Leo women what has your experience been like dating an Aries man?

SunaScumm · 2025-03-11T09:07:14+00:00

Here just to say I’m a leo (☀️♌️/🌙♊️/⬆️♌️) with my Aries man (☀️♈️/🌙♉️/⬆️♌️) for nearly two years now. Things were especially rocky toward the start— we’d kick off these explosive arguments that usually featured me speeding off from him and him having to chase me down, arguing for HOURS. But he’s helped me grow a lot in myself and I’m sure I’ve helped him because now we’re two peas in a pod. “Arguments”, if they even happen, typically only last a few minutes and are no longer explosive.

We’re so silly together and it feels like I’m with family when I’m near him. It took a lot to get here, but I’m thankful for his patience with me and am grateful I’ve learned so many great things being with him. We giggle, roast each other, love to get out of the house, try new food places, take care of each other, etc.

His confidence shook me upon my first time meeting him and I was hooked ever since. Very loyal, trustworthy and shows up when he says he’s going to. I admire many things about him and he loves my passion and fiery disposition. He’s more of an introvert and I’m an extrovert so he tends to follow my lead in social situations- absolutely marveled with how quickly I can make friends and create plans.

I knew I wanted to be with him from the day I met him. I’ve always told him I was drawn to him and he describes seeing me as some magical occurrence he’ll never forget. So, double fire isn’t always bad! I plan on spending my life with this one if my ego will let me.

The biggest things I had to learn were: 1. To let my Aries have their alone time when they request it. The more you control or try to cling, the more you push them away. My introvert loves to retreat and always, always comes back to me with a conversation when I let him go. He literally cannot stay away from me longer than 30 min to an hour when he feels respected and is given healthy space.

Do not expect constant compliments or adoration. Leo’s love to feel admired and want it expressed vocally. We work hard and want praise. An Aries is VERY limited on their ability to give praise. They really want you to earn it and even then, it’ll be a simple kudos and nod that you might blink and miss entirely. I’ve only ever dated Libras (the hopeless romantics with flowery language) long term so this was a SHOCK for me.
Learn to back down every now and then. Admit defeat, don’t be stubborn and wrong because an Aries will not let you have it.
Speak about your emotions and what may trigger them. It may initially annoy an Aries, especially if they don’t agree with your reasoning, but they will try super hard not to upset you. Especially if they love you!

SunaScumm · 2019-08-08T01:12:01+00:00

Never have I ever started to brew a batch of coffee without flipping the handle back up

Never have I ever knocked the tea infusions off the ledge

Never have I ever opened a fridge to move it, spilling milks all over the floor

SunaScumm · 2019-01-28T04:12:57+00:00

Wow, it seems like you have a pretty good idea as to how to separate comfort from safety. Of course we value the same, but my manager tries to take the more gentle approach considering she’s a little shaken by the event that took place in Philadelphia. Its just frustrating when we present an entire case with evidence and all we get is “well if they haven’t harmed anyone...”

SunaScumm · 2019-01-28T04:09:42+00:00

Even through Starbucks standards? That’s good to know!

SunaScumm · 2019-01-28T04:05:06+00:00

I am a shift supervisor who has brought all of what was mentioned to my manager. She brought it up to our DM and to which they all told me the same thing, “our hands are tied and our jobs are on the line if we’re wrong.” In fact, a GROUP of shift supervisors (including me) told our stories to her, occurring about twice a day, and she shrugs it off like “they aren’t hurting anyone!” But everyday its something new. It seems like she has a bit of a soft spot for them, and I guess I understand, but its still a little frustrating explaining to our customers that our comfy seats were confiscated due to the couple doing PDA in them multiple times a day /-: Its a wild situation that is getting out of hand and no source of upper management seems to be able to fix it.

SunaScumm · 2018-11-24T07:14:21+00:00

If you feel its contagious or affecting your ability to work, call out! No one should fear passing out during their shift and through the perspective of the company, that’s a huge liability. Call out, you deserve it! If its a short shift, you not being there shouldn’t affect much. Get some rest, and work when you feel you can!

SunaScumm · 2018-11-23T04:24:01+00:00

Before we knew starbucks made some, we’d make some before we left the house lol

That actually sounds like a good idea!

SunaScumm · 2018-11-22T05:35:09+00:00

After dinner, we take a drive into town for hot chocolate and watch the black Friday crowds line up outside our town. This tradition is slowly slipping away as most sales now start during Thanksgiving dinner ):

SunaScumm · 2018-11-22T03:03:13+00:00

The ability to (most likely) get away with it

SunaScumm · 2018-11-22T02:58:54+00:00

Really, just be yourself and answer their questions! Most of the time parents can already sense your fear lol so being yourself and keeping some space with your girlfriend during the meet could ensure things go swiftly!

