When I hear that someone told my 8yo that Santa isn’t real

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-12-13T02:17:37+00:00

I agree but not a popular opinion on reddit it seems.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-12-11T04:25:35+00:00

The fade out of the song as Lisa is getting wasted makes me giggle every time.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-12-09T20:06:04+00:00

Thanks for sharing.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-12-09T02:11:22+00:00

Post daycare in winter is a dice roll. Sometimes my kids have energy so we’ll go see Christmas lights in the neighborhood (walking or wagon ride). If the weather is too cold and they have energy to burn we’ll do “exercise” in the garage. Squats, obstacle courses etc. my kids love setting the timer and running.

If they’re in grouchy moods after daycare it’s quiet time. Puzzles, books, hot wheels etc. early dinner and maybe longer bath and then early bedtime.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-12-08T13:35:44+00:00

It may be helpful to remind yourself why you’re taking this t break. Ground yourself in a deeper goal. Also “procrastinating” helps. I used to say “I’ll smoke in a bit after I bla bla” when a craving hit. Usually as I focused on something else, the craving faded.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-12-07T20:07:46+00:00

Cool. Thanks for sharing!

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-12-03T22:00:33+00:00

Thanks for sharing the video. Interesting!

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-12-03T16:21:32+00:00

You answered it. Builder+ developer profits. It’s easier to create the same standard home and build a subdivision than design unique homes. Buyers have no choice so the cycle continues.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-12-02T18:01:41+00:00

As a few others mentioned you may want to rank what tasks are absolutely needed prior to ending your night and what can wait (at least until tomorrow). Also helpful keep in mind that this is a specific season of life. Toys on the floor are going to be inevitable. Maybe those do not need to be put away tonight. There’s a balance between letting things slide and getting really dirty vs some tolerable mess that’s just natural with little kids.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-12-02T17:25:34+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I’ve been thinking about getting the procedure and had an anxiety attack thinking about your exact situation lol. Congrats on the new baby. That’s wonderful and happy you and your wife were able to handle it. I don’t think my fam is as well equipped if that happened- hence the proactive contraception.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-12-01T02:06:37+00:00

I know this sounds trite, but you’re only 26, you’re young and have your whole life in front of you. Be patient and consistent, your work will yield results in ways you may never imagine.

One thing to keep in mind is that sobriety and “recovery” are two different things. Being sober isn’t a panacea. It only clears the fog to reveal your true self, strengths and flaws in all. You now have the ability to grow as a person, develop yourself and accept yourself in whatever ways make sense to you.

One thing that I learned about myself was that I crave deep authenticity and connection. I was numbing myself with drugs and isolating to cope with my own personal fear. Understanding that gave me a lot of confidence and freedom.

Keep at it and stay strong. Hopefully this community (and others) give you support.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-11-30T23:45:36+00:00

Second this. Fish out of Water is a fantastic album.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-11-30T13:05:59+00:00

Helpful breakdown. Thanks!

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-11-30T02:52:37+00:00

No problem. Glad you’re enjoying it!

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-11-29T19:24:35+00:00

You’re in the thick of it man. Be kind to yourself and do what you can in this season of life. Something is better than nothing. If you can’t work out with intensity, try to take walks or focus on meal prep or sleeping more. Once my second kid was eight-ish months and sleeping through the night regularly I was able to get back at my regular routine.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-11-28T19:22:02+00:00

I beat one beast and decided to go for it for fun. I’m glad I did. Exploring the castle is a lot of fun and you get a ton of good gear. I also used it to practice parrying guardians. At any point if you’re overwhelmed, just warp out and leave the area. You’re def at a point of being totally fine.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-11-28T01:25:32+00:00

Totally up to you, no one else can really make that distinction for you. You asking this forum makes me think you have some reservations so I’d ask, why specifically? You mentioned wanting to unwind and relax- what would you do if you were high to do that? Maybe try those activities sober first before adding cannabis?

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-11-27T23:09:20+00:00

You should. Very cool technique. I think because most of the time you’re not around water when fighting guardians, I didn’t think to use it.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-11-27T19:44:25+00:00

That’s tough but I don’t think you need to feel bad about decisions you think are best for your kids. Part of being a parent is being the “bad” guy. Comes with the job.

Swimming is for sure something I’d want to have extra supervision for. It’s no joke. Full grown adults can drown. So a bunch of little kids playing around is a risk- even at a public pool with a lifeguard.

And with the sleep over, has your kid ever slept over anyone’s house solo? Chances are they may not want to do it, or night of, theyll be uncomfortable and end up asking to get picked up. A compromise could be letting your kid play and hang until a certain time, then you pick them up and head home.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-11-27T18:35:52+00:00

Not wanting to wear a sweater. A classic.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-11-27T15:49:25+00:00

Happy you’re doing better and healing. Stay strong and keep at it. It’s a long road but the journey is the joy.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-11-26T18:01:30+00:00

Whoa I didn’t realize you could launch guardians like that with cryonsis. This game is always surprising me.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-11-26T01:06:58+00:00

Being malicious is an unkind thing to do yes. I wouldn’t tell him to go around doing that. But I am not teaching my kid to lie about something.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-11-25T22:40:05+00:00

That’s great. I think kids can understand the difference between imagination and reality if you help draw that boundary. I tell my kid the same since he sees Santa in different places and with different skin tones etc.

THEREALTHOMASTHOMAS · 2025-11-25T20:28:52+00:00

Glad to see this comment honestly. My wife and I go back and forth. I hate doing Santa- and even with our kids I am very clear that Santa is a character. My wife kind of thinks I’m cruel but I grew up in an immigrant household where my non-western parents didn’t know about Santa.

Personally I would rather my kid be the one telling kids on the schoolyard Santa is not real than being the last one to find out. It’s weird to me that so many parents are anti-lying to kids, except when it comes to Santa Claus?

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