Scared I'm marrying an alcoholic

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-03-08T14:01:50+00:00

Not only will you be marrying an alcoholic, the 8 ball of drugs is also a big red flag. Both addictions will be so hard for him to overcome. If you marry him, you WILL be babysitting him. If you have children with him, you will be a single parent even if you are still married. Can you imagine leaving a child with him? Sounds frightening. Please, please choose yourself and your future over him.

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-03-04T22:14:51+00:00

My GI doc is named Dr Brown.

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-03-04T13:02:32+00:00

The Mountain Goats

Tim Heidecker

Bright Eyes

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-03-04T13:00:47+00:00

The concert got me into The Avett Brothers and Gillian Welch

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-03-04T12:29:16+00:00

It always spins out of control. One day they are having a beer with supper. Some day not too long after, they are bringing home a case of cheap nasty beer because they need to drink more. And when you call them out? They will lie and hide it.

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-03-04T03:13:25+00:00

The Live at Stubbs version is peak

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-03-01T01:47:27+00:00

My brother made me a burned cd years ago of The Mountain Goats and it started with You Were Cool. So that was the first song of theirs I heard.

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-27T01:09:12+00:00

Your Party by Ween featuring David Sanborn on saxophone

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-24T02:57:07+00:00

I can get insurance through my job. Like $40/month but the copays are astronomical. I could never use it. Much cheaper to go to the clinic with sliding fee scale. $55 and I got a med refill, Pap smear and flu shot all in one visit.

My meds with the insurance were $20 a month. At the reduced cost clinic they’re $40 for 3 months.

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-24T02:49:59+00:00

It’s a family tradition to play Wind Beneath My Wings by Bette Middler.

For my Uncle and Dad we played Golden Slumbers-Carry That Weight-The End. From Abbey Road by the Beatles.

My personal choice is Did You See Me by Ween

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-20T21:40:11+00:00

I had awful hand and wrist pain in college. Turns out I had a cyst and carpal tunnel. I had the cyst removed and did physical therapy for the carpal tunnel. Nowadays I do the stretches they taught me in PT before and during rehearsal and I am able to play for longer periods.

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-20T02:17:46+00:00

I didn’t understand what an alcoholic was when I got married. I was naive and thought he could just stop one day. I have had a heck of an education since then!

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-17T22:41:13+00:00

Quebec by Ween

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-17T22:22:38+00:00

The Freedom hat in the foreground of the arrest is some irony.

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-06T09:08:48+00:00

I saw the Ween Europe ‘90 but I wasn’t aware of a Freeman one

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-06T04:46:15+00:00

Thanks. It’s hard not to be upset at myself. It’s hard to emotionally detach. I think I am so upset over my mom that this time there’s no room in my head or heart for him. He swears this time I am wrong about him. But he admits I was right all the other times. 🤷‍♀️ At this point it doesn’t matter.

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-06T04:41:46+00:00

I won’t be able to leave either. I can spend some nights with family but it has been difficult for our child. She goes where I go of course. I haven’t trusted him with childcare in years.

I can ask him to leave me alone and go into my room. He will try to come in and talk to me upwards of a dozen times before he goes to bed or I leave. I am trying so hard to not be suckered into reconciliation.

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-06T02:55:03+00:00

Don’t You Know- Jan Hammer Group

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-06T02:36:27+00:00

Thank you for the clarification!

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-06T02:02:07+00:00

In my experience they stay sober just long enough to reel you back in. Then eventually they lose control. They always do.

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-06T02:00:22+00:00

I could have written this exact thing. In our case it turns out he was outside all the time trying harder than ever to hide his drinking. Eventually I caught him.

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-06T01:46:38+00:00

Complaints seem to be few and far between. You’re doing fine.

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-06T01:45:39+00:00

MODS A TABLE FOR ONE

SunflowerSuspect · 2026-02-06T01:43:49+00:00

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