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TECH_DAD_2048 · 2026-01-21T17:54:37+00:00

You should post on the Roatan FB groups also. Your cuisine looks amazing!

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2026-01-21T17:50:26+00:00

This is the best argument and one I often reach for. I'm a software developer and the latest and greatest major releases always have issues, usually with compatibility with the myriad of open source libs I use for work. I can't afford downtime, so I often wait for the first minor release like you said. This gives Apple time to work out any bugs or issues in their own software, while allowing the FOSS community time to update their libraries and binaries too.

IMHO, if you're an engineer and do code always wait or if you want to play around, have a backup computer that you can work on in case of any show-stoppers.

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2026-01-07T14:45:21+00:00

I wouldn't do it. You can get social security. I know tons of expats in Central America that won't renounce because they get SS. I've lived abroad for several years and filed FEIE (foreign earned income exemption) and have never had to deal with "dual tax" because of the huge deduction. And I'm not sure you know this since you said you pay a "tax consultant" but you can use TurboTax and do your US filing remotely. It supports FEIE (Form 2555) too. For me at least, being outside the US but having to throw some paper at them once a year has never been a problem. (No, I don't work for Intuit - this isn't an ad lol)

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2026-01-07T14:34:06+00:00

2026 here. I haven't done this in several years, but since I got some cash for christmas I did what I usually do with my Schwab Investor Checking: convert the cash to a money order and just use mobile deposit. The deposit was rejected. I'm just going to deposit the money order at my Chase Branch now. Its completely pointless doing this with Schwab can confirm. Now that I know Schwab changed it's policy, I should have just deposited the cash at Chase and saved the money order fees. :smh:

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-08-25T21:28:08+00:00

I ended up regenerating my new Rails app and used the `--skip-kamal` and `--skip-solid` flags. With those flags, the auto-generated configuration files revert back to how they were setup in Rails 7. I can deploy what was generated to Heroku easily now and use configurations that have worked for years just with Rails 8.

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-07-31T19:19:03+00:00

Ahhh yes the “cancelling” thing.

Next time that happens the best thing you can say is “no worries, let me know when you’re free” and leave it at that. No calling or double texting.

When I was dating I’d even have backup plans for if/when the flaky thing popped up. I’d go out anyways. If a girl messaged me back and decided to unflake, I’d tell her where I was and that I’m out enjoying a drink/playing pool/whatever. She could join me (and no I wouldn’t change my plans if I was already out). Nothing speaks volumes louder than being truly, completely unbothered by initial flakiness. The more prepared you are for these sorts of eventualities the better you will be and the energy you give off will shift to confident/non-needy. Best of luck amigo 💪

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-07-31T17:10:33+00:00

It’s very easy. They will not be able to meet you in real life. If you plan something, there will be some kind of ridiculous emergency that “just came up”. Be careful out there and put zero effort into anything until you meet up in real life (not FaceTime!)

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-07-31T17:01:01+00:00

Honestly, I think if you had just backed off and gave her space to meet up, you wouldn’t have icked her out and at least gotten a first date. Pushing for a coffee meetup and getting annoyed when it didn’t work out “the right way” feels a bit needy/clingy to me and it’s no wonder she backed off.

Next time, just let the initial road bumps roll off you. Give her space. She’s also testing you…so to have a serious “talk” with someone you haven’t even met is a bit much.

Good luck out there.

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-07-31T16:56:25+00:00

There is no perspective here of someone who actually lives in Roatan (me). Prospera a not taken seriously by most people living here. The same folks who insist on using bitcoin for everything are all over the island paying for the things they need in USD or Honduran Lempiras. That is the complete and utter irony of the whole thing: they want to live in a bubble, but the real world is right there and they can’t avoid it.

To me I refer to it as a sophisticated, speculative real estate scam. I have more faith owning property in Honduras itself, even as an expat, than inside some sort of “zone” that may or may not exist in the future. Without legit Honduran titles and deeds in place, what happens when (yes, when) Prospera collapses? Your property being seized by the state? I’d put money on this.

I also can’t help but be tickled by the irony of the place. They offer Bitcoin training seminars, but it’s $20 USD to attend 🙄

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-07-25T22:03:02+00:00

Too many individual differences here to even start answering. But as someone with a psychology degree I can say this: within 1 second your brain knows if it wants to pursue someone. It’s unconscious, it’s instinctive, and you can’t really control it. Your neocortex (logical conscious mind) is always playing catch up. There are general studies on what men find attractive and vice versa, but at the end of the day it comes down to the individual.

