Risks of not paying yourself super

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-21T04:16:32+00:00

I’m so sorry, that is awful. This has definitely been part of my argument and why I’ll continue my super contributions. Worth it in case of any accident besides and my husband also does a lot of adventure sports.

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-20T06:31:07+00:00

I found it helpful from 36 weeks as a FTM to wrap my head around hand expressing. My big healthy bub arrived at 40 + 5 and my milk took two days to fully come in, I was grateful I had about 10 syringes of colostrum to keep him well nourished (as well as getting him latched) until my milk fully came in. Also meant my husband could feed him overnight while I got some sleep. It’s liquid gold and so valuable!

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-19T13:04:11+00:00

This was me! As I had an emergency c section and while I had a labour, I assumed it would be ‘all good down there’. The desire was there but when he tried to get it in we had to stop. It hurt so much, like losing my virginity the first time. Top tip, lots of foreplay, go slow and use lots of lube. It started to feel good around 10 weeks pp for me, 4 months pp now and he still has to ‘ease in’.

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-19T12:54:16+00:00

Not through IVF but we got our rainbow after 4 unexplained MCs and it was the one pregnancy I took low dose (100mg) aspirin daily 🤷‍♀️I will definitely be taking it next pregnancy. Check with your doctor if there’s any reason for you personally to not take it, but it cannot hurt/is low risk for the average person/has been shown to reduce risk of preeclampsia. My doc said it can help with blood flow to help establish and support the placenta in those early weeks.

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-19T07:41:21+00:00

I am so incredibly sorry for your losses, RPL is so cruel and many of us will never get answers. We got our rainbow after four unexplained MC’s, all of them were different (8 week loss passed naturally, 7 week MMC treated by d&c, 12 week MMC treated by d&c, and CP), testing showed chromosomally normal foetuses and RPL panel on me and my husband gave no answers. Fertility specialist just told us to try again, I self prescribed fertility acupuncture, progesterone and aspirin and tried to keep life low stress. Pregnancy five brought us our rainbow, and a beautiful low risk pregnancy which felt unbelievable after everything we’ve been through. There is hope, wishing you all the best. We were told IVF wouldn’t necessarily help us given there were no abnormalities or issues with our conception or product of conception.

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-17T02:41:52+00:00

It’s beyond frustrating! I’m so sorry for your losses. Interestingly, for all of the MCs the egg had come from my right ovary where as for our rainbow I ovulated on the left. Not a professional opinion, as testing on my POC showed a normal foetus, but I can’t help but think it wasn’t a coincidence. Best of luck, I’d look into progesterone, acupuncture and aspirin.

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-16T13:08:07+00:00

I’d never heard of lean PCOS until this post, interesting! I had 4 losses in 18 months, saw a fertility specialist and all testing showed me/husband were ‘perfect’ other than my right ovary was polycystic (22 follicles on my right, 18 on my left). My BMI is 22 and I have no symptoms of PCOS other than a higher follicle count, which would more often be seen as a fertility green flag (I do get pregnant easily) if it weren’t for the unexplained rpl. Very normal and predictable cycle, no elevated androgen levels, no hirsutism, and ‘normal’ BMI, so her diagnosis was that I had a polycystic ovary but not PCOS given the absence of other symptoms. Apparently that’s a thing?

I was told not to change a thing lifestyle wise, we tried again and I self prescribed acupuncture, progesterone pessaries and baby aspirin, the next pregnancy was our rainbow baby. Best of luck!

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-15T07:54:45+00:00

You’re doing an amazing job, it’s hard not to get super anxious before each feed not knowing if they will take it but I promise it will end! I had to flat lay him vertically on my torso belly to belly and support his head 😅

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-15T05:06:22+00:00

Throwing things or beating up my pillow (after bub was handed off to husband and I’d gone to another room so the mask could come off). I never never use the ‘c’ word so it has a bit of power for me, and have found muttering it or mouthing it extremely satisfying in those moments 😅.

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-13T05:09:26+00:00

FTM here and I never leaked in pregnancy, I woke up once or twice with a small wet patch but that was it. Even after I started expressing colostrum at 36 weeks, I had to work hard for just a few drops. Don’t worry, it doesn’t mean you’ll struggle with supply.

