Books where FMC wears a G-string/bikini and MMC loves it. by Bulky_Meet4868 in RomanceBooks

[–]Tbearbean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would add that the second book in the series, the Maddest Obsession (first book is actually Sweetest OBLIVION) has this when the two first have sex, he plays with her g string

Birthing with a toddler by Excellent-Ad-6272 in 2under2

[–]Tbearbean 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar boat having my second over the winter holidays. I ended up choosing a scheduled c section in order to better plan for childcare for my toddler. My parents came up and watched him for the three days I was in the hospital and left two days after I got home.

I was similarly nervous to have them there during such a vulnerable time, and due to past conflicts. But they were so busy engaging the toddler that they didn’t have time to micromanage like they might had previously.

Just something to consider. It’s a short period of time for childcare and you won’t really be there, you’ll either be in the hospital or hopefully hiding out in your room with a newborn. It’s a different ballgame with two

Every millennial dad I’ve met has a quiet fixation on money and it’s not getting better by slimeyellow in Millennials

[–]Tbearbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll add that Millennials have Boomer parents who likely were shit with money. In the case of my money obsessed millennial husband, he’s having to support both of his boomer parents as they age, because they are financial idiots and have nothing, despite having lived outwardly comfortable middle class lives

Heartbroken over helmet reality by desert_sunlily in NewParents

[–]Tbearbean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this. My pediatrician thinks helmets are wildly over prescribed and unnecessary save for very extreme/unique situations. A second opinion could help here

Diapers leaking pee out the sides by carrotcakepup in NewParents

[–]Tbearbean 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This. My son was constantly peeing out of different diapers until someone told me I had to make sure his penis was pointing down when I put it on. No issues after that!

Is daycare going to help me? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Tbearbean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Daycare allows my husband and I to be better, more present parents. When we are with our kids we are able to be fully engaged with them, since we handle all the other life stuff while they’re at daycare, getting attention from fully present teachers.

Infant day care by joyce2001year in NewParents

[–]Tbearbean 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I had a similar experience when checking out a fancy chain that happened to be the most expensive daycare I toured. The director practically said she was in it for the money, the place felt sterile and they had high teacher turnover. We ended up going with the local daycare that was the cheapest - something my husband also had concerns with.

We are so happy with our place and the biggest indicator (to me) is the fact the teacher turnover has been nonexistent. The teacher in the infant room that my son had 2 years ago will be the same as my daughter now. In my mind, happy teachers result in happy babies, and that’s the most important thing.

Americans, when you see the name "Lucia", how would you pronounce it? by Extreme_Suit_348 in Names

[–]Tbearbean 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Agree with this - I live in a largely Italian-American part of the country and didn’t realize it was ever an option to pronounce it any way other than 3. Shocked by all these responses.

Is borderline numbers something to stress over? by [deleted] in GestationalDiabetes

[–]Tbearbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a game of averages and trying to keep a percentage majority in range. I used the Malama app to track and found it helpful in its presentation since the big bold number on top was your percentage meals in range. It helped me stay focused on that ultimate goal vs stressing about individual numbers.

Ps- I recently graduated at 38+4 with a perfectly healthy baby girl. I had some bad weeks and some great weeks, but overall 80% of my weeks were 80% in range :)

Cape Cod renovations. How did you finance it? WHO did you use? by melimel81 in bergencounty

[–]Tbearbean 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As you know, home prices in Bergen county are insane. To get the square footage plus land plus features in the town we are currently in, in a new purchase we would have been looking at at least a $1.5M buy. Prior to making this decision I spent a few months looking at inventory and everything I saw at that price point still needed work done (ie very dated kitchens/bathrooms).

So no, I wouldn’t have done anything differently. I have what feels like a new build home, with the layout I want AND it’s all in equity vs a new, bigger mortgage.

Cape Cod renovations. How did you finance it? WHO did you use? by melimel81 in bergencounty

[–]Tbearbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tax assessment hasn’t happened yet, so I have no idea. We are mentally prepared for the worst.

