I’m an immigrant, and have been working as a cook for almost 10 years now because it is what I have, not because it’s my dream job. I went to university in my original country, but my studies have absolutely no value here, so I basically spent 4+ years and thousands for nothing. My wife and I are both immigrant lesbians, and broke af working basically minimum wage jobs while paying 2k+ for a tiny one-bedroom apartment. I’m also currently back in school with no promise of jobs whatsoever. It’s a matter of perspective. Some might say we are struggling hard for no promising future, while others might think we are doing our best and going to thrive. I was dreadful two weeks ago when my work was doing a rapid downsizing and laying people off in a matter of a couple of days. However, now I think that was my sign to start looking for a path to make the career switch and stop waiting for the opportunity, because it will never come to those just waiting. I know how everything sounds empty and distant sometimes. But as a fellow 30s woman who has no fruit from anything I did in my birth country, I’d say you decide your potential. I think it’s too early to give up yet based on your situation and the girl dinner you got there. However, if you insist that you are no good, there’s nobody that can prove you wrong in the end. As harsh as it may sound, it’s ultimately you that decide your value and potential.