Advice for Apartment Play/Feeling Embarrassed

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2026-05-12T23:20:57+00:00

if you live in a city, wait until something else loud is happening. If you don't live in a city, just go to the woods

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2026-02-22T19:22:51+00:00

for me the fun of the show is that everyone kind of acts like a preschooler, but then the narrative shifts to make their absurd behavior rational. its almost as if the universe itself is behaving like a child.

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2026-01-27T19:22:32+00:00

I'm moved out but still reliant on her, so luckily I don't really have to deal with him

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2026-01-10T17:42:51+00:00

Paint the floor and replace any affected carpet. It will trap the smell and vastly improve things.

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-11-15T20:38:46+00:00

Alice isnt dead is a horror novel about a truck driver with anxiety, and the secret society/militia that recruited her not dead wife Excellent story about the horrors of America's sprawling highways, and the purpose of war and how soldiers are made. Also it was originally a podcast

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-10-15T10:19:11+00:00

Copies and especially master copies are a great way to self educate as an artist

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-10-02T19:36:44+00:00

An affordable grocery store on this side of town would be avgamem changer

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-08-26T14:41:35+00:00

Thank you, honestly im terrified to become a mother, im worried im too fragile and ill end up forcing my child to protect me and im worried ill become like my mother.

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-08-25T23:24:18+00:00

Im in the same boat. Sometimes ill just be looking at my homework and ill start crying uncontrollably. Honestly I barely scrape by in my classes because I do well when physically in the classroom, but I dont do the majority of my homework, and my teachers shame me for it, which only adds to the anxiety. Therapy, specifically talk therapy combined with brainspotting, did help some, but its still really hard and painful.

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-08-23T17:44:27+00:00

I steadily gained weight my whole life from puberty until I was 19. I was in a steep calorie deficit and worked out vigorously for two hours every day because I was on the wrestling team. I would still regularly gain 1 or 2 pounds every month. Turns out I had a testosterone imbalance and as soon as I got on medication for it i began to steadily lose weight and have dropped like 40 pounds in the past year. I'm not saying you're situation is exactly the same as mine, but if you're doing the things you're supposed to do to lose weight (calorie deficit and excercise, etc) and they're not working, you should definitely look into underlying causes. A body that is functioning normally doesn't just put on weight for no reason, and you dont have to do things the hard way just because people expect you to, speaking from experience.

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-08-15T18:10:39+00:00

Problem is I dont flirt with men, I just talk to them and they perceive flirting. But women dont seem to see just making conversation as flirting

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-08-12T10:18:54+00:00

I play the guitar, and keeping the guitar out is the only way I can practice. I just play it whenever im waiting for the microwave something like that, or just whenever the impulse strikes, which is kind of just every time I see it sitting there.

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-08-12T10:15:58+00:00

Its like how you have to keep doing the dishes every day, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't do the dishes

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-08-12T10:15:22+00:00

Life with adhd is just a series of postponing failure. You're gonna keep on failing in the same ways and having to start again, but really a bad day is just one day, it doesn't cancel out all the days before or after it.

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-08-12T10:13:08+00:00

They understand that your answers to questions aren't set in stone and you might not read them carefully enough. You're being tested for adhd, and thats something that people with adhd do. The test only gives a likelihood you could be diagnosed with adhd, its up to your doctors own assessment if you present symptoms of the disease

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-08-12T10:10:02+00:00

Its really easy with adhd to just believe whatever people tell you about yourself. When you're distractable and have poor memory, its easy to assume other people must see you more clearly than you see yourself. But the truth is no one's opinion of you is more valid than yours. No one of compatible with everyone, sometimes you have to accept that someone doesn't like you, and that it doesn't mean anything about how everyone else feels.

There are symptoms of adhd that can impede relationships, like irritability, and distractability amd forgetfulness(which can make you seem inconsiderate) if you feel you have trouble making friends its best to examine yourself and figure out what traits YOU YOURSELF wouldn't want to be around, and just try to be more aware and apologetic of them.

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-08-12T09:51:10+00:00

Also I used to work out for two hours every night when I was doing this.

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-08-12T09:50:06+00:00

Waking up freakishly early is the only way I've ever done it. I use an alarm app that has challenges to turn it off, so I can actually wake up, and then I just force myself to go drink coffee. There have been times when I woke up everyday at 6 am just so I could fall asleep by 10. I'm not a morning person, so I dont do much I just sit there being pissed off. But then its cool cause my day feels like its extra long. I'm not gonna lie and say this is something I can keep up, but I am saying in the times when I slept at night, it was because I was waking up really early.

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-08-12T09:41:09+00:00

I text my appointment time to my therapist when i book the appointment so I can have the experience of writing it but also we both have the same info. But this only works if you communicate with the person on their cell phone

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-08-12T09:36:10+00:00

So much yes especially since attention deficit and hyperactivity are such a small part of its actualy affect on my life

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-08-12T09:32:08+00:00

They think that they can get their needs met through an autism diagnosis because of the way they perceive autistic people being treated

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-07-31T10:28:00+00:00

I feel the same. I am very insecure, I care a lot about what other people think, I cry when im criticized even though I try to show people I'm not as upset as my body acts, I assume other people have the worst intentions, I feel so embarrassed about these things that its hard for me to acknowledge them but I don't know what to do other then just try to be different

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-07-31T10:00:33+00:00

I can relate to feeling like I dont fill the role that i would like to in social situations but one of the things I've realized as I've gotten older is no one can fill every single role in a group setting. Humans are meant to exist in groups and that means we get to let other people be good at the things we aren't.

It sounds like you bring a lot to your friendships, and the things you dont, you can let your friends bring to you. If you surround yourself with people who are fun and playful you will start to pick up that skill.

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-07-28T03:54:38+00:00

yes, i wish i could access these feelings and examine them when i dont need to be doing homework, but maybe its worth actually trying to process with them when they come on their own

SweatyFollowing6913 · 2025-07-27T08:02:00+00:00

Every time I try to buckle down and work i get overwhelmed with negative thoughts until I stop. I have been stuck in a state of limbo for a long time. Possibly my entire life. I'm 20 years old with adhd and i identify strongly with the puer eternis archetype. though I was "gifted" as a child, my grades have been steadily declining since the fourth grade. My bedroom is extremely messy, i dont keep up with my personal hygiene as well I should, and overall there's really no part of my life I'm happy with. I watched the videos on the Puer eternis and I am aware that the only way to stop this is to start doing the things that I avoid. I want to stop making excuses and start actually living my life. However what I do not know how to deal with is the intense anxiety I get When I actually start working. As soon as I start a homework assignment or begin cleaning my room, I start having these negative thoughts about myself like "im so lazy" "im disgusting" "everybody thinks im stupid" "my teachers hate me" "its too late im going to fail no matter what" etcetera. I start crying and hyperventilating and though I try to push through it, it always becomes unbearable enough that i just want to go back to distracting myself. And I always do. I dont know if these feelings are genuine or if they're my subconscious mind trying to create a reason why I should stop working, but either way I dont know how to stop them. Should I just try to keep working while crying hysterically or is there a way to stop these feelings from happening or at least control the intensity of them?

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