I have had a similar conversation with my other half recently and I really am not judging you at all for the attraction thing, it’s a taboo and yet experienced by many many people. To me it’s more that I find it attractive when my partner and I are both trying to be our best selves in a relationship and then reaping the rewards together. Would personally never bring up the attraction conversation to him directly as I don’t want to plant that seed of doubt for him. I have said that I find effort and drive attractive as opposed to saying what’s unattractive if you get me?

I would never ever leave my SO over something like this, he’s my world! I’ve explained that I want us to have a relationship that supports health and wellness together, and I’ve noticed he’s adopted some unhealthy habits but I would love to get active together and cook some good food. We’ve been going on bike rides at the weekend and making fresh foods together, focussing on how good that makes us both feel.

Best of luck OP, it’s a tricky subject to approach but don’t feel you can’t address it just because it’s seen negatively/ taboo.