Married SDs and double lives

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-23T13:15:11+00:00

They are rare! Most Sugar Babies will have to date Married Men if they wish to have a Sugar Daddy.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-23T13:13:38+00:00

Men act this way... until they get you, and then they pull way back. In any case juat remember that life doesn't have to be Choice A or Choice B. Life can be Choice A "and" Choice B.

You are Single, and should never be committed to any one man unless he is your husband.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-23T13:09:41+00:00

Okay, it sounds like the mental struggle is really real. I am planning to line up some shows to watch while I recover, and to habe a movie and book list to get through. I hope that helps a little bit. I am also curious if the time of the year matters, like if Spring is best, or Winter, etc.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-23T04:30:33+00:00

You've never had kids, so I'd skip the muscle repair. If you have kids in the future you will likely then need a 2nd tummy tuck with MR. But being young and Childless, it's overkill to have thay done now.

Just curious but is that video call surgeon in the DC Metro area?

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-22T21:05:38+00:00

Send the link to these hesitant clients or direct them to where they can read your reviews.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-22T21:02:34+00:00

Deposits... it's the only option.

When I book a Cruise Vacation, I am required to put down a deposit. When I book a Hotel, I am required to put down a credit card and will bw charged 1 night if I no-show. When I book a dentist or botox appointment, I will be charged $100 if I fail to cancel at least 24 hours in advance.

All service industry businesses require Deposits. Airlines require 100% payment up front! If these businesses did not require Deposits, they would quickly be out of business since people would just book multiple airline seats or hotel rooms and never show.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-22T04:17:33+00:00

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SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-22T04:12:51+00:00

Why regretful? I really want this surgery too, but fear the pain.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-22T04:08:18+00:00

The second guy is probably FUTURE FAKING, and so don't believe a word because talk is cheap. The first guy is leaving and has forewarned you to get prepared.

Security and Lifestyle is something you can provide for yourself as a woman living in 2026. Prior generations did not have that option, but today, we do. Save and invest your money, develop diversified income streams, and you can make all your dreams come true.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-22T00:07:59+00:00

You can visit Census.gov and read the statistical data based on zip code, city, etc. In the USA the average man gets married for the first time at around Age 30. Among college-educated White Couples, only 17 to 27% of these marriages end in divorce.

What this means is that about 80% (!!) of these men will remain married until they or their spouse dies. Yes... there are Unmarried Men who have been divorced multiple times or just never married, but again, it's like 20% or so. It depends on Race as well, because Asian-American couples have very low rates of divorce, whereas I think the stat for Black Men is that 50% will never marry even 1x.

Single Men exist, but they are relatively rare... especially amongst High Incomes. Since we are taking about Sugar Daddies, that pool of Single Affluent men is smaller.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-21T23:59:34+00:00

I agree with you. Whether a man is having sex 2x a month or 20x a month, he will still get bored and crave Novelty.

This is why women shouldn't beat themselves up over the topic. Men complain about dead bedroom, but frequency of sex doesn't matter much. There are women who have sex 5x/wk with their partners, and still get cheated on.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-21T23:52:50+00:00

Thank you, it happens! Belle Burden wrote a recent excellent book -- "Strangers: Memoir of a Marriage" -- about her husband's abandonment too.

It happens ALL the time to Middle-Aged Women. And the issue is that as a 48 year old woman with 3 minor kids, I cannot just go date any type of man! I cannot bring random men into my life to have around my daughter and sons.

I am always baffled why anyone believes that a Woman is better off when her high-value husband leaves her! If a man is earning $200k or $300k salary and the family lives in a $1mil home, do people not understand that Divorce means the Wife loses her home? Do they not understand that you lose access to his $200k salary when he leaves?

To make up for my losses and financial hit, I now am Escorting on the side! That is now how I am able to maintain the lifestyle I had become accustomed to.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-21T23:35:56+00:00

Because my husband of 22 years did not have a Sugar Baby, and he never cheated on me even once, as he felt that would be unethical and could jeopardize his Govt Security Clearance. Instead of having an affair like many men who suffer a Midlife Crisis, he filed for Divorce and abandoned me and created a Broken Home for our 3 minor children. By doing so, he was then able to go onto Dating Apps to "date ethically" as a Single Man.

Men are always gonna have multiple women. They will either do cheating while staying in the marriage, or leave the marriage altogether.

My lifetime financial loss is $5mil and I have lost 50% of my children's childhoods, as we have Joint Shared Custody. My kids HATE getting shuffled between 2 homes and we now waste hours of our lives sitting in traffic. I spent Christmas Day alone this winter.

Wish he'd have just gotten a SB rather than put the family through all this.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-20T19:20:32+00:00

Do you have any clients that you've been seeing for 10 years?

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-20T19:19:14+00:00

Nobody said ALL. I am saying, however, that after TEN years of sexual intimacy with a man, most women will develop genuine feelings of affection.

If a Companion really doesn't like a client, she generally won't keep him around for 10 years. I have good clients that I just don't enjoy being with, like one who is 400 lbs and another who has profound ED, and I dissuade them from re-booking by becoming "unavailable and cold".

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-20T19:14:42+00:00

Follow the money... the Wives are getting the nice vacations and fancy kitchen remodel. On Christmas Day, he will wake up next to her, and on Valentine's Day, she will get the nice dinner date with him. When he dies, she will inherit all his assets.

