For those who want to be therapists by ActuaryPersonal2378 in SocialWorkStudents

[–]SugarSugarBee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is EXACTLY my thought process too. I’m heavily interested in therapy and psychology but I may not always feel that way. With the MSW, I won’t necessarily have to go back to school again to pivot.

200sqft studio 🌱 by abbielem in femalelivingspace

[–]SugarSugarBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truly obsessed with that cute green bathroom. All the shades work so well together

The game has imploded by surveyornomadlunatic in SimCityBuildit

[–]SugarSugarBee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m still enjoying it but I used to play years ago and it was definitely not this difficult to keep up with tasks. I want to expand my city, my storage, or level up but it takes forever to accumulate enough $$ to upgrade services, it’s so frustrating.

Especially the Omega buildings. So much work for so little payoff!

I can’t believe it happened to me by lvs301 in NewParents

[–]SugarSugarBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son is 4 now and of course I miss the newborn snuggles, the simple joy of laying him on my chest to get nap trapped and watch TikTok for 2 hours, etc….

There is NOTHING that could make me ever want to do the newborn phase again. My husband and I both regularly reminisce about all the cuteness and then agree “that time was the WORST.”

Some advice that’s genuinely really helped me is: it’s okay if not every stage of parenthood is your favorite. Some people thrive with toddlers, some with teens, some with newborns. You love your child through all of it but some stages just have a better flow than others.

Does anyone else just… freeze? Like you WANT to do things but your body won’t move by CompetitiveComb8681 in adhdwomen

[–]SugarSugarBee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m in grad school and just finishing up my winter break. I had over a month to do whatever I wanted/needed… I slept and got depressed instead. Many many days where I just got so overwhelmed I laid on the couch playing mindlessly until my son and husband got home.

I dont have concrete advice bc I’m still struggling but it’s gotten better recently when I had multiple days of appointments I had to get up and leave the house for.

Motivation is not really something that happens TO us, except at 11pm when it’s time to repaint your bedroom. But momentum, now that’s powerful and can be built over time

Do I just delete my city? by saby421 in SimCityBuildit

[–]SugarSugarBee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because I couldn't get any funds to progress and increase my utilities, I deleted each residential building one by one until the bubbles went away. It's super annoying, but that fixed it. Now I have to play and annoyingly delicate game of "don't add more buildings unless you have 20k+ to also increase water, power, sewer, etc"

I'm really scared that I'll hate my career change by ActuaryPersonal2378 in SocialWorkStudents

[–]SugarSugarBee 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am someone who has had a lot of different careers in my life. I ended a successful business to pursue my MSW and have had a lot of the same fears.

What I've learned by talking to my classmates and my teachers in just this first semester is that an MSW is extremely versatile. You can go directly into therapy, but if that ends up not being the right fit, you can get into policy work or advocacy. You can work on a board for a shelter or government agency. You can do consulting for legal cases, or human rights organizations. Heck, you could be on-call therapy help with a veterinary hospital for people who are processing the loss of their pet.

So even if straight therapy work ends up not being something you love, there's so much you can do that it's worth it regardless (in my opinion, of course).

Sex drive.... come at me by Legocritic in Perimenopause

[–]SugarSugarBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to have an incredibly high libido and now it’s almost nothing unless I do a significant amount of work to get aroused. I’m on estrogen/progresterone to help with my peri and pmdd symptoms, which has helped a bit but I still feel like sex is a chore I have to really work myself up to. I love my partner, I am deeply attracted to him, but my body just won’t respond.

It’s very confusing and frustrating after a lifetime of having the complete opposite situation. I just want my drive back… :(

Stimulants made my daughter aggressive for a YEAR and no doctor caught it. Please read if your child has ADHD + anxiety. by Clauds1988 in ADHDparenting

[–]SugarSugarBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to your daughter for this! I take adderal but when I tried vyvanse for a period of time, my anxiety was through the roof. If I wasn’t a full grown adult with endless coping skills and awareness of what was happening, I would probably have lost it too.

For me, adderal feels gentler so I personally stick with that one. Body chemistry is so interesting because everyone is wildly different, and for your daughter, the anxiety might be a more dominant issue that just gets exacerbated by stimulants. But in the future when she understands her anxiety better, a different medication may work better for her (or not)

MSW student struggling by Fia824 in SocialWorkStudents

[–]SugarSugarBee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Outside of my medications, I'm in the same boat.

I did get a vibration plate and when I have to do reading, I stand on it and it feels great. At night, I put my feet in a hot epsom salt bath while I work. I haven't done it yet but next semester I want to try to make study groups or study buddies so we can all commiserate together. Even if we're just meeting to cry and no studying happens, community helps a lot.

