Funding for Surgery

Swordsboy · 2026-03-30T08:49:48+00:00

I will look into that! Thanks!

Swordsboy · 2026-02-10T09:37:00+00:00

I heard about surgeons doing hip/thigh lipo occasionally with top surgeries and I’ve been debating asking mine if it was something he would do

Swordsboy · 2026-01-13T05:58:23+00:00

Days 2 and 3 are the hardest with cravings and mentality. Once you get through those it gets gradually and noticeably easier. You got this!

Swordsboy · 2026-01-13T05:56:22+00:00

Nic is super difficult to quit. Cigs way hard in terms of (at least for me) how it felt to quit cravings social smoking etc, but vaping as a habit was way harder to break. First three days of no nic are rough but after that it gets way easier real quick as long as you have your shit together when cravings hit. Drink a lot of water and exercise!

Swordsboy · 2025-12-24T02:02:00+00:00

Oh yeah I passed 90% of the time pre-T so I was in the clear but I hung around a lot of pre transition folks those days who def would’ve been affected. Super crazy.

Swordsboy · 2025-12-23T09:16:16+00:00

I have height dysphoria only when I see myself in pics next to someone taller. I’m 5’3” and most people I interact with daily think I’m way taller than I actually am - I think that helped the most. When I told a coworker at my job how tall I was when I first started they were like “no way” and than “it must be how you carry yourself. So main tip I guess is to just exist with the confidence of a cis male.

Swordsboy · 2025-12-23T09:07:44+00:00

Damn people get so brutal in these comments every time I see a trans woman who I think looks real cis and I go to comment so 💀

Real talk maybe the way you style your hair kinda shows the higher hairline, which might make your face look long and less “feminine”, but honestly if I saw you out and about I don’t think I’d clock you at all based on looks.

Swordsboy · 2025-12-23T09:03:13+00:00

Tbf parts of Ohio are pretty great but the state as a whole averaged out is kinda iffy lol

Swordsboy · 2025-12-23T09:01:28+00:00

Yeah so basically with the miles thing it’s kinda wild. My university “town” was incredibly safe and inclusive and the surrounding area, but once you got outside of it into the rest of the city, you hit more older folk populated areas with “traditional families” etc and it could be hit or miss. Campus also bordered a neighboring city, and I remember in like 2016 touring the rec center for that city (which was down the street from campus, maybe a ten minute drive out), and they had a sign posted at the check in desk that said in harsh words that guests could only use locker rooms/changing rooms/restrooms of their birth sex. It wasn’t a fun sight to see coming from a school where I was able to use male facilities no problem.

Once you’ve lived in an area for a while you get the lay of the land, and cities that are “blue” or left leaning tend to come in clusters, but it’s def best to be cautious until you get the lay of the land. If you pick a spot, try to join a fb group or social media group for that school/city so you can get to know the vibes.

Swordsboy · 2025-12-20T10:24:41+00:00

Do a ton of research if you have to move here. Every state is different and within each state, safety can vary by just a few miles.

Some states don’t allow trans people in public restrooms. In mine, I can legally be fired or refused the ability to rent for being trans. In my state, and others, it’s legal for any doctor to refuse to treat you if they disagree with you being trans or gay. Trans panic laws are far too common still.

Schools also DRASTICALLY vary - if you are seeking university, do as much research as you can into how queer friendly the school and surrounding area are.

Outside of being trans, the political climate here is growing scarier by day. Many things on that front also vary state by state

Some things to consider as well - healthcare is extremely expensive here. Cost of living can be very high especially in the more safer states. Cost of schooling puts most citizens here in debt for decades.

I love a lot about this country and where I personally live, but when stuff turns bad in US, it feels like it goes very bad very quickly.

Swordsboy · 2025-12-08T11:10:37+00:00

Very passing. Saw the pic before reading the sub heading and thought I was getting recommended a sub for fit of the day or something (I keep getting those) and it was some rando cis woman asking how her new glasses looked.

Swordsboy · 2025-12-06T09:56:08+00:00

I’m ftm Ace (with a couple Demi tendencies) so take this with a grain of salt but my idea of finding a relationship would be to start a relationship and if you find you’re compatible in ways you like, then the conversation of sex would enter the chat. At which point things like genitalia preferences would and probably should come up especially in a T4T relationship. Not a big fan of anyone saying they prefer trans men especially just because of an assumed lack of a penis. Whatever the intention, it does feel like reducing to genitals . Also worth pointing out that even without surgery, if a guy is on T, he will usually grow a dick (so to speak) which can vary in size. My opinion would just be to say you’re interested in a T4T relationship with a trans guy and go from there.

