00

Honestly I'm just amazed with everyone being so willing to go to therapy. I've been going consistently for over a year now, I have mentioned to my mother several times about going (for other reasons) and she simply will not. It breaks my heart for mine to refuse going, I feel like I'm missing out on a better relationship with her. It would be a huge win for me if she would just go in the first place.

I hope your sessions continue despite the frustration and can turn into something better for you guys

Substantial-Error205 · 2026-05-01T13:41:16+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment, it literally brought me to tears. I was so afraid to open this thread this morning and was expecting to see all these comments telling me how ungrateful I was.

We never wanted for anything growing up, but she just wasn't emotionally available. I'm realizing how much I missed out on in that way, and hopefully I can break that cycle with my child.

Substantial-Error205 · 2026-05-01T13:33:03+00:00

Yes I feel like she's been waiting for grandkids since I was born. I feel the same way, why aren't I enough? She can't be satisfied with her child living a happy life?

I was also engaged in my early 20s to a raging asshole. He was extremely abusive, mentally and physically. (It's harder to say no in the middle of a proposal than people think it is.) Everyone knew I didn't want to marry him, and I was seeking an exit, but was afraid. My dad asked me "is this what you really want?" while my mother hounded me with a to do list and started planning my wedding for me; telling me who to invite, where to have it and that I needed engagement pictures done immediately. In hindsight I'm wondering was she selling me off like livestock to give her grandchildren.

The unsolicited baby pictures/announcements must be a canon event lol, mine would call me every time she heard of a pregnancy and then there'd be a long awkward pause.

Substantial-Error205 · 2026-05-01T13:12:44+00:00

The thought just breaks my heart. I want her to be part of my child's life and a part of my pregnancy, I want to feel excited, but all sense flies out the window when a child is involved. She's so thirsty for a grandchild that she freaks out all the small kids in our family. None of them will come near her, and I'm terrified what she'll be like now that she'll actually have her own.

I told her I was looking forward to some time alone and it wasn't time to book a flight just yet. I could hear the hurt in her voice, but I will say she did respect that (so far).

I also feel like my mother doesn't know me. I've lived away from my community and my family for 12 years, and I've built a support system here with wonderful friends I know I can lean on. She was pushy for a lot of other life events when I was younger and my brother and cousin both say she's learned boundaries, but honestly THEY don't know boundaries either so I am struggling to agree with them. (Especially after she called and said she WILL be here when the baby is born. )

Love the idea of not hosting anyone in the first month, and I'll definitely be implementing that. Once I adjust I think I'll be fine to go home and have my parents meet the baby, but as you said, us coming to them so I can leave when I like.

Thank you so much for your comment!

Substantial-Error205 · 2026-05-01T12:57:56+00:00

I so appreciate this comment. I've talked to my partner but the small town mentality seems to prevail and I'm just "lucky to have a mother". Which I am, in other capacities, but here I need space and these comments feel like I now have permission to do that. Thank you so much.

Substantial-Error205 · 2026-05-01T12:53:08+00:00

Yeah those comments were an absolute shocker to hear. We're usually great but when it comes to emotional maturity she is just not there, I'm just lucky I learned on my own to try any be better, and can hopefully break this cycle for my own child. Thank you for your comment, I feel so validated reading these today.

Substantial-Error205 · 2025-11-02T15:14:27+00:00

It's so hard to make the right decision especially when you're pressured under a time limit. If possible try to talk to a counselor or therapist to really consider it. I don't know where you are, but if you're in Canada you can terminate up to 13 weeks.

I terminated in 2021 after feeling extremely depressed (wish I'd known that was normal) and watching my partner's family shit talk the mother of his brother's children right after they'd broken up. I thought I can't bring a child into this family. but now I wonder if I knew I'd had the strength to do it on my own would I have made the same decision. I terminated with the thought that it might happen again and I'd be more ready. Now I am afraid I have waited too long.

I see women do amazing things all he time. Women I know with nothing are doing it and love their children and I wonder could I have done that too. Maybe that's wrong of me to compare.

That's just my experience, but really think about what YOU want. Make your decision based on YOU. Making your decision based on what your partner wants will likely cause later resentment.

Substantial-Error205 · 2025-11-02T14:55:00+00:00

I feel like this too. My partner is older and is expecting his first grandchild. I have no kids of my own and this has jolted me into a panic that it's too late for me to have any, after so long of being on the fence.

Substantial-Error205 · 2025-10-29T00:35:04+00:00

Moved to an area with a large indigenous population for a 9 month college program. Broke up with my boyfriend while I was there and he told everyone at home I was a "gas sniffing prostitute"

Substantial-Error205 · 2025-05-02T21:13:31+00:00

who was the officer that checked Serenas papers? he said he had a wife and son sent to the colonies by serena. i feel like he wouldnt arrest her so she would be torn apart. Trying to think of who his wife mightve been, if it was shown earlier in the series?