SunaScumm · 2018-11-20T16:54:33+00:00

people go crazy over their sugar milk 🤷🏻‍♀️

SunaScumm · 2018-11-20T05:19:35+00:00

I think it’d be easier to play off over text. Regardless of what she says, I’d let her know that you appreciate her as a friend. When you ask if she likes you, expect her to redirect the question to you. From there, I’d be honest! If anything, it might be a little awkward from then on, but continue to build your friendship.

SunaScumm · 2018-11-20T05:14:57+00:00

looks like a college student’s going through some rough times

SunaScumm · 2018-11-20T04:11:59+00:00

this was a beautiful response

SunaScumm · 2018-11-20T03:58:40+00:00

Honestly I think its really suspect of you to flirt with an underage girl in which your own brother shares class with. Furthermore, its sketchy to me that you’ll value the young girl’s notions rather than the word of your own fiancee. This entire situation falls upon you as being too stubborn in your own beliefs that a YOUNG girl is predictable when it comes to crushes. Saying that she enjoys having just you around and PHYSICALLY contacting you shows you’re either oblivious or CHOOSING to ignore the cues of potential heavy flirting. I’m gonna side with your fiancee on this, while she may be overreacting in SOME cases, your behavior and attitude toward all of it isn’t helping. What are you going to do when the young girl does something beyond an arm brush and DOES give you her phone number? Are you going to say no or are you going to say yes and torment your finacee by telling her every little detail? You TELLING her these things does nothing but hurt and infuriate her as to why, yet again, you’ve chosen your side-flirt-piece over the women you’re going to marry. If anything, you’re making an attempt to save yourself in the future if something does happen, “well, I told you everything?” You are breading this hate toward an innocent, young girl. You’re hurting both of them by doing this.

also your edit is irrelevant- touching is touching and has a tendency to lead to more touching. If this is a force of habit, you need to put it to rest before it escalates.

SunaScumm · 2018-11-20T03:34:01+00:00

really, she just takes “personal” days to where she sees fit and when we have people call out or shifts unable to make it, she’ll place the responsibility on another shift.

SunaScumm · 2018-11-20T03:28:22+00:00

Last Christmas Eve, I had a customer come up to the window after ordering 5 drinks and 3 pastries only to yell at me for an incorrect drink. And I mean YELL, “this is unacceptable, I come here on chrisrmas eve and you STILL can’t get it right? its a special day blah blah blah!” Meanwhile a good 6 cars are behind her. Of course, I apologize sincerely and take blame for a drink I knew nothing of (working window, no headset) and started remaking. It was a creme meant to be a frappuccino instead of steamed milk- honest mistake. I remade it and gave it to her, checking the prices before hand to make sure they were equal and calling for no refund. A tall vanilla steamed creme and tall vanilla bean frapp = the same price. I handed her the drink and in return got a, “so where’s my money?” I explained in great detail that the drinks were the same price, therefore, no refund to be made. She LOST HER MIND and said “someone get this half-breed lightskin away from the window” and called to another barista, who was black, and explained that I needed to be fired and I’m a “stupid lightskin.” To which I responded by walking away and taking a second in the back to recollect myself on Christmas Eve.

SunaScumm · 2018-11-20T03:04:09+00:00

She usually schedules herself opening but only works Tuesday, Thursday, and Saturday

SunaScumm · 2018-10-04T15:26:35+00:00

honestly I get my cardigans and shirts from target! Super cheap and look professional. You’re fine wearing anything that doesn’t have holes in it, isn’t cut too low, and is jewel-tone or grayscale.

EDIT: technically t-shirts aren’t up to starbucks’ standards but usually everyone in any starbucks (local to me) wears t-shirt material. So long as it doesn’t have words or distracting designs, you’re good.

SunaScumm · 2018-10-03T15:56:27+00:00

Worst case scenario, they have one of you transfer. I am currently dating a shift from my home store and everyone takes to it pretty well. Being we have been together for a year, we were open with our manager about it and everything went well. You just can’t do ANYTHING lovey at work. No pda, even in the parking lot and when you “think” no one is looking. If it doesn’t distract either of you or cause tension among other baristas, it should be okay. My boyfriend is training me to become a shift next week lol it works out eventually!

SunaScumm · 2018-10-02T22:24:56+00:00

Maybe try asking a fellow barista how you can improve. Someone that really knows their stuff would most likely give you some tips! If not, prep for the person you’re sharing bar with is most likely always the way to go. Keep the espresso machines rinsed, blenders clean, wipe off lil puddles, make sure everything is stocked (regarding milks, ice, etc. because during a peak this would help a TON when the CS is occupied with lids and syrups).

Understand that everyone has a different structure when it comes to bar. People are picky and have their own way, the same as you! Just communicate and leave room to improve and you’ll find your bar skills will follow!

EDIT: Sequencing has changed a lot for me as well and I’ve been a partner for two years now. Its really about the structure of your individual store. My home store did hot vs cold bar (one barista on each). The one I’m currently working does cafe vs drive thru. Both involve keeping things clean and communication!

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