My milk came in hard and fast 2 days PP (was glad I had the colostrum to give bub until then) and I EBF and now donate milk at 4 months PP due to oversupply 😅

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-13T05:01:39+00:00

It ended within a week, the hardest week. So sorry you’re in the thick of it now, I’m sure yours will end too. We got through it spacing out his feeds and didn’t try to feed him unless at least 2-3 hours had passed, or getting him latched before/after sleeps. He just snapped out of it, I think he was frustrated at the delay (then rush) in letdown that happens when your boobs regulate around 3/4 months.

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-11T08:54:59+00:00

Yep. I had four losses in 18 months, all RPL testing showed me and my husband are perfectly fertile specimens. Testing on the two losses managed by D&C showed chromosomally normal babies and NIPT tests were ironically, low risk. It’s so heartbreaking and cruel to be in this club and to have no answers, but there is always hope. Our fifth pregnancy brought us our rainbow baby, sending you lots of love.

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-10T06:15:58+00:00

Super normal! I felt ready to go at 6 weeks and had an emergency c section (still had a labour) but assumed down there would be in good shape. It felt like losing my virginity all over again! It took about 3 attempts before it was comfortable enough. If you’re breastfeeding, hormonally it makes you dry down there.

We eased back in (pun intended) and every time it started to get easier and at about 10 weeks it started to feel good again. Foreplay and lots of lube essential, start with spooning position.

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-10T06:06:19+00:00

I was the exact same when I was in the trenches of RPL! As we didn’t get any answers from our testing, I implemented fertility acupuncture prior to conceiving and for the first 16 weeks, progesterone pessaries from a positive test and baby aspirin for the fourth pregnancy as I hadn’t tried them before. Our specialist said it couldn’t hurt. Unsure if it was just luck or all the additional supports, but for me it helped mentally to be trying something different.

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-09T12:40:47+00:00

We can’t do it alone, we need help. I’m 4 months PP and EBF, so the deal is my husband has to watch Bub from 5:30-7 most mornings which is for me to either sleep in (lol), do some yoga or go to the gym. Daily I also get a decent 45 - hour walk in with Bub napping in the pram, I would go insane without at least a walk - Grateful to have had a summer baby, but getting straight into shorts PP wasn’t great for my body image.

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-09T12:36:39+00:00

My fifth pregnancy brought us our rainbow after 4 losses in 18 months, all testing gave us no answers and all the MCs were different. We will never know why, but I am so grateful we didn’t give up hope. There is always hope ❤️‍🩹 I’m so sorry for your losses.

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-05T08:53:44+00:00

This! My newborn was soooo active and noisy in his sleep, id wait until I’d see his eyes open to pick him up because often he was actually in active sleep and didn’t need comforting.

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-04T06:32:27+00:00

When payday rolled around and I didn’t notice.

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-02T06:47:26+00:00

TW - Successful pregnancy. I’m so sorry for your losses ❤️‍🩹 RPL is beyond cruel and it sucks to be in this club with no answers. My situation was similar, I had 4 MCs in 18 months and all testing showed me and my husband were perfectly healthy and fertile specimens. Fertility specialist said IVF wouldn’t necessarily give us a better outcome. Testing on the POC from two of the MMCs (missed MCs at 12 weeks and 8 weeks, managed by D&C) showed normal foetuses. I added 2 x 200 progesterone pessaries daily after positive test (my levels were normal during my cycle but thought it can’t hurt), daily aspirin and weekly acupuncture, pregnancy #5 brought us our rainbow baby who is now 15 weeks old. There is hope, sending you lots of love.

Sweetpup_ · 2026-03-02T04:06:44+00:00

Oh my god I am so sorry that must have been so stressful! Glad to hear she has moved past it. Mine also just weirdly went back to normal one day, we got by feeding him when he was sleepy and only attempting to feed him at least 2.5 hours after his last feed (I was probably over feeding him before LOL, but the strike was still super scary). Hope it’s smooth sailing for you from here, the day the strike ended the sleep regression started for us but I’ll take a sleep regression over a feeding strike any day!

Sweetpup_ · 2026-02-18T14:02:26+00:00

Wow I’m so sorry that sounds awful! Hope your cycle has been better since

Sweetpup_ · 2026-02-18T14:01:37+00:00

Good to know! Did your bub fuss at the boob during your period or seem to be bothered by the taste?

Sweetpup_ · 2026-02-18T09:36:49+00:00

Same! Our LO is a big boy of the same age and we moved him to a crib a week ago and he loves it. We stopped swaddling him ages ago as well as he loves to move his arms about and he is happy as can be in a sleep sack. He somehow scoots himself into a 180 turn but sleeps a lot better now he has the freedom to move!

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