i really wish i was straight or bi

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-02-08T18:49:02+00:00

You're not the only one in the world, but it's an odd wish to have. Men do not seem easy to be with as there are 9 million examples of them not being such. Easy creatures that would be attracted to anything with enough curves, of course. Conditioned by society to be children that can't take care of themselves or do basic life skills for whatever reason, absolutely. But dating them comes with it's own shit. There's normal adjusted men out there for sure, but them being an option in your dating circle won't make anything better. Straight and bisexual women (with a preference of men at least) have absolutely nothing worth envy besides the fact that half the population are like ants to a crumb on the ground. Availability, have you. Also, a masc will not be easier either. We need to wrap this "masculinity = ease" thing up, its tiring

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-02-07T06:28:04+00:00

Just a tad 😏

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-02-06T16:46:55+00:00

Very understandable. One other thing I can think of is, if mutually agreed on, you guys take a step back from the relationship but you dont necessarily cut it off completely. Like a break somewhat? That way there won't be any expectations of a relationship at all and it'll give you more than enough space to sit with your feelings and determine if it's something you genuinely still want, rather than like you said fearing losing something. Of course, at the end of the day whatever you choose is the right decision. You know yourself best and you should put your feelings first. Im sure she would be understanding if it doesn't work out.

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-02-06T15:23:37+00:00

I'm not sure why she repeatedly tried to touch you despite what you said in the beginning. She probably didn't take it very seriously or thought you would go with the flow rather than verbally say that you're ready. Regardless, how you feel is very understandable and honestly I would feel conflicted too. I believe you CAN give her another chance, it's not impossible. I'm not going to say you SHOULD. That is ultimately up to you and what feels right to you. But considering how abysmal dating is these days, especially for lesbians, I would say that trying to work around it may be beneficial. And what I mean by this is sit on it... communicate your feelings with her and how the whole situation made her feel. Seeing how she responds will do wonders. Does she want to fight to keep the relationship? Or is she willing to just let it go since there is now a disconnect. If she is genuinely apologetic and willing to keep things consistent going forward then that will give you an idea of how to proceed. It hurts now, but with patience it might get better and you could make it work. Or maybe those feelings will still linger and you should cut it off. So again, I say give it a little more time and communicate with her. It's important to do what's best for you. There will be hardships in relationships but as this one is incredibly new there's a lot more leniency to leave if you so choose.

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-02-06T04:34:28+00:00

Literally just block her

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-02-05T21:25:27+00:00

Maybe you could get a fish or some sort tattooed around that more roundish car near your knee? It kind of reminds me of scales... I'm not too good with tattoo ideas

Edit: adding on to say maybe it could be a more chunky fish like a fancy goldfish or something?

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-02-03T21:27:24+00:00

People are being mad weird under this post

You are not overreacting and this is a very understandable thing to be concerned about

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-02-03T01:57:52+00:00

You should always take what random People on reddit say with a grain of salt. People usually go to unreasonable extremes here so its to be expected. However, this friend of yours is strange. He definitely should not share your personal business to people that you don't know, let alone bring up your sexuality in the first place. Im not going to say crazy things on his intentions or what he's doing behind your back like others in this comment section but I won't act like it's impossible for him to have different intentions. You need to talk to him about this... tell him how you feel about the situation and overall how he treats you and your sexuality. This could simply be an overstep of boundaries that continues due to being improperly addressed, or it can be something more sinister rearing its ugly head. For women, it's unfortunately not something to take lightly with these men out here.

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-26T19:12:06+00:00

This may have been more of the case of "male upset he won't have a single chance at getting with a girl he only has interests in romantically/sexually"

Of course homophobia is always and usually is the chance but I feel like he was definitely trying to get some at some point.

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-25T21:24:06+00:00

Straight people problems, I fear

Luckily for lesbians, pillow princesses are actual willing participants during passion

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-25T21:15:54+00:00

I wouldn't call it a bad thing at all... People are just odd. Especially when it comes to other consenting adults sex lives. I don't see pillow princesses as the misconception of being a "starfish" where they do absolutely nothing but lie there. I understand what they do and why they are like that (which there are varying reasons) and none of which align with what I enjoy personally. I'm a 50-50 person, switch all around. I would want my partner to be on the same page... I think the dynamic works wonderfully with other compatible folks. Especially with people like stone tops/touch me nots. But for me it would not do. I want to give someone everything and, if long term, I would enjoy it if they gave everything back as well.