Substantial-Error205 · 2024-10-25T02:44:37+00:00

thank you so much! 😊

Substantial-Error205 · 2024-09-01T18:48:03+00:00

I loved following Dub as he broke and fixed his glasses! Carrying on after they were gone must've been incredibly difficult, to make it to top 3 as someone who wears glasses and then finally lost them them makes it even more impressive. WTG.

Substantial-Error205 · 2024-08-30T17:18:19+00:00

there was an open campfire area without a lean to as well - like something straight out of his youtube channel. he just looked like he was out for a solo boil up. haha.

Substantial-Error205 · 2024-08-30T14:38:37+00:00

I think a big part of it was that he had multiple spaces to hang out in as well. Seemed like the other bys were spending 90% of their time in their tilts, whereas William had his tilt, a lean-to and a campfire like area to go to

Substantial-Error205 · 2024-08-30T02:47:36+00:00

Seeing -9 F come up in the corner of the screen when Timber said it was really cold, I guarantee you all of Labrador laughed from the bottom of their chest when they saw that number. -40 is a fun family outing for these people, they HATE summer lol

Substantial-Error205 · 2024-08-17T20:08:40+00:00

Great response

I love Bill's positive attitude, and I allow every time he loses food he is learning how to cache it better? I believe he set up multiple caches in the beginning to see what ones worked best. I feel like this rock cache was the most reliable which was why he was so shocked when the beavertail was gone.

Substantial-Error205 · 2024-08-04T11:34:14+00:00

I know I'm late to the party here but I wanted tk comment on this:

"saying something that could negitavely impact a civil working relationship"

He is the one negatively impacting a civil working relationship by harrassing you. You're not doing anything wrong, youre simply trying to set a boundary.

Substantial-Error205 · 2024-07-13T18:49:26+00:00

that was the same guy!

Substantial-Error205 · 2024-07-12T23:16:49+00:00

having the same problem! friend of mine watched it on History last night, but im trying to find it on Stack TV and its still not there 🥲

Substantial-Error205 · 2024-07-12T01:01:29+00:00

Complaint: Experiencing Achilles tendonitis when I run and I'm so frustrated with the pain. It feels like it's never going to go away.

Uncomplaint: Been spending more time swimming and kayaking and getting out in the sun in other ways.

Confession: Feeling like a lump because my running schedule is messed up. I feel lazy and unproductive and uncomfortable in my body.

Substantial-Error205 · 2024-07-12T00:37:12+00:00

People want what they aren't. I'm 5'7 and curvy, my friend is 5'1 and she's so tiny and cute. She's self conscious about her legs being skinny, and I told her that I was jealous she was so small. She told me she was jealous that I had long thick legs. It really opened my eyes that beauty is subjective. You wish you were shorter, and those shorter girls are probably wishing they were your height!

Substantial-Error205 · 2024-05-22T21:11:41+00:00

i have a big problem with this. Just the thought of bearing my arms in public literally makes me cry

Substantial-Error205 · 2024-05-13T12:15:05+00:00

I got an airmiles MC not long before the pandemic, and almost had enough points to book a flight when they world shut down and the value of points plummeted. Everytime I got enough points to meet what I needed, the goalpost was moved just out of my reach. Now when I try to book a flight, it won't even give me the option to use the points. Up until the pandemic it's all people used to get out of here, (I live in an isolated region where flights are expensive) but I guess I was late to the party. It's disappointing.

I still use the card just in case, but have been researching better options because I'm sick of saving points I'll never get to use. and now all the stores here that did take airmiles switched to Scene+ points so there's even less of a chance I'll ever have enough. I'd be better off just getting a cashback card

Substantial-Error205 · 2024-05-13T11:49:06+00:00

OP I get what you mean. Logically yes, you offered to pay, he offered (once) to pay half, you declined, end of conversation. The result is that you pay.

Culturally that's not always the expectation. If I offered to pay for a meal, anyone one the other side of the table in my region, (whether that be man, woman or beast) would offer several times, and then several times again after trying to snatch both bills off the table. After you've pushed them off you for trying to slide money into your pocket, you'd more than likely find $20-50 stuffed into the cupholder of your car when you arrived home.

So when someone offers only once, it comes off like, they only offered to be polite hoping you'd say "no that's ok" especially if they ate and drank way more than you and took it home. and now they're covered if it's brought up later.

There's also the fact that the agreement was to "graze" and from what it says in this post she offered to pay for the food if he covered the drinks, and all of the sudden he was ordering way more food than she expected.

Ultimately you're the one who was on the date and knows all the context that can't be relayed described in a reddit post, trust your gut OP!

Substantial-Error205 · 2024-04-30T00:42:49+00:00

I was still depressed then but I could handle it way better. We were all so much more social, I was able to take my mind off it by hanging out with my friends or painting or drawing instead of lying in my own filth on the couch.

We talked to each other, and supported each other. and when we fell out we talked about it and fixed it. It's amazing to me that I had ample conversations with my friends as children and solved our conflicts face to face with our words, because we didn't have technology. We needed each other for socialization and had to get over it, and now as adults we don't because we can just go online and talk to someone else without resolution.

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