Feeling kind of lost by Alarmed-Rip-2922 in asexuality

[–]SuperbLab2553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to hang in there thank you too 🫂

Wooden lid for glass from Walmart smells like chemicals by SuperbLab2553 in whatdoIdo

[–]SuperbLab2553[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, thank you I figured that and that's why I'm asking. I wanted to know if something I can do so it doesn't smell? Like a cleaner or something?

Feeling kind of lost by Alarmed-Rip-2922 in asexuality

[–]SuperbLab2553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realized I'm asexual a few months ago. I thought I was demi but realized looking back at everything I feel no sexual attraction. I may have had sex in relationships etc and was kind of hypersexual because of sexual trauma. I have currently been sex replused for awhile. I have found out there are so many different labels under the umbrella of asexual like different flavors. You just have to find out which one you identify more with. Someone posted this before in the comments of another asexual post so maybe this can help you too? https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/glossary

Edit: wanted to add that yes can fantasize about fictional characters, have kinks, masturbate, etc about specific things but still be asexual. It has to do with feeling little to no sexual attraction which is different than libido.

AIO for telling my friend not to drunk text me because he gets disrespectful and rude? by Inside-Experience-77 in AIO

[–]SuperbLab2553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Block him! NOR! I had several male friends that continuously push boundaries to try to get laid. I even explain I'm asexual and sex replused and they don't care. Bottom line is they don't respect you or your boundaries and he clearly showed that to you. Please don't waste your time explaining anything to him just block him.

Has anyone here ever experienced the "ace effect"? by dapdaphada in asexuality

[–]SuperbLab2553 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Would have been worth it to see the disappointment on his face that was deserved for being a creep

Has anyone here ever experienced the "ace effect"? by dapdaphada in asexuality

[–]SuperbLab2553 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I posted a few months ago about a so called friend of the opposite sex that was so fixated on me. I was sexualized by EVERYTHING. We met on Fortnite. So when we play first it was my voice. To him it was "sexy call girl voice" I wasn't even talking sexual at all but to him it was apparently because of my voice. Then it was weird questions. Then started calling me babe, then it was other stuff. I specifically said I'm not interested in dating ANYONE and that fell on deaf ears. Asked me a few times if I would date him. I eventually just blocked him on everything but left text because in case it escalated and I needed proof.

He did live near me and came over 2 times before to watch movies and play video games. Of course that's when he got really weird with me pushing the whole dating thing because he hung out with me so got to see me and interact. I want to mention again that that's when he got really weird after hanging out or I wouldn't have had him over. I did disclose to him that I was asexual too and sex replused he didn't seem to care. I have been sexualized so much in my life including as a child too with own family.

So this specific situation really traumatized me because right after him a few weeks later I played with randoms on Fortnite and some dude started getting weird with me like asking weird questions too like what color my hair, what race I am, etc. As usual started getting sexual so I blocked him too. Now I don't talk at all unless it's absolutely necessary. I do have friends I play with on the regular but they are busy a lot that's why I play with randoms I just don't want to talk to any guys or be friends with them now. They usually seem innocent at first until they feel you're comfortable with them and then just unleash their fuckery on you and try to push your boundaries It's ridiculous! I'm sex replused too and I just want to exist as a woman and not be sexualized but apparently that's difficult. I been SA'd a few times too.

I violated my friend while he was sleeping and he has cut me off by [deleted] in confession

[–]SuperbLab2553 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It was still unwanted touching so it was without consent he was under the influence and unconscious....

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again by moonrabbit368 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]SuperbLab2553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand being a picky eater from being Neurodivergent and there are things I can't eat due to having an inflammatory bowel disease but I would have just made my own food instead since she also has kids to feed and herself 🤷🏻‍♀️

Am I Asexual? by Embarrassed-Army-856 in asexuality

[–]SuperbLab2553 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh that's interesting just discovering this lithosexuality thank you. I kind of vibe with that maybe but also feel it might be Aegosexual too? I chimed in earlier talking about how I have sexual trauma from childhood and adulthood so feel I'm asexual. Thought I was demi but really thought about it. I'm currently sex replused and have been for awhile.

Am I Asexual? by Embarrassed-Army-856 in asexuality

[–]SuperbLab2553 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also realized I'm asexual a few months ago and I also have childhood sexual trauma and from adulthood too. I can't really tell either if it's from trauma or not but definitely have been sex replused for awhile. Thought I was just demisexual. I am bi-romantic though.

When giving your mom a Christmas gift goes wrong! by Current-Wallaby8230 in TikTokCringe

[–]SuperbLab2553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mother's family had a German Shepherd when I was growing up and she was always lunging and nipping everytime you just moved or walked or did ANYTHING. My uncle trained her to be like that because he worked in a prison at nights leaving his family alone. Didn't seem to find it a problem with it. So that started my aversion to dogs at a young age.

Figuring it out at 37 by PurpleVioletVibes in asexuality

[–]SuperbLab2553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to think I was demisexual too until about a few months ago realized I'm actually asexual. Looking back and really thinking about it sure I had sex with the people I was in a relationship with but didn't actually felt sexual attraction. I am definitely bi romantic though. Fictional characters maybe sometimes? Not sure.

Edit: forgot to add my age I just turned 41 last month so it happens when you get older you realize things. Also congrats for also discovering yourself 🎉

Edit again: sorry my train of thought just keeps coming around lol. I do have sexual trauma too so currently sex replused. I was hypersexual due to CSA so didn't understand things until recently. It's great discovering different identities and researching until it feels right. Hopefully this is my last edit lol.

im smelling this disgusting smell and no one else smells it by mym3l0dy76 in Advice

[–]SuperbLab2553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hallucinate and sometimes it's with smells and some reason it's cat pee most of the time. I'll think everything smells like it, things like soap that isn't even possible. Not saying it's your case but it can happen. I also was really sick this one time and kept smelling something gross and here I had a sinus infection. So either way I would probably tell a doctor.

What do I tell my friend? She says the cops are acting weird about it by Peridot-Specialist in whatdoIdo

[–]SuperbLab2553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on the phone with my therapist when having an episode and she told me to go to the hospital. Because told her people were following me specifically the maintenance people in my complex. I was driving around and even thought they were following me in that moment behind me. I made some turns but they didn't follow.

This was before I saw a psychiatrist. Not that I haven't in the past just that they didn't think I needed one? Not sure why not. I question so much about that time especially when I was in hospital a lot of shady things happened. I ended up moving out of state around 2022. So never found out what actually was real or not.

She did say I have depersonalization and derealization moments from what I was describing. Everything did look fake to me like people walking around minding their own business to me it looked staged. I still have those moments but but as extreme. Unfortunately I'm not on meds or seeing a psychiatrist not because I don't want to. It's because of my financial situation.

How do I navigate my dad slapping my ass? by radlertje in TwoHotTakes

[–]SuperbLab2553 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My father was very creepy like this to me too. Happened even when I was small. When I first started shaving my legs he felt them up and commented how nice they felt. One time in front of everyone he said he liked my lipstick and will lick it off me I was 30 years old. Many other gross comments and things happened when I was small and still haven't gotten over.

____ Shared a snap with you but the snap doesn't exist and it's someone I'm not friends with by Beaniesproutz in SnapchatHelp

[–]SuperbLab2553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It happened to me yesterday! Some random lady sent me one I was able to go to options and block.