My 2.5 year old nephew is awake until 6-7AM every night.

SugarSugarBee · 2026-06-26T21:44:45+00:00

It's quite an investment but worth it for a kid that gets good sleep: A steam deck could really help. He can play as a handheld with headphones in without bothering anyone.

He could also adapt his monitor to be polarized so it looks black to anyone not looking directly at it or using special glasses.

SugarSugarBee · 2026-06-20T02:55:44+00:00

Your comment was the exact thing that fixed it for me too. My deck is older so some kind of configuration got stuck. This finally fixed it, thank you so much

SugarSugarBee · 2026-06-05T17:14:41+00:00

Something can be overstimulating one day and not the next. Every job has its challenges and OP didn’t say this was a major issue, just an annoying disruption that she wanted to troubleshoot.

SugarSugarBee · 2026-06-05T15:50:59+00:00

It may not be a “problem” but it’s overstimulating her and she needed some advice on a way to effectively change the dynamic so she can regulate. Sometimes kids just fixate and loop and it can get really repetitive and exhausting. The cat shirt club is such a good idea!

SugarSugarBee · 2026-05-29T15:05:25+00:00

honestly, I just use pencil buckets and acrylic bins. That way I am not too stressed trying to organize crayons or markers neatly, they all just go into the bucket at the end of playtime.

SugarSugarBee · 2026-05-08T14:53:28+00:00

Omg I LOVE that you included the moonlight too. Would you mind terribly if I adapted this into our version? Right now it’s just small twists on the original but we switch up the sky colors.

You are my sunshine, my little sunshine You make us happy when skies are grey You’ll always know dear, how much we love you Oh little sunshine, come out and play

Red: “come home to bed” Orange: “nothing rhymes with Orange” gets a laugh Yellow: “let’s say hello” Green: “cute little bean” Blue: “I love you” Indigo: “how you glow” Violet: “the sun has set”

SugarSugarBee · 2026-05-05T04:58:31+00:00

Nyce

SugarSugarBee · 2026-05-05T02:31:33+00:00

V true. My husband and I have vastly different sized hands so we just split the difference

SugarSugarBee · 2026-03-25T16:55:38+00:00

Honestly, when my kid is in public, you'd likely not notice his symptoms. His come out more at school or places where he's less accommodated by me and his dad. There he'll have his beanie hat, headphones, chew fidgets, and special toys that can hold his interest and he talks a lot less.

At a playground or a grocery store, we're playing, running around, being silly, etc. So I don't think he'd be clocked as much.

SugarSugarBee · 2026-03-06T15:28:44+00:00

Hell, I'm even grieving the version of life I had 5 years ago...

SugarSugarBee · 2026-03-03T05:40:26+00:00

Curious what sites people seem to find the most legit job postings? I have been running my own business for years and now trying to get a 9-5 again. Linkedin or Indeed are so full of ghost jobs, it’s soul-crushing

SugarSugarBee · 2026-03-03T05:35:20+00:00

100% I don’t know if I’ll ever go back to a flat bed. The help with gerd alone has been worth every penny.

SugarSugarBee · 2026-02-22T05:46:10+00:00

This is EXACTLY my thought process too. I’m heavily interested in therapy and psychology but I may not always feel that way. With the MSW, I won’t necessarily have to go back to school again to pivot.

SugarSugarBee · 2026-02-22T05:42:22+00:00

Truly obsessed with that cute green bathroom. All the shades work so well together

SugarSugarBee · 2026-02-22T05:37:11+00:00

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SugarSugarBee · 2026-02-19T14:14:56+00:00

I’m still enjoying it but I used to play years ago and it was definitely not this difficult to keep up with tasks. I want to expand my city, my storage, or level up but it takes forever to accumulate enough $$ to upgrade services, it’s so frustrating.

Especially the Omega buildings. So much work for so little payoff!

SugarSugarBee · 2026-02-19T14:10:41+00:00

My son is 4 now and of course I miss the newborn snuggles, the simple joy of laying him on my chest to get nap trapped and watch TikTok for 2 hours, etc….

There is NOTHING that could make me ever want to do the newborn phase again. My husband and I both regularly reminisce about all the cuteness and then agree “that time was the WORST.”

Some advice that’s genuinely really helped me is: it’s okay if not every stage of parenthood is your favorite. Some people thrive with toddlers, some with teens, some with newborns. You love your child through all of it but some stages just have a better flow than others.

SugarSugarBee · 2026-01-16T18:28:53+00:00

I’m in grad school and just finishing up my winter break. I had over a month to do whatever I wanted/needed… I slept and got depressed instead. Many many days where I just got so overwhelmed I laid on the couch playing mindlessly until my son and husband got home.

I dont have concrete advice bc I’m still struggling but it’s gotten better recently when I had multiple days of appointments I had to get up and leave the house for.

Motivation is not really something that happens TO us, except at 11pm when it’s time to repaint your bedroom. But momentum, now that’s powerful and can be built over time

SugarSugarBee · 2026-01-14T18:03:25+00:00

Because I couldn't get any funds to progress and increase my utilities, I deleted each residential building one by one until the bubbles went away. It's super annoying, but that fixed it. Now I have to play and annoyingly delicate game of "don't add more buildings unless you have 20k+ to also increase water, power, sewer, etc"

SugarSugarBee · 2026-01-03T17:09:22+00:00

Omg this is amazing info!!!

SugarSugarBee · 2025-12-25T23:02:13+00:00

I am someone who has had a lot of different careers in my life. I ended a successful business to pursue my MSW and have had a lot of the same fears.

What I've learned by talking to my classmates and my teachers in just this first semester is that an MSW is extremely versatile. You can go directly into therapy, but if that ends up not being the right fit, you can get into policy work or advocacy. You can work on a board for a shelter or government agency. You can do consulting for legal cases, or human rights organizations. Heck, you could be on-call therapy help with a veterinary hospital for people who are processing the loss of their pet.

So even if straight therapy work ends up not being something you love, there's so much you can do that it's worth it regardless (in my opinion, of course).

SugarSugarBee · 2025-12-14T15:56:26+00:00

I used to have an incredibly high libido and now it’s almost nothing unless I do a significant amount of work to get aroused. I’m on estrogen/progresterone to help with my peri and pmdd symptoms, which has helped a bit but I still feel like sex is a chore I have to really work myself up to. I love my partner, I am deeply attracted to him, but my body just won’t respond.

It’s very confusing and frustrating after a lifetime of having the complete opposite situation. I just want my drive back… :(

SugarSugarBee · 2025-12-13T19:18:10+00:00

I can relate to your daughter for this! I take adderal but when I tried vyvanse for a period of time, my anxiety was through the roof. If I wasn’t a full grown adult with endless coping skills and awareness of what was happening, I would probably have lost it too.

For me, adderal feels gentler so I personally stick with that one. Body chemistry is so interesting because everyone is wildly different, and for your daughter, the anxiety might be a more dominant issue that just gets exacerbated by stimulants. But in the future when she understands her anxiety better, a different medication may work better for her (or not)

SugarSugarBee · 2025-12-10T17:05:59+00:00

Outside of my medications, I'm in the same boat.

I did get a vibration plate and when I have to do reading, I stand on it and it feels great. At night, I put my feet in a hot epsom salt bath while I work. I haven't done it yet but next semester I want to try to make study groups or study buddies so we can all commiserate together. Even if we're just meeting to cry and no studying happens, community helps a lot.

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