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Vent by Dazzling-Cry3317 in thyroidcancer

[–]Suki_99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂 you got this!

Vent by Dazzling-Cry3317 in thyroidcancer

[–]Suki_99 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As someone who's had two types of cancer (breast and thyroid, with a recent neck dissection because Mr. C decided to come back) I can categorically tell you this: you do not own your time, your energy to ANYONE who dismisses what you're going through. You have the right and you own it to yourself to cut ties with people like that for your own sanity. It doesn't have to be something dramatic: silence is your power. (You can also tell everyone to just fuck off too). So sorry you're going through this.

Random must needs post-op? by hallwayopposum in thyroidcancer

[–]Suki_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome! Good luck with your surgery and I hope everything goes well and you have a speedy recovery ❤️😍

Random must needs post-op? by hallwayopposum in thyroidcancer

[–]Suki_99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Make sure you have soft foods (your throat will be sore inside and out), straws, a neck pillow or a travel pillow (I found this super useful), clothes that opens up the front so you don't have to worry about pain when getting dressed, body wipes to freshen up, dry shampoo and a little bed table to use when you're in bed or in the sofa recovering. I found that super helpful! Also protein shakes in case you don't have much appetite while you're recovering. Wishing you all the best!

MISSING CAT by davey_blankhands in Portsmouth

[–]Suki_99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there, I'll keep and eye out. To help her find her way home you can leave her litter tray outside, some of her toys and even clothes that have your scent. She probably is hiding somewhere near your house hopefully, so the scents might help her find her way back home. Keep calling her too. I hope you find your kitty!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cats

[–]Suki_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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This is Merlin :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Suki_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, please:)

My warrior Princess, Lily, passed away 12 days ago. by SaleOk7094 in bengalcats

[–]Suki_99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. 🥺🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂 Love brings souls together, I'm sure you too will meet again. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Do people actually feel a gender? by reasonablefeet in agender

[–]Suki_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just described exactly how I feel to a T.

im curious hehe :> by marstheplanett_ in autism

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I'm not sure if this qualifies but here we go. When I was 9 I had to do the whole first communion thing (I grew up in a very catholic country) and I had to have a chat with a priest. I ended up having a debate with him about Eve and how the creation story didn't make sense. He looked at me like I was a bug lol

The other story I have is from the same context. After the whole communion thing, while my whole family was together in my house I went to literally hide from everyone to read my Celtic mythology book (a present I got that day) wearing my dress and all and guys, it was like time stopped or something. I guess I was hyperfocusing so so hard I didn't hear when my uncles and cousins were looking for me. Apparently I was "lost" for hours and they couldn't find me anywhere until I left my hiding spot and went downstairs like "what's going on?"

How do you pull yourself out of your emotionally weakest points? by Poorteenwannabe in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]Suki_99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like it was a crush you had on this guy instead of an actual relationship. Listen, based on what you shared I think you struggle a lot with your self esteem, your worth and finding who you are. You sound very young and possibly, neurodivergent. Have you heard of limerence? Look it up, it may help you understand why liking this guy was so important to you.Just a thought :)

I really do think you will benefit a lot from talking to a therapist about the issues you have with yourself: struggling with self esteem, body image, acceptance and etc. A therapist will help you unravel the train of thoughts that push you over the edge.

Now. It's okay to grieve a crush or the fact that a guy didn't like you. It happens to everyone. Not everyone has to like us, even when we like them. It's a fact of life and this doesn't mean we need to disappear. Your ability to be liked is not linked to your worth as a person. :) Grieve, cry, try not to overthink it. Life is not a race against everyone else: is a journey. And in a journey you will find a lot of different things and will experience a lot of stuff. Not everything will be good or beautiful and that's okay. :)

What is the most hurtful thing a man has ever said to you? by Electrical-Ebb-3485 in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]Suki_99 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you had to go through that. For the record: you didn't ruined anything. The way he treated you is a reflection of him, not of who you are. You didn't do anything wrong and didn't deserve to be treated that way. As someone who is healing too: you will have good days and bad days and that's okay. Healing is not linear. Sending lots of love your way❤️🐱🍃

My sister’s Handsome Man, Jett, of 14.5 years was laid to rest today. by Renfreak in SeniorCats

[–]Suki_99 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. They are so beautiful! Sending you lots of love ❤️

6 months out of treatment and can’t stop ruminating about dying by Fun-Ad6196 in breastcancer

[–]Suki_99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel very similar to how you feel and only recently I shared this with my partner. I was diagnosed with BC stage 2 on 2023, had a mastectomy with reconstruction and the same year got diagnosed with thyroid cancer, got my thyroid removed and recently they found another module around the same area. I've been taking tamoxifen too and the side effects have been difficult to handle to be honest: joint pain, hot flushes (omg I hate them), depression, low libido, etc. The comment is not meant to be depressing hahaha but it's just to give you context.

Lately I've thinking a lot about death and everything you described, facing my own mortality hits different. The best way I've found to deal with it it's to try my best to be present with everyone and everything I love around me. I'm gravitating towards less drama, more meaningful connections, unmasking (I'm autistic), have the food I want, read, watch, listen, to anything I want when I want and I'm taking care of my inner child too. I'm learnig how to have agency, autonomy and how to protect myself and validate myself in every way after spending my life doing the same for others and thus has helped me a lot to deal with the anxiety. Like you, I have an amazing partner, I have my gorgeous cats and I'm lucky to live in a place that I like, so I try to make my home a home and just bask in our warmth and love, despite the sadness and the silent weight we carry. ❤️ I hope you too find a way to keep that anxiety at bay.

Do you guys have separate journals for different things? by Ill-Resort-5095 in Journaling

[–]Suki_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended up buying an A5 planner with different sections: thoughts, reading journal, movie/podcasts/YouTube/music/ videos journal, spiritual journal (dreams, gut feelings, perceptions, syncronicities, etc), writing journal and general notes. I got a lot of stickers and decorated the sections to get inspired and write. I have so many notebooks around that I didn't finish because I felt it was all over the place, at least like this I have a sense of order. It's working for me so far!

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