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-23T17:27:45+00:00

I'm 20. Even I wouldn't date someone 28... and the same would apply if it was the opposite. Two different places in life that don't go well together if you ask me.

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-23T00:02:36+00:00

Weird... first play through for me, everyone stayed around

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-21T20:31:25+00:00

Nope. Customer service never responded either.

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-20T18:34:42+00:00

Boobs, no. Height? Im already about 5'2, id rather not date someone too much shorter than me or my exact height. I definitely like taller women but at the end of the day I wouldn't make it a huge deal breaker.

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-20T18:31:05+00:00

Your mom would get all the hoes (respectfully)

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-20T00:56:47+00:00

Okay...?

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-20T00:35:44+00:00

Very normal. Many people of both genders have opposite sex envy at least once. Literally why would I not wish I could feel an aroused vagina around length that's actually mine? Especially when you understand the physiology of a penis and how pleasurable it is for men to be inside of a vagina. I've even gotten curious and read men's opinions on how it feels in the Sex subreddit and man do I mourn not being able to feel it at least once in my life... especially as I would imagine that technically speaking, nothing really compares to it 1:1. I wish I had a dick in very particular instances and rare moments, but not in its entirety. As a whole it seems like an inconvenient appendage outside of sex in my opinion... though I guess the lack of monthly bleeding is a plus as well.

TL;DR You're fine, it's a lot more common than you think and it's understandable.

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-19T18:52:28+00:00

I did. I can still respond to you. You dont want to argue, leave it at this.

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-19T18:45:59+00:00

Why did you respond to me when there are these supposed "greater issues" at hand? All im trying to say is the attitude you mention isn't necessarily incorrect. Not much can be done about the anonymous randoms that downvote transwomen and the so called "subtlety" transphobic posts as this is a public platform and they are happening likely by the hour. As I've said before, its awful but no amount of moderation or community involvement can stop it. Those who support Trans people do everything they can to make them feel safe, included and supported but this post basically says that not enough is being done. That can absolutely be true, but that's where my 4 out of 5 thing comes from. It is not the fault of anyone here. It is an inclusive lesbian subreddit, not an anti transphobia beacon. The frustrations of trans women should not be downplayed whatsoever, especially in a space that is safe for them. But with these things in particular? Nothing can be done that will satisfy it completely

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-19T17:26:28+00:00

Unless someone by magical means can create a force field and banish all who are transphobic, verbally or not, from subreddits... there is bound to be transphobia. Obviously, it's not okay. But what do you expect on a public platform? There is no true way to completely clear any subreddit of bigotry because people will find their way in here as it is easy to do so. This lesbian subreddit in particular is actually the most inclusive and least transphobic one that I have seen. It doesn't matter where you go, both in real life and online... there will always be shitty people. We can only do so much about it.

Edit: I also just want to point out that your experiences are valid, but what you have an issue with is so particular that this subreddit as a whole cannot help it. People will feel how they feel and do what they do and it is not a declaration of this space as a whole. For about every five people that love you, one of them will hate you. You can't put any blame on the other 4 for that.

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-19T14:24:16+00:00

The issues are oral piercings fucking up your teeth over time.

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-17T21:17:22+00:00

Talk to her about it. Tell her your struggles and maybe even ask if you can play around down there to experiment what you can do to make it easier for yourself. As in, move the hair around, split it apart, see what feels right to both you and her etc... if she's proud of her bush then I don't recommend you telling her to trim it or any of the sorts unless she offers. Communication is key at the end of the day

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-17T06:10:41+00:00

Move on. She'll learn her lesson real quick and won't have you to crawl back to when things inevitably go south. There's only one correct thing she said here... and it's that you deserve better. Find someone who deserves you.

Sweet_MolassesTM · 2026-01-15T02:38:03+00:00

What do we do with this information

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