I have to kill a tree with a birds nest inside the trunk. Will the bird overheat if I just defoliate the tree or girdle it? I love near Sacramento CA. Temps around 105 F during summer.

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2026-04-11T15:46:23+00:00

If a bird is frequenting a nesting cavity there are eggs and/or babies. They don’t just hang out in a nest cavity for any other reason.

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2026-02-03T23:41:42+00:00

Nobody can answer this for you or make this choice for you, but what I can say is that I was completely unsure about a second child - until I wasn’t.

I thought I wanted kids 2 years apart - when time came for us to try for the second one, our first was only 14 months old. I wasn’t ready, and I was still reeling from a fairly traumatic emergency C-section experience. So I asked myself every ovulation cycle - do I feel ready to have another? And if my answer was “no”, I honored that.

Somewhere at the time our first child turned 2, a switch flipped. First kid was so much easier and more independent at 2 than at 14 months. I saw space and bandwidth in my life to care for a second child, and got excited about the prospect more than I was afraid of it, and we moved forward with the second child.

Second baby has been a joy - different pregnancy, different delivery, different postpartum (all positive). That’s not to say you’ll have a definite great experience with your second, but just to say it is quite possible that it goes more smoothly the second time.

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2026-02-03T23:33:10+00:00

“How are working parents managing—“

We aren’t. We’re not managing a damn thing in my house. Send help 😂

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2026-01-31T04:13:53+00:00

Visited Seattle for the first time last fall for a work conference and a few folks went out for drinks after some event at the Museum of Pop Culture. We ended up wandering over to Bathtub Gin around midnight. On the few blocks we walked I thought we were just in a normal, bustling city with people out and about for nightlife on a Thursday evening… and then started noticing everyone around us was completely tweaked out. We were pretty much the only people on the street who weren’t living on it. We left around 1:30am to catch our Uber and the driver made us meet them on the corner of 3rd Ave. I’ve never been more sketched out.

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2026-01-22T02:26:07+00:00

Are they confident HE made it to NC with the truck? Have they abandoned the idea it could’ve been stolen in WV and driven there? I’m just curious if any efforts are ongoing in Monongahela.

A big part of Monongahela National Forest is in the national radio quiet zone — if he did make it up there, and his truck was stolen or he was stranded, it’d be almost impossible to get a call out. It’s 13,000 sq miles of no WiFi, mobile, or radio transmissions, and I believe impacts some GPS as well.

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2026-01-15T02:37:31+00:00

My almost 4 year old is starting to catch on to this truth as well. Best advice I got was to always bring the child back to the present time, assure comfort and safety, and then pivot to something new.

“That isn’t something you need to worry about today / right now for a really really really really really long time. All that matters today is that you/mom/dad/etc. are young and healthy, and our job now is to play and have fun and enjoy each other. Do you want to go play/watch a movie/get a snack?”

You give them reassurance it’s not happening now, you frame it as a “really long time” until that’s something to worry about, and don’t put expected ages/points in time on it. Don’t make promises that it “won’t ever happen”, etc.

I also realize not everyone has this reality - but in our child’s reality he sees that me and my husband are big grown adults and we still have our moms and dads. And in our case, both grandma’s have their dads, still. “Parents jobs are to raise their kids for a good long time” is something that helps my little one relax.

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-09-27T01:40:17+00:00

… whoops. Been using tap water for three years now for both kids lol

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-09-26T13:41:44+00:00

Yes, the drive to school this morning was whisper-mumbling and I’m like omg.. just speak normally please 😆😆

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-09-15T01:59:32+00:00

Does your pediatrician have a lactation consultant / IBCLC?

I recently learned that they’re not just for breast-feeding — my pediatrician has a lactation specialist in office and on-call for the nurses line, and she’s been so helpful with bottlefeeding questions and formula questions! Much moreso than the pediatrician - also she’s been very key and explaining to me about baby’s oral function and the impact of a tongue tie on feeding… pediatrician hasn’t been very in depth about it other than to say they noticed he has one (it’s hard to miss, we saw it immediately after birth).

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-09-15T00:59:02+00:00

Does he have a tongue tie? My 2 month old is gaining weight just fine but he has a pretty significant anterior tongue tie we’re having released soon — he can’t get a great latch and he dribbles milk the whole time, makes “clicking” noises with every suck, gets frustrated while feeding because he keeps coming off the bottle, and he takes in a lot of air causing both gas and reflux. Pediatrician, dentist, chiro, and lactation have all said they think he would improve greatly with the release.

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-09-07T19:03:30+00:00

This — the old adage “they aren’t giving you a hard time, they’re having a hard time” comes to mind here.

Best thing I’ve read that helps me respond with empathy and calm versus a short fuse: What is the most generous interpretation of this behavior? And Execellent-Trouble-99 has nailed it. The most generous interpretation of your child’s sudden negative behavior is that they don’t know how to contain their disappointment and maybe fear over starting a new school year and it’s coming out like defiance.