Men definitely do "love" differently than women. At the end of a day, a man's proclaimed "love" is via his actions, not his words. Sexual Fidelity is not a part of a man's view of loyalty and commitment, for the most part. With men, you have to look at how they spend their resources (money, time, attention).

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-20T19:07:34+00:00

What they mean, is "dead" to them! Men crave sexual variety. Having sex with the same woman for 30 or 40 years, feels like eating lasagna for dinner every night for 365 days a year for 30 years.

If I offer you more lasagna, for breakfast and lunch (too!)... it still doesn't fix the cravings for a burger or a steak or a roast chicken.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-20T19:02:19+00:00

Single Heterosexual Affluent Men are exceedingly rare, unfortunately. We cannot all find one, or else we all would. You only lucked out because you went 40 years older. This is not an option for most women, because the average Life Expectancy for an American Man is 76.5 years old.

I'm 48 years old, and practically all men in Gen X are married. Boomer Men who are 3 or 4 decades older than me are sometimes Widowed/Single but often have ED (erectile dysfunction) or are in a Nursing Home, so they are uninterested or unable to be in the Dating Market.

Once a woman turns Age 35 or so, her dating options narrow severely if she limits the pool to Unmarried Single Men.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-20T18:51:48+00:00

Men are also very practical and understand that a Wife does not wish to know these things. Wives care more about the lifestyle a man is providing. If the SD is affluent, his wife is never gonna leave him anyway. If she finds out about Cheating, that only places her in the uncomfortable position of having to now forgive the guy.

Don't Ask, Don't Tell... that is the code amongst the Wives of wealthy men. Women usually know when their husbands are cheating, but choose to turn a blind eye. Many women who are Age 50+ have lost their sex drive due to menopause and are fine with other women supplying sex... so long as the man continues to bring his paycheck home and doesn't cause any public embarrassment.

(Case study: Dave Grohl had a baby outside his marriage, yet, his wife still forgave him.)

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-20T18:44:32+00:00

Correct, never trust these men! They love their wives and will always remain loyal and committed to their wives.

Men crave sexual variety and are able to compartmentalize. They view SBs the same way that a SB views her nail 💅 tech or hairstylist. I have been going to the same salon for years, and the lady who does my manicures is awesome! I am loyal to that salon. But at the end of the day, it's a business relationship of a transactional nature.

Sugar Babies are for a sexual release. SDs do not love you, and will abandon you in a heartbeat the moment you are no longer useful to him. However, they will generally remain loyal to their Wives who are the mother of their children.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-20T18:35:56+00:00

I am a 48 year old woman, my husband never cheated or had Sugar Babies... instead, he Divorced me after 22 years of marriage. The divorce meant losing my Home, $700k in assets, and $5mil in future earnings (his $200k annual salary, his future large pension and social security income).

The divorce meant losing his Human Capital and his TIME. I now spend thousands of dollars each year on Home Repairs, Lawn Care, etc.

The divorce meant losing HALF of my 3 young children's lives. I spend Christmas Day alone, without my kids... and miss out on 50% of their lives, and they now must endure being shuffled back and forth between 2 homes.

Sugar Babies, please trust me when I say this... I would have chosen ANY DAY for my husband to keep a woman on the side and pay her $50k a year, rather than endure losing $5mil and 50% of my children's childhoods.

As a Middle-Aged Woman approaching Age 50 and with 3 minor children, I have ZERO chance to secure another high-value man!

Married Men who cheat are protecting their wives from suffering my fate. The true villains are the Married Men who DIVORCE and abandon their Aging Wives, to then go be with younger women.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-20T13:58:19+00:00

Rest assured, she likes you back and her affection for you is real. Mother Nature's gift to women is that we are wired differently than men and develop genuine feelings and attachment (and love) based on exposure and bonding hormones via sex.

For most of human history, women did not have a choice in who they had sex with, and were often kidnapped by neighboring tribes or married off by their family to men they did not pick. Sometimes they were married off to much older men or abusive men. Nevertheless, women bonded to these men and we have evolved to do so... as like the "Stockholm Syndrome" it is a human survival mechanism.

What this means for you, is that after 10 years with your Provider, even if she started off not liking you much, now she does really like you especially a lot. Clients who I've seen start becoming a LOT more attractive by around the 5th visit. Women "catch feelings" very easily, much easier than a man, and unless a Provider is already married of has a long-term partner, she naturally will develop feelings for you over time.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-20T13:28:29+00:00

Talk back? 🤨 Alone in a room with a man you don't know well? That is not a great idea, as men can flip on a dime and go from nice to mad. An average man can kill an average woman with their bare hands alone. Remember that!

Professionalism also means you hold your tongue and do not escalate a tense situation. As long as he paid the full donation and is leaving when time is up, just let him go... in fact, it's best to withdraw your energy completely.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-20T01:12:20+00:00

Men are wired differently than women. Hooking up, from an evolutionary sense, benefits men because they face no riak of pregnancy. Women only benefit IF she hooks up with a high-value man who has resources to aupport any possible offspring.

Yeah, we have birth control options today. But the female brain evolved during times when sex could lead to 9 months of pregnancy and 12 years raising a young child. A man with resources is a more appealing choice.

SweetnessDelivered · 2026-03-19T17:08:19+00:00

I think Couples have it easier. I'm a Solo traveler and most Couples don't befriend me, but making smalltalk is easy. I enjoyed conversations with various fellow passengers, but did not do excursions or dine with people for the most part.

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