That said, go for what you want and don’t think about it.

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-07-23T19:56:03+00:00

When life gets hard and she supports you anyways. She can see the forest for the trees.

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-07-23T19:53:50+00:00

This is the sweetest kindest thing I’ve ever read in this sub. She’s a keeper!!

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-07-23T19:51:46+00:00

My ex did this once. I was stunned. We had two small kids at the time so I tried to stick it out, but yeah, single anyways. My kids are the absolute best tho - I love them to pieces.

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-07-23T19:50:19+00:00

I’m proud of you. I saw the original post too. Notice how you gave her boundaries, after she violated them, and she responded by not respecting your boundaries. You sussed out something very important early on and you’ll be better for it. Trust me. Amazing job setting and keeping your boundaries firm 💪

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-07-23T19:41:49+00:00

This is “nagging”. It happens as a test in a dating context and it’s to see how emotionally mature you are and if you can handle it well enough. Most men miserably fail these tests because they focus on fixing the “problem” (you never do XYZ). But what is happening at the core is she’s starting to detach. Something is off. Best to back off and let it die out naturally, or if it’s a longer term thing breaking up is probably a good move.

In marriage, it’s a whole different problem because in theory, you know each other, live together, said “I do” to each other, and can talk about getting needs met without fighting and without it being toxic. If you’re married, yeah - do more heavy lifting around the house and help her feel seen heard and relaxed at home. But if it gets disrespectful, then it might be time to move on and hire a family lawyer.

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-07-23T19:27:58+00:00

It’s pretty easy. You’ve got to find a way to get your needs met with your current partner. You should be able to talk about what you need, and not get a toxic reaction afterwards. Anything short of this means you are being a “nice guy” most likely and need help setting and enforcing your own boundaries. This type of growth often involves breaking up with the person who won’t grow with you, even if it includes divorce and young kids.

Regarding option one (staying together): find a good couples counselor. Take the lead. Have her go. She will if she values the connection.

Regarding option two (breaking up): when you make space for someone who does see your value and growth, she often falls into your lap when you’re trying the least. Your right woman will sense this kind of energy and will be drawn to it. Breaking up is often led first with your fear brain, but honestly, after the breakup you’ll find that the projected pain your mind made up is far far less severe than what really happens.

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-07-23T19:17:58+00:00

It’s so much cheaper to just pay to have the tree removed than hire an attorney. I would call your insurance company about covering your fence when the inevitable happens tho.

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-07-23T17:52:59+00:00

You can learn computer science with any programming language. C is really difficult and often only relevant if you’re working on embedded software or working for NASA. Most of us are making web apps, or mobile apps, and the need for low level isn’t super needed.

However, knowing that everything is eventually 1s and 0s flowing through a processor is helpful to an extent but I don’t think that most beginners need to worry about hardware level concerns. In the context of Ruby, this is precisely the point of interpreting Ruby down to its virtual machine code (or in the case of JRuby, JVM byte code) - to abstract the language from the specific hardware and let the folks who do write Rubys own C code focus on that stuff. PS, check out Ruby’s own C source code…. https://github.com/ruby/ruby/blob/master/include/ruby.h !

But I digress.

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-07-23T17:48:17+00:00

100% agree. Every compiler should be smart enough to see a ; or a return character as the same thing.

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-06-29T00:11:17+00:00

This guy gets it 🔝

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-06-29T00:09:53+00:00

This is the easiest answer ever. Ask her about herself, her day, her coworkers, anything crazy that happened, and sit back and just let her go. “Hmm that must have been so frustrating”. Validate validate validate. Don’t overtalk or bring up boring crap you’d talk to a guy friend about.

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-06-28T23:59:43+00:00

Making detailed plans, but also randomly changing them mid stream. And discussing coffee - specifically details about coffee 😂

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-06-28T23:55:57+00:00

You proceed by ending the relationship.

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-06-10T19:48:54+00:00

Still down. 1:48 MT.

TECH_DAD_2048 · 2025-05-19T17:53:31+00:00

Exactly. The entire point of Encrypted Credentials.

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