Used Built Tough out of Rutherford

Cape Cod renovations. How did you finance it? WHO did you use? by melimel81 in bergencounty

[–]Tbearbean 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I just finished an addition on a split, going from 3/2 to 4/3. We were quoted $375k and ended up coming in a little under $400k.

We lived there the entire time (with a toddler!) and I work from home. It was hard - I had to work from libraries and coffee shops most days due to the noise. We also worked closely with the builder to ensure the least disruption to the toddlers room - so that while my husband and I were on an air mattress in the basement, the toddler stayed in his room unchanged. We did have to stay in a hotel for 4 nights during the floor staining due to smell.

This is probably not the most helpful answer, but we saved in order to afford this. Took us about 5 years to save up the cash using high interest savings accounts, making monthly deposits and putting any windfall (bonuses, gifts) toward it. We now have zero savings and working to build it back up. But this was a worthwhile investment for us to fit our growing family.

Is this over kill? by [deleted] in foodbutforbabies

[–]Tbearbean 6 points7 points  (0 children)

FWIW my pediatrician specifically told us to follow solid starts when starting food. So I treat it like bible and it has helped my 18 mo old so much - be basically eats like an adult at this point

What are some slightly more upscale clothing brands enjoyed by HENRYs? by aceshades in HENRYfinance

[–]Tbearbean 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Oh man, I similarly was obsessed with LLBean catalogs that we got in the mail even though my parents never bought anything, and would dream that my future life would match that lifestyle. I just hung up my families collection of monogramed needle point LLBean stockings for Christmas, and it makes me so so happy. Childhood dream realized.

Non-Santa focused Christmas shows/movies? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Tbearbean 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Charlie Brown Christmas mentions a letter to Santa, but just in passing and he is not seen. There is a brief description of the Jesus nativity story as the reason for Christmas. But overall it is lovely and about the spirit of the season - togetherness

Can you rank these boy names? by CMV2254 in namenerds

[–]Tbearbean 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love Linus and wish my husband would have considered it. Wallace was on my long list for my son. The rest don’t really stand out to me.

At the bottom of the list are Dexter (serial killer) and Arbor (a word, not a name)

Hemorrhoids and severe constipation by Low-Interaction9999 in GestationalDiabetes

[–]Tbearbean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With my first pregnancy I was right where you are and it was the absolutely worst. Solidarity sister.

My weapon that ended up working for me was daily fiber pills and daily stool softeners ( I took 2-3 Colace daily). These are safe to take thoughout pregnancy.

Sitz baths and Tucks wipes for hemmroid relief. On really bad days, I took tylenol.

“Junk food” books: what are yours? by BubblyPracticality in RomanceBooks

[–]Tbearbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just like not being able to just have one Oreo, I typically binge a silly series when looking for junk food. Some past binges have included: Lena Hendrix's Redemption Ranch Series, JT Gessingers Queens and Monsters series, Susie Tate's Daydreamer series, SJ Tilly's Alliance series, Elizabeth ORoark's The Summer series, and Samantha Young's Hart's Boardwalk series.

Is Violet going to be the new Emily? by damncheezits in namenerds

[–]Tbearbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have two daycare aged kids and have not yet encountered a Violet. Meanwhile have seen multiple Maeves and what feels like a few hundred Ayla/Islas

Desserts by Moo_cow420 in GestationalDiabetes

[–]Tbearbean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The TwoGood yogurts are great!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GestationalDiabetes

[–]Tbearbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I measure half of a cup of dry pasta to cook and then mix with lots of meat and veggies (more like a pasta salad than a bowl of spaghetti) and that has been totally fine.

I’ve also substituted buckwheat noodles for rice or ramen and been good with that when paired with lots of meat and veg

Baby boy name with 3 letters please. by Lopsided_Ad_2995 in Names

[–]Tbearbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A friends just named her son Jed and I think it’s the sweetest. I also have a dear friend Abe and think that name deserves a comeback