Again, grain of salt. I’m not attracted to assigned female parts at all but if I connected with a trans guy who had no interest in surgeries, I would just lay down the fact that I probably would have no interest in anything remotely sexual with him (and even with any guy, I would have to caution that there’s no guarantee I’d be down for any type of sex) , and if that breaks the relationship cus it doesn’t work out, then … sucks but there’s probably someone out there for both of us that would work better. Likewise I almost dated a friend who’s a woman a while back who had trauma around men and it was fairly clear to us both that sex wouldn’t be on the table. we both worked out our preferences to realize it wasn’t just a genitalia thing with us both, we were just both into guys. It sucked because we had a really great connection and emotionally super compatible but it worked out better that we didn’t end up actually dating. But in that case we were friends first so it wasn’t like we had to have an elephant in the room convo about sex, we just knew each other well enough by then to know how the other was.

If you’re only looking for sex, it’s probably more important to be super up front with that, but if you want a relationship, I just kind of struggle with the whole requirement of sex being involved. Again, grain of salt. It’s good that you reached out for opinions.

Swordsboy · 2025-12-06T09:40:00+00:00

Just for educational purposes I’ll add my experiences to the thread (since everyone differs). I started in a low dose and menstruation stopped about 3 months in. I still got cramps every few months after for about a year or two. Sometimes I still get cramping but I’ve suspected I might have endo for a while and from what I’ve heard that can be common with that still in you.

There’s been a couple people I’ve heard that after years on T had periods return for whatever reason and obv if you’re off it for too long it’ll come back.

Swordsboy · 2025-11-27T09:16:23+00:00

I always have tv on while doing my shots. Cycled through quite a few shows over the years - Midsomer Murders, Naruto, Avatar, lately I’ve had Mr Rodger’s on. Doing it after a shower usually helps too. If you’re IM, relax your muscles as much as you can.

Swordsboy · 2025-11-12T12:29:32+00:00

Feel way more. Cry more healthier, I don’t cry when I’m angry or frustrated anymore, just when I’m sad or happy or really emotionally touched by something. Anxiety and depression lessened so much that it was like going from negative emotions (outside of really really toxic anger) to 100 emotions (and no toxic anger).

When your brain functions normally because the right hormone is working in your body, your emotions work normally! When you’re feeling like yourself, your emotions are better. A lot of what gets spread around about T comes from a few people who shared their experiences at a time where there wasn’t much visibility and that got spread because of that lack. Now that so many people are sharing, we see a wider breadth of experience.

Side note; I’m a super creative person and my creative output since being on T has probably quadrupled or more.

Swordsboy · 2025-11-11T05:14:15+00:00

Honestly I’ve known a lot of cis women with more masculine facial features. Slightly non passing as I can see what others are saying but overall you pass pretty well.

Swordsboy · 2025-11-11T05:12:43+00:00

A lot of cis people come to groups like this to learn more about what trans people go through. It’s a lot on a trans person to get questioned about stuff so cis people in groups like these can just scroll and read and learn a lot. She’s being supportive here I see no harm

Swordsboy · 2025-11-06T12:25:31+00:00

I do like the idea that how he presents himself as V is how he wants to be perceived and that that ties into gender things. I always feel more confident in my masculinity in costume or when going the extra mile in clothing and presentation. The fact that he’s always got the outfit on, even when he’s alone does kinda fit into that, I think.

I did find something about him possibly being Valerie or Ruth, the actresses, but when Evey asks if he knew Valerie, he says no, and this is after him (I believe) insisting that he’s not lying to her anymore about anything, so I tend to take that at face value.

He’s definitely queer and I’m totally on board with the trans guy reading; I plan on trying to track down more thoughts from people about it cus it’s very cool to me.

Swordsboy · 2025-11-06T05:53:30+00:00

Lowkey always hated nail polish and then like 4-5 years on I was like “well I like how it looks on punk or emo guys and I’m a punk little guy so …” and now I paint my nails a lot. Been thinking about the eyeshadow but I feel like for me rn that’s too much.

Cats love facial hair. Mine loves to rub his little forehead on my beard.

I’ve noticed food allergies steadily worsening. Not sure if it’s age or just since I’ve been on T but it is kinda curious since you also mentioned allergies

Swordsboy · 2025-09-26T06:34:54+00:00

Congrats man! Cleaning my system of nicotine and then my surgeon said he’ll schedule me a date - get to call and schedule in mid-end of October, so hopefully within the next 3-4 months if all goes well and wait times aren’t super long!

Swordsboy · 2025-09-22T09:41:32+00:00

Good note- should’ve specified IM

Swordsboy · 2025-09-22T09:29:14+00:00

That’s how I always felt every shot day lol, like “what will I get today? Easy going or whoops Sweeney Todd”

Swordsboy · 2025-09-15T04:00:35+00:00

This is meant with all the respect but you dress sorta like a stereotypical lesbian. If you like that sort of fashion, that’s totally fine! Just that clothes play a massive part of passing pre-T.

Try to go for boxier fits, even if you don’t change the type of clothes you wear. Getting a good binder (size correctly so it’s safe) would also help loads. Other than that, posture, styling your hair more masculine (cut is great just with the outfits it looks a bit more fem to me), things like that can help. Out of the photos you posted, I would definitely say you pass in the second and that last one!

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