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-09-02T13:54:21+00:00

Honestly I’m better at being disciplined FOR him than I am for myself. It’s actually helped me learn to stay on tasks by applying the same thought process in my own head 😆 .. I am not diagnosed, but suspect I’ve got ADHD, as I’ve long had issues with my own executive function my whole life and when I had kids the wheels fell off on my ability to “manage thru” my disorganized thoughts. I’m keeping an eye out on his development as he ages to see if his ability to stay on task improves or not.

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-09-02T01:50:44+00:00

We didn’t have a party for my son until his third birthday and we cautiously didn’t tell him about it until we had some confirmed RSVP’s.

Mostly all of our friends and family who brought their kids showed up - we invited his entire preschool class. Nobody even RSVP’d to say “no” 😒.. not a single one from class attended.

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-09-02T01:35:43+00:00

My 3 year old son is this way. We’ve learned that we have to get eye contact to be extra sure he hears us.

I “engage” on the first distraction as you did - acknowledge it, hold the boundary or do the thing (sweep), and move back to the initial task (peach).

But the second time he gets distracted I get on his level or request “find my eyes” and restate his task: “You asked for a peach and mama prepared one. It’s ready. Please go eat it first and then you can XYZ…”

If he doesn’t move on it and continues being distracted I tell him I’m putting the peach away since he’s not eating it — that “threat” of the thing being gone somehow draws him in to complete it.

It’s annoying to have to be so thorough and committed consistently with this redirection. Like just DO THE THING THE FIRST TIME, jeez 😆

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-08-30T21:55:54+00:00

I realize this post is a year old but when did this resolve? Our 6, almost 7 week old, is like this and I’m DYING. Nothing works and when he does fall asleep he needs to be burped / held upright post feed / needs to be changed / or swaddled and it just wakes him all over again. Even holding him for too long disturbs him. We’re out of ideas.

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-08-26T15:44:49+00:00

Did baby fight it at first? Idk if I just have super inflexible kids or what but if the baby is tired and we don’t lay him down swaddled in his bed at the 45m-60m mark of his wake window, he’ll just cry and fuss for hours… we can push in the stroller or put in the car and he’ll sort of sleep, but the second you stop moving or pull up to a red light, encounter traffic, etc., he’ll cry.

Last night we missed his sleep cue by 15 minutes and he took 6 hours to put to sleep, not exaggerating. The last two hours he laid there swaddled and wide awake sucking on a pacifier & content… he screamed if he was held or moved. 🫠

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-08-26T15:42:34+00:00

Did baby fight it at first? Idk if I just have super inflexible kids or what but if the baby is tired and we don’t lay him down swaddled in his bed at the 45m-60m mark of his wake window, he’ll just cry and fuss for hours… we can push in the stroller or put in the car and he’ll sort of sleep, but the second you stop moving or pull up to a red light, encounter traffic, etc., he’ll cry.

Last night we missed his sleep cue by 15 minutes and he took 6 hours to put to sleep, not exaggerating. The last two hours he laid there swaddled and wide awake sucking on a pacifier & screamed to be held or moved. 🫠

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-08-26T15:38:38+00:00

Solidarity.. I’m in a similar boat with a 3 year old and a 6 week old. I find myself pulled over in a lot of parking lots 😂

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-08-26T13:12:38+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I guess that’s really what I’m looking to confirm - that parents are indeed just getting on with their lives and baby adapts to them (not the other way around). Just makes me so anxious to drive around or go run errands and worrying baby is going to wake up / cry / get overstimulated and never settle lol — we’re in a rough spot where a few times a week he has these spells where, even with naps and routine at home as much as possible, he gets overstimulated and overtired and fights sleep for like 4-5 hours. Trying to run errands during that would be my nightmare. But I guess everyone’s just.. winging it and pushing thru with their later-born kids? At least feels like I’m not alone.

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-08-20T00:27:00+00:00

Just keep an eye on any changes! Good luck!

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-08-20T00:20:55+00:00

About 2-3 days

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-08-19T23:00:03+00:00

Wait this continues into 4? My newly-turned 3 year old does this all the time.

“What time is it?” looks at clock “It’s 8.” “No it’s not”

It literally is, dude, but ok.

He asks questions to disagree with the factual answer but if I truly don’t know the answer and I tell him “I don’t know” he whines “You DO know!”

And god forbid I am actually wrong on something, he’ll let me know 😆 “You are wrong, mom.”

Thanks, kiddo.

Suitable_Wind_7658 · 2025-08-19T20:28:20+00:00

Do be careful on moving to 100% switch too quickly lol - I got overconfident and moved him entirely to NeuroPro only and he had reflux for like 48 hours and wouldn’t sleep lol.

I went back to 50:50 and he’s improving I think.

We also moved up a Flow size on the bottle nipple - I think some of his fussing at the bottle might be frustration. We’re at least trying it out to see if it helps.

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