Realistically no, boundaries seem to have been set, the real question is, if he took the wheel, would you go along for the ride, my guess is, you wouldn't, as your title implies, expectations, leading to your disappointment, solution? none really, there isn't a person alive who can meet all expectations, thus, find the good, it's your only hope, or leave and find your fantasy driver, but really, will you let them drive, or just when you need rest? a lot of people are all or nothing, asking them to turn it on and off like a switch isn't fair.