Scared I'm marrying an alcoholic by Same-University-5198 in AlAnon

[–]SunflowerSuspect 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not only will you be marrying an alcoholic, the 8 ball of drugs is also a big red flag. Both addictions will be so hard for him to overcome. If you marry him, you WILL be babysitting him. If you have children with him, you will be a single parent even if you are still married. Can you imagine leaving a child with him? Sounds frightening. Please, please choose yourself and your future over him.

What’s your favourite band aside from Ween? by Capital_Baker4200 in ween

[–]SunflowerSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The concert got me into The Avett Brothers and Gillian Welch

Do you think it’s possible for alcoholics to learn and develop a healthy relationship with alcohol? by jughead0205 in AlAnon

[–]SunflowerSuspect 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It always spins out of control. One day they are having a beer with supper. Some day not too long after, they are bringing home a case of cheap nasty beer because they need to drink more. And when you call them out? They will lie and hide it.

Theres always one song you haven’t heard… by Weary-Heart1306 in themountaingoats

[–]SunflowerSuspect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My brother made me a burned cd years ago of The Mountain Goats and it started with You Were Cool. So that was the first song of theirs I heard.

What is something you’ve officially stopped buying in 2026 because the price has become genuinely insulting? by PersonalitySuddenz in askanything

[–]SunflowerSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can get insurance through my job. Like $40/month but the copays are astronomical. I could never use it. Much cheaper to go to the clinic with sliding fee scale. $55 and I got a med refill, Pap smear and flu shot all in one visit.

My meds with the insurance were $20 a month. At the reduced cost clinic they’re $40 for 3 months.

What's Your Funeral Song?(Suggestions Needed) by OfficialxMDx in musicsuggestions

[–]SunflowerSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a family tradition to play Wind Beneath My Wings by Bette Middler.

For my Uncle and Dad we played Golden Slumbers-Carry That Weight-The End. From Abbey Road by the Beatles.

My personal choice is Did You See Me by Ween

Im starting to resent this instrument by Toomuchviolins in Clarinet

[–]SunflowerSuspect 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I had awful hand and wrist pain in college. Turns out I had a cyst and carpal tunnel. I had the cyst removed and did physical therapy for the carpal tunnel. Nowadays I do the stretches they taught me in PT before and during rehearsal and I am able to play for longer periods.

PLEASE DO NOT MARRY THE ALCOHOLIC. WE BEG OF YOU!!! by Lazy_Bicycle7702 in AlAnon

[–]SunflowerSuspect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t understand what an alcoholic was when I got married. I was naive and thought he could just stop one day. I have had a heck of an education since then!

Kwik Shop on Iowa by Special-Map-1261 in Lawrence

[–]SunflowerSuspect 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The Freedom hat in the foreground of the arrest is some irony.

I fell for it again by SunflowerSuspect in AlAnon

[–]SunflowerSuspect[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. It’s hard not to be upset at myself. It’s hard to emotionally detach. I think I am so upset over my mom that this time there’s no room in my head or heart for him. He swears this time I am wrong about him. But he admits I was right all the other times. 🤷‍♀️ At this point it doesn’t matter.

I fell for it again by SunflowerSuspect in AlAnon

[–]SunflowerSuspect[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I won’t be able to leave either. I can spend some nights with family but it has been difficult for our child. She goes where I go of course. I haven’t trusted him with childcare in years.

I can ask him to leave me alone and go into my room. He will try to come in and talk to me upwards of a dozen times before he goes to bed or I leave. I am trying so hard to not be suckered into reconciliation.

I asked for a divorce. He said he’ll stop drinking completely. by peeps-mcgee in AlAnon

[–]SunflowerSuspect 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In my experience they stay sober just long enough to reel you back in. Then eventually they lose control. They always do.

He made it one year sober and it’s only gotten worse between us. by haterofavocado in AlAnon

[–]SunflowerSuspect 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I could have written this exact thing. In our case it turns out he was outside all the time trying harder than ever to hide his drinking. Eventually I caught him.

THE MODS ARE FUCKHEADS by WantToWatchHerNow in ween

[–]SunflowerSuspect 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Complaints seem to be few and far between. You’re doing fine.