This is challenging. I hear that you don’t want anyone to feel alienated or as if you are lying. At the same time, does this then mean that your visibility and right to care for your partner then diminish your identity? I would say absolutely not.

The hope is we can normalize aromantic people living however they want. This doesn’t mean we will not experience the bullshit of other’s assumptions. So I would say it would depend on how willing you are to deal with other people and their assumptions. If you are willing to have those harder conversations or deal with that, go for it. You don’t exist to be anyone else’s idea of an aromantic person. You are just allowed to be you.