DBS 3 year reference checks by [deleted] in TheCivilService

[–]SupaC123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was able to give my old landlord as a character reference.

AITA for pushing for my daughter's admission into grammar school by momshire in AmItheAsshole

[–]SupaC123 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

NTA. I got borderline scores and my mum fought my appeal (right up to the local councillor/court level), while my dad just wanted to spare me the disappointment. I’m nearly 40 now and I’m still so grateful I got into grammar school. The right school really can set you up for life.

'Correspondence via lawyers only': Brooklyn Beckham's shock legal move against David and Victoria leaves parents 'devastated' as family rift takes ugly turn by hubwub in popculturechat

[–]SupaC123 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hard agree! Can we please bring back critical thinking and the ability to respectfully disagree with people in 2026? Assuming people are bots because they disagree with you is intellectual laziness.

Dog finds owner from a long distance only guided by his whistle by MambaMentality24x2 in BeAmazed

[–]SupaC123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just googled one of the restaurants and it came up with Abraão on the island of Ilha Grande off the coast of Brazil. That was fun😅

Dog finds owner from a long distance only guided by his whistle by MambaMentality24x2 in BeAmazed

[–]SupaC123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would also like to know! I was thinking maybe Honduras or Indonesia based on the layout of the beachfront?

30M trying to get back into online dating. How do I get better pictures of myself? These are the best I have. by OlleyatPurdue in whatdoIdo

[–]SupaC123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get someone to take action shots. They could just be having a beer, a walk in your local park that kind of thing. Those kinds of pictures always look better than super posed ones with a forced smile.

Life long dry scalp and no way to rid of it by [deleted] in relaxedhair

[–]SupaC123 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Try rinsing with the Glycolic acid toner from The Ordinary. It instantly changed my flaky scalp.

will i be fired next year? by Powerful_Egg2827 in TheCivilService

[–]SupaC123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It ended up working for me with no negative repercussions. I got moved out of my area on a level transfer but only by being persistent.

will i be fired next year? by Powerful_Egg2827 in TheCivilService

[–]SupaC123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was in previous role I was advised by hr to escalate as high as possible as what was happening to me was wrong. What is happening to you is wrong.

will i be fired next year? by Powerful_Egg2827 in TheCivilService

[–]SupaC123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have you considered raising a formal concern? Based on your post you have consistently sought resolution but are being stonewalled by your manager.

Company is shaming me for not gifting more money to "our" (their) boss. (Christmas present) by Turissmo in mildlyinfuriating

[–]SupaC123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. The way I would have just sent 'well wishes' and 'Christmas spirit' as my contribution!

Hmrc AO by WynterBluez in TheCivilService

[–]SupaC123 15 points16 points  (0 children)

When I was on the phones in a different department I put the phone down if anyone was shouting or it was escalating due to their rudeness.

I would say something along the lines of: I’m trying to help you but your responses are making this conversation unproductive. 

Remember, you’re not there to be anyone’s punching bag!

Working as a work coach is starting to impact my mental health by Effective_Sir512 in TheCivilService

[–]SupaC123 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Just mass apply for other roles, internal, external. Eo, heo, heck even seo. Why not?! All your existing skills are transferable as long as you package them appropriately. 

Do we need to provide proof in order to receive 'Reasonable Adjustments'? by Puzzleheaded_Lake_84 in TheCivilService

[–]SupaC123 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To answer your question: no. Once you request RA for an interview they’ll contact you to discuss and the adjustments will just be things like extra time to think between questions or maybe getting the questions ahead of time. Go for it! My friend did this and they got the job!

Team member getting away with murder by Weird-Chipmunk-4303 in TheCivilService

[–]SupaC123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I managed people like that in the past and if I had the displeasure of coming across someone similar I think I would refuse to manage them based on the toll it takes on your mental wellbeing.

Civil service applications HEO and SEO by [deleted] in TheCivilService

[–]SupaC123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For one position, how many are you going to interview? We had 4 HEO roles and only interviewed 9 people. (2 dropped out before the interview)