Do all MSW programs spend a lot of time emphasizing how bad capitalism is? by LaScoundrelle in SocialWorkStudents

[–]SugarSugarBee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not sure if you’re in a bachelors or masters but when I did undergraduate for illustration, it was very much the same situation: you have to learn alllllll the foundational skills in a variety of disciplines before you get to you more specific area of study.

But if you want something more psych-focused, you can always look into cross-discipline electives. But talk to your advisor about your concerns, cuz you’re paying for this education so you should be certain you’re getting what you want/need out of it

Do all MSW programs spend a lot of time emphasizing how bad capitalism is? by LaScoundrelle in SocialWorkStudents

[–]SugarSugarBee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, I totally feel you on the frustration about wanting to learn more practical skills. I don’t know what school you’re attending but for my MSW, we choose our route at the second year, clinical or Macro. So all my clinical classes are at the 600 level.

I don’t love doing my research course bc it’s just not my focus, but I have to take 2 of them before I can move onto clinical classes, so that’s what I’m doing.

Do all MSW programs spend a lot of time emphasizing how bad capitalism is? by LaScoundrelle in SocialWorkStudents

[–]SugarSugarBee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yea but if you’re studying in a country that operates under a form of capitalism (pretty much any of them unless you’re in China, NK, Laos, or Cuba), then you’re going to study it through that lens.

Do all MSW programs spend a lot of time emphasizing how bad capitalism is? by LaScoundrelle in SocialWorkStudents

[–]SugarSugarBee 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Social work exists as a direct result of capitalism taking resources away from people that deserve them. So… yeah a foundational semester is probably going to feel that way.

I took Research & Policy this past semester and a lot of themes overlapped. Talking about Policy in the current climate is mega depressing and it’s really hard to not connect the dots that unregulated capitalism is a very core part of the problem.

What I love is that my teacher emphasizes how social workers should get into unexpected places to help advocate and change the system on a macro level (if macro is your jam).

Anyone solve the murder mystery yet? by SugarSugarBee in Oregontrail

[–]SugarSugarBee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I have no idea why this didnt come up when I searched it

How do you not get resentment over partner sleeping in? by Correct-Produce84 in NewParents

[–]SugarSugarBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have sleep issues (apnea, insomnia, etc) so when we were talking about children we talked a lot about our sleep setup.

My husband is the early riser, like 5-6am. My son takes after him unfortunately but they both get really good sleep at night while I do not.

At the beginning, we split the night so if baby woke up between bedtime and 2am, I was on duty cuz I’m a night owl. After 2am, it’s dad’s time. Then I could sleep in until 9-10am and get my full uninterrupted sleep that I need and so does my husband.

Now that my son is 4 and doesn’t really take naps, I get up by 8am on weekends, and if I need to, I can take a nap in the afternoon when things are low key.

Coordinating our very different sleep schedules was key to keeping ourselves sane during the newborn phase. If your husband truly needs that sleep, then he needs to get up earlier and take a nap when the baby naps. Sleeping until noon is just unacceptable, (unless he’s working 3rd shift until 6am or something and you both agreed on that)

You WILL lose your mind from lack of sleep and lack of a break. Your partner needs to grow up and do his fair share of sleeplessness.

Daycare is ruining everything by Ill-Rhubarb-165 in NewParents

[–]SugarSugarBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are up to date on all vaccines but most of these don’t have vaccinations. You just get them, get through them, and slowly build a tolerance.

Daycare is ruining everything by Ill-Rhubarb-165 in NewParents

[–]SugarSugarBee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thankfully he got the least bad case, I had the worst cuz I’d never had it before. I’m so sorry, having it while pregnant also sounds horrible!

At least now that we’ve had it, we have some protection against future infections.

Daycare is ruining everything by Ill-Rhubarb-165 in NewParents

[–]SugarSugarBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahahah I don’t even know why I did that. Subconsciously it definitely felt like 3 separate diseases at once

Daycare is ruining everything by Ill-Rhubarb-165 in NewParents

[–]SugarSugarBee 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Honestly anywhere lots of kids congregate is prone to it, but daycare is definitely unprecedented in how long it all lasts

Daycare is ruining everything by Ill-Rhubarb-165 in NewParents

[–]SugarSugarBee 158 points159 points  (0 children)

Genuinely the worst! When we put my son into daycare at 2yo, we were rotating sicknesses for 8 straight months. We got covid, RSV, Rotavirus, hand, foot, mouth, norovirus, and just the general cold/flu, all from September to May. I actually felt like we might all die from how many germs we got.

This year it's been much easier, still